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post #41 of 51
IMHO, it TOTALLY depends on:

the child
the circumstances
and thus the need
post #42 of 51
^
Yeah, that's just what I was thinking.

I have left my ten yo alone for five minutes while I run to the corner store. I will consider longer periods after his 11th b-day, but not a lot longer. Maybe an hour max.

When I am going absolutely nuts crazy, I let both my ten yo and five yo watch a short dvd while I "go for a run" (bwahahaha)...up and down the street within sight of the house! Really...I'm solo. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do!
post #43 of 51
It certainly matters how comfortable the child feels being home alone too. I was left home alone at ten, but was uncomfortable with it. Our front door was glass. When the doorbell would ring, I would be terrified to go see who it was (I was not expected to answer). I was certainly mature or responsible enough to know what to do in case of an emergency and how to make myself snacks at ten, but I hated being home alone. My mom insisted I was just a "worrier." By 11 or 12, I felt more comfortable.
post #44 of 51
My 12yo can be home alone for a few hours, with reliable phone access to me.

Very recently, I 've begun to leave for 10minutes when I need to drop dh off across town with her watching three sibs. That makes me a little nervous, though--I am only okay with it because it is a VERY short time. Typically, I let the kids decide who wants to stay and who wants to get bundled up and in the car.
post #45 of 51
We started leaving our 11 yo DD home for short periods of time about 6 months ago or so. We've also just recently left her home with her brother (almost 2) usually while he is napping. She knows how to change diapers and what to give him for a snack if he wakes up. She's very responsible but I still feel a little bit nervous about it.

My DH has been home during the day with the kids but is taking a day job soon. We're putting DS in daycare : but I'm not sure what to so with DD. She'll probably be fine home alone for an hour in the afternoons, but I think we'll have to figure something out for days she's not in school because I don't want her home alone all day. I think she'd be safe, but probably bored and lonely.

Tina
post #46 of 51
My oldest is just about 12 and has stayed home several times in the last couple of years by himself if needed. I don't, however, leave him and his brother alone. I don't think I could ever leave any of my kids home alone "together" without another adult around. I wouldn't trust that.

My oldest is only alone at times when he is sick and I have to take the other two children to school or run a quick errand and he doesn't want to go for some reason. It's not often at all. My kids always like to go everywhere with me and never ask to stay home anyway.

Is there a reason your husband is so adamant about your daughter staying alone in order to become more confident? She is quite young and unless she is just asking to be left alone then why force her to do it? I guess I just don't understand that part. There are many, many ways to raise a confident child and still be there by their side the whole time.
post #47 of 51
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Originally Posted by mommy68 View Post
Is there a reason your husband is so adamant about your daughter staying alone in order to become more confident? She is quite young and unless she is just asking to be left alone then why force her to do it?
She said that her daughter asks to stay home while she runs errands.
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There are many, many ways to raise a confident child and still be there by their side the whole time.
Sounds kinda stifling.
post #48 of 51
My ds is 10 and happily stays home alone when I go to pick up his sister or do some kind of errand. Much better to stay home and read, get homework done and watch some tv rather than sit in the car for 40 minutes or more. My 12 -- almost 13 yr old obviously stays home alone too. She is a great babysitter to her little sister when I need her services.
post #49 of 51
I think it depends on the child. My oldest wasn't responsible enough until around 10 or so, but my middle child was ready around 8. The longest we've left the middle one is two or so hours (date night), and he did swimmingly.

You have to decide your own child's limitations and sensabilities, IMO.
post #50 of 51
For anyone who may be interested. The American Red Cross offers a course called "When I'm in Charge" offered for children 7 to 11The kids enjoyed the class and it has been reassuring. Even if you are just walking the dog or mowing the lawn. Last year my daughter took the babysitting traning course(11 to 15).Which she loved.
post #51 of 51
I leave my 10.5 year old for 10-20 minutes at a time,and he can go across the street by himself, but I think I will always worry about hime no matter what age he is.
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