Past miscarriage support thread

[debra_lea]

Hi Mommas,

As I mentioned in my intro thread, I had a miscarriage a few months ago for my second pregnancy. It was a suprise, disappointment and a huge learning curve for me. I didn't know they were so very common, and...well... I didn't know much of anything about miscarraige at the time. It seems like such a hush hush topic that no one discusses.

I am so VERY happy to be pregnant again. It took a while for my body to get pregnant (#2) after bfing my DS for his first 2 years. It only took me one cycle to get pregnant this 3rd time after the miscarriage. And while I am optimistic that everything will be fine this time, I am still a bit nervous. I am only about 5 weeks, but I almost wish I were exhausted or puking like I was with my son so that I would know everything is fine. Instead I keep poking at my very sore boobs to feel somewhat reassured.

Anyway, I started this thread to see if any of you other ladies have similar fears and would be interested in supporting one another. I can't wait to get through to the second trimester!

[beckyphry]

I miscarried in October at around 5 weeks. The miscarriage took a full 2 weeks to complete (like, the products of conception finally came out... so really I was 7 weeks). It was my first pregnancy, we got pregnant on our first try, and I was terrified the whole time. The month after my miscarriage 2 co-workers announced their pregnancies... due the same month I was. It was hard.

This time around my doctor's office did early bloodwork -- I know my hcg and progesterone levels are good and I'm less nervous because of that, especially since I don't have many symptoms. Debra, have you thought about going for bloodwork? It did my psyche wonders!

[jmhammond]

I m/c in September @ 14 weeks. She died @ 8, but my body didn't respond. I had spotting all throughout the pregnancy.

I'm very scared, nervous, happy, sad, excited, relieved, anxious, etc. all at the same time! I'm glad to be here with you ladies!

[naturegirl]

First of all to you all. I also experienced a m/c with my first pregnancy before ds. I also was in a state of shock as I never thought that would happen to me! ds pregnancy was sketchy with bleeding, cramping, clotting up to 13 weeks. Thank goodness things turned out great with him!

Unfortunately this time I have NO symptoms so I am especially nervous. No sore boobs (still breastfeeding), no significant nausea, not especially tired (at least not more than I already was with a breastfeeding, co-sleeping toddler.) On the positive side, I haven't had any spotting and only minor cramping (normal I think) so hopefully it will just be a nice, breezy pregnancy.

I am, today, waiting for the results of my second hcg and prog. levels. I am taking 100 mg of prog. Why hasn't she called yet!?! :

[debra_lea]

My midwife didn't seem to think it was neccessary to do the bloodwork. I am going to go for an ultrasound at 7 weeks, or around there.

My first pregnancy was totally normal, and I was on Clomid with my second. Probably a mistake. I waited for 5 months after breastfeeding to start having a normal cycle and I got impatient (patience is not one of my virtues). So, I opted to go on Clomid to get ovulating. Now, after the whole experience, I learn that there is an increased risk of miscarriage while you are on Clomid. Wish someone would have shared that with me before I used it!

I had an ultrasound and heard the baby's heartbeat at 61/2 weeks. Everything was fine. I started spotting at around 11 weeks, and when they did an ultrasound there was nothing left, just the sac. So, the baby died sometime inbetween. I knew though. The entire pregnancy I knew something wasn't right. I wasn't the slighest bit nervous with my first pregnancy, but with the second I kept telling people something didn't seem right. When they dated the size of the baby in the ultrasound it was WAY off. I didn't have symptoms past 7 weeks. I kept expressing my concerns and I was brushed off.

Part of me is obviously a little nervous with this pregnancy, because of that experience, but I guess I also feel pretty confident that everything will be fine. There is a really low chance of a repeat miscarriage, according to the statistics. Statistics make me feel better:-) I'm glad a few of you wrote though, I think talking about it and with others helps.

[lactivist]

I have had several m/c's throughout the years. I had two m/c's the year before I conceived my 22 mo. One was so rough. I had panick attacks all through the first trimester of his pregnancy. It was so stressful. This pregnancy is somewhat of a surprise and although I am little nervous about m/c this time, I feel really at peace and calm about the whole thing and i don't know why. I hope it is a sign that the pregnancy is going to be fine. I just wanted to chime in and say I can relate. Wishing all of you a great pregnancy and peaceful thoughts.
Wendi

[teniprice]

I also just had a m/c in Nov. at 6 weeks. I got my bfp just 2 cycles later and I feel very good about this pg. I just know it will be a healthy one.

