Originally Posted by peilover010202
soygurl, I understand what you are saying and that's partly why I've decided not to file a report. Even though my ds1 has never made up a story like that, I can't help but to think that perhaps his recollection is partly true and partly pretend.
Reporting this is not the same as convicting him. By not reporting it, you are allowing him to continue without HELP. my sister who is a juvenile prosecutor says that this is a prime age for this kind of abuser to get started. And yes, there usually is abuse in the child's past. Or some sort of other mental health issue.
This 16 year old is troubled. His mom died, his dad came out as gay and moved in with another man, and