Whom have you told?

[daceysmomma]

about this pregnancy?

Both "in real life" and online?

[daceysmomma]

online - here (obviously) and another (private) mommy board I am on

IRL - my sister and my neighbor

DH wants to wait a while to tell anyone else, but I am bursting at the seams to spread the news!

[beckyphry]

My parents and sister immediately, because they were aware that I just miscarried in October so I figured it couldn't hurt to tell them right away.

2 other message boards -- one TTC/Preg related and one not.

3 of my close friends and 2 of my female cousins who just emailed me -- one of whom I had mentioned the miscarriage to, so when she asked how I was feeling, I told them both but swore them to secrecy. We're not planning on telling anyone else until we see the heartbeat.

I won't tell work until at least 12 weeks, maybe later if I don't start showing by then.

[greenmagick]

Pretty much everyone. I debated but in the end realized I cant keep my mouth shut!

[rach03]

Just my mom and the people on another non-pregnancy message board I frequent.

Last time I told everyone at 6 weeks because it was Christmas and we gave out cigars. I want to wait until early Feb this time so I can send out a funny card with DS in a big brother shirt and the ultrasound pic.

[goosysmom]

Online: here and my first time mama's board from when I was pg with dd (there are still about 20 of us who chat daily or when we can online....some are VERY mainstream and some meet in the middle...nice mix....)

IRL: DP (lol) and my best friend of 25 years (ok, that made me feel old and I"m only 31)....

We are waiting to tell others until we have the ultrasound and everything else...

[DylBear]

Well the father *cough*cough* sperm donor knows, not that he cares. My father and mother both know. Along with my sister, and my bestfriend Danni. Other than that Im letting the trickle down system take care of it. You know one person tells another and so on...

[cbmr777]

Online: here, the gals at TBW, and at a private momma board I am on as well as a natural parenting yahoo group that I am on.

IRL: only my neighbor across the street (a LLL Leader)

My DH is out of the country still so he has no idea!

[sophiekat]

dh irl. online its on my blog, so whoever reads that and then here and another board i'm on.

[naturegirl]

Let's see...

daddy
my naturopath
my acupuncturist
my massage therapist
my son's naturopath
my friend Sheri (lives far away from me. )
my mom
my older sister
my cleaning lady
all ladies here since it is in my siggy...
and that also means all the ladies from mothering that I meet up with irl. (since they saw my siggy...)
BUT NOT (HELL NO!) MY MIL!!! She is insanely unsupportive if anything ever goes wrong. I don't dare tell her until I know I won't need her support aka, things are looking very good.

[sanguine_speed]

Everyone! Except DP's family LOL. That's only because they live all over the place and we will all be in one place the third weekend in feb. It will be nice to tell them all in person, at 12 weeks. The only trouble is that one of the family sets lives in town and will see us at 9 weeks--I'm not sure I'll be doing a good job hiding it come then based on my belly now. But, I'll do my best.
Oh, we did tell DP's parents; no one else in his family.

[gizzyntaz]

Online I have told everybody except for people I know IRL (that I also know online). That's my outlet.

IRL - DH (of course), DS (though we aren't dwelling on it because it's too far away), my friend who knew we were trying and her family, and another friend who is due the day before me, because I didn't want her to think I was keeping a secret, or make it weird...

My playgroup moms know that we are trying, so I'm not sure what I am going to say if they outright ask me (plus those two friends that know are in playgroup). Anyone have a good, not-specifically lying response if someone asks you outright?

I want to wait to tell the rest of the people locally until after my first appt. next month. Then we'll wait until after we hear the heartbeat (the following month) to tell our relatives (they all live far away).

[AugustLia23]

We've told pretty much everybody. I can't keep my mouth shut. We haven't told any family though, and don't really want to for a while. They have all the stupid comments. But most of our friends know already, at not yet 5 weeks.

[nankilicious]

I am telling everyone

I have 3 friends that all had dream predictions of this baby being born, so I figure with that many good omens, the baby will stick.

eta: they all had their dreams before I told them I was even pregnant!

[flapjack]

Online, pretty much everyone. We moved to look after my FIL, who has been in hospital for over a year and is due to be discharged in two months time, and we're scared to tell him in case he starts worrying again and makes himself ill, so IRL we haven't told any of the family yet. MDC is keeping me sane

[mandy13]

DH (of course), my mom, my sister and my cousin. We will wait to tell everyone else when we are past 12 weeks.

I had a miscarriage @ 9weeks before I had my youngest son...and it was hard breaking the news to everyone. So we thought it would be best to wait.

[daceysmomma]

Originally Posted by gizzyntaz

Anyone have a good, not-specifically lying response if someone asks you outright?

That's a good question! Could you get away with something like "We'll see! We are keeping our fingers crossed!" I don't know how long that will hold them off, so it depends on when you were planning to tell them . . .

[bhawkins]

We've told nearly everyone that we want to tell personally. As a PP said, others can get filled in through the grapevine.

[lactivist]

I have told my close friends and obviously dh knows. Online I have told most everyone. I was going to keep it close but realized if I do miscarry I will need support and I am also just so happy I want to share. We haven't told our families and don't plan to for quite a while. Last night I sent the toddler in to the other kids with a note that said "I am going to be a big brother!" My teenaged daughter came out with her mouth open and a wondering look. Then my 9yo read the note and everyone got really excited. It was such a fun way to tell them. I should have videotaped it.
Wendi

[mommajb]

I have told dh and anybody here but nobody else IRL. It is killing me. I really want to wait a few more weeks but... We had our LLL meeting this morning and I am bursting at the seams with the news. Because we do not truly want to spread the news yet we are not telling our children and that is tough. Also, I feel like I am lying by not telling my mother.

I thought about putting my youngest in a big sister t-shirt but then decided everyone would just think it was a hand-me down that I was putting to good use. That and I would have to go out and buy one.

I would love more non-lying answers that do not spill the beans. Thank you for the one. How about "We'll let you know..." delivered with a smile.