[debra_lea]

Isn't it amazing how well we know our bodies. I knew 3 days after I ovulated this cycle that I was pregnant. I also feel really good that everything is going to be fine with this pregnancy.

Does anyone else have different symptoms this time? I don't necessarily have different symptoms, but my symptoms are much more pronounced.

[flapjack]

Yep. I tend to alternate a miscarriage with a baby, and this is my baby cycle (touch wood.) I've never felt as ill when I didn't get to hold the baby.

[teniprice]

With my m/c I had no symptoms at all except for sore bbs and those were there in my 2ww. This time I have been exausted since before my bfp and I'm craving things and having small spells of nausea. It's not my usual full blown m/s (yet) but I can tell something is off. Has been for a few weeks now. It is definately reassuring to have symptoms this time.

[jmhammond]

I also feel *different* this time, but not having any symptoms really is hard for me. I have to remember with my son I didn't have any symptoms until about 6 or 7 weeks. So I should just enjoy these few weeks without the sickness!

[naturegirl]

Not good news here either...:

My results are back HCG was 172 at 21 DPO but they were at 93 at 10 dpo. so they haven't even doubled in 1 1/2 weeks. My prog. is only 12. I am going off the progesterone and now just have to wait for the m/c.

Sorry about the copy and pasting of this on the other threads. I just don't want to re-type this over and over...

[maylea_moon]

Could I join? I had a miscarriage in November at 5 weeks. I knew I was going to miscarry and I did. This time I feel very good about the pregnancy so I'm not *too* worried but I am more worried than what's probably considered "average". My symptoms are much stronger this time. Last pregnancy at this point I really didn't have any symptoms except very slightly tender breasts which disappeared the day I began to spot.

*hugs* to Cheryl.

[lactivist]

naturegirl I am so sorry.
Wendi

[LacieD]

Bumping this up... I had a miscarriage in November at 12w1d. The baby died around 8 weeks. I feel much, much better about this pregnancy (I was hesitant to even post with the last) but I think I'll still be on edge until I make it past 12 weeks.

[debra_lea]

Hi Lacie,

Yes, I think we all feel a little nervous. But, I think the most important thing we can do is stay positive, and let our little one know that we have joy and happiness around their existence. That, and staying as stress free as possible. I've been trying to do some relaxation breathing when I wake with insomnia:-)

[pianojazzgirl]

Hi all!

I just got my bfp about 5 minutes ago and I've come to join the group! I am shaking all over. I've had two mc's this past year - in Apr at 8wks pg, and Aug at 10 wks pg. I'm so terrified right now. Ecstatic and terrified. I was diagnosed with MTHFR (bloodclotting disorder) which the dr said most likely did not cause the miscarriages so he won't prescribe me anything. I am considering taking baby aspirin anyway. But I'm scared of hurting the baby. I don't know what to do. Yikes, so many thoughts running through my head right now as I look down at those 2 lines on the hpt!

Anyway, excuse my ramblings - I'm still in shock here! Looking forward to getting to know you all and sticky vibes to everyone!

[lactivist]

Congratulations!
I had two m/c's in a year and then went on to have Eavan. Sending you lots of sticky baby vibes! I don't have any advice about the baby aspirin but I bet a bit of research and intution will guide you to the right choice.
Wendi

[beckyphry]

So, how are all you ladies feeling about telling others about your pregnancy? I'm excited but hesitant. The only people I've told so far are people who knew about my miscarriage (i.e. people I'd want around for support in case something goes wrong again).

I have an early u/s today and we should be able to see the heartbeat if all is going well. My husband really wants to tell his family and friends. I'm excited to tell them, but at the same time still worried that even if we do see the heartbeat, something could still go wrong. Maybe I've spent too much time hanging around message boards with women who have had later miscarriages : and it's making me nervous.

I told my husband we'd talk about telling after this appointment. Thoughts? How do you feel about telling?

[stacyg]

We had a mc late in September I was about 5 weeks. We are really excited about this pregnancy but we too are hesitant to tell anyone. We've told our support system but that will be all until around 12 weeks or so. It's hard to keep the news in but I personally would rather not tell than have to tell everyone I'd lost the baby again. It's a personal decision though...I'm sure everyone is different.
I'm trying to remain positive and think happy sticky thoughts yk? I do feel different this time so that's a plus!

Becky~ Let us know how it goes today! How exciting!!