trust - Page 2

[Nicole77]

I trust my own body and instincts 100%. I trust my husband's instincts 100%. Those two things are all we need to get us through a healthy birth probably 98% of the time. The other possible 2% I trust my midwives (both of them...two working together in one practice) 100% to listen to our instincts and know the best course of action if we felt we needed intervention. I also trust both of their opinions, viewpoints, knowledge, and support enough that I would take their advice to heart, although I would not follow it blindly or without backing from my own research/instinct.

[habibekindheart]

I think completely trusting your midwife is a special gift, considering that so many people end up having a clash with theirs here or there. I found one midwife I trust completely because she's so utterly hands-off, and I wouldn't trade her for the world.

I can understand your fears though. I used to trust doctors too, but now that I've been around the block a few times, I know what I want for my birth and I know that my midwife has to work around that. I don't have to work around her, and I won't. I was lucky to find a midwife that respects that.

[laohaire]

I trusted mine a little too much, I think. I'm trying to think of how to put it. I think it's best for me to trust and not worry - yet if I am worried, to be proactive. Not necessarily to not trust, but to start questioning things, to push things.

My birth went great, but we had postpartum issues, and I knew there were issues, but I just trusted my MW was taking care of them and even when I didn't believe her about something, I just passively let it go, instead of pushing it.

If I react when my alarm goes off, I have an opportunity to either continue the trust - yet be an active participant in my/my baby's care - or to break that trust, as warranted.

I think I still don't want to be untrusting. I want to relax and feel safe. That's why I don't want to go to the hospital - I'd be a wreck there, always fighting. I want to be able to not worry, unless I know I have to. I am also not a midwife, I only had one baby. I'm not against UC but it's not for me - so I want to hire a midwife for her knowledge; thus I want to trust her and not need to actually gain her experience for myself in order to believe what she says. But the minute something seems off, I will assume responsibility for it.

That's what I want to do with a pediatrician, too - to trust them until I know something is not right. Unfortunately I haven't yet found one that I can trust at all.

[saratchka]

I guess I'd have to say that I trust my MW in combination with my instincts. She's actually a little *less* medical in her views than I am, but is very respectful of my wishes when I want a test or other intervention that she doesn't feel is truly necessary. I know that if she thought the intervention I was requesting could harm me or my baby, she would explain her point of view to me, then we'd discuss the options and the final choice would be mine to make. But if she just thinks it's silly (quad-screen for example) she's content to let it go.

In the event of an unforseen emergency which would prevent me from making my own choices, I do trust her to make decisions about whether and when to transfer, etc. DH is wonderful, but he doesn't want to have to make that kind of call as he doesn't have as much knowledge or experience as she does. She'll ask for his input, I know, but he'll almost certainly do whatever she recommends, and I'm comfortable with that.

So I trust her 100% to allow me to do what I feel is best while informing my decisions with her knowledge and experience. And I trust her 100% to make the best decisions she can in the case of an emergency. I can't imagine asking for more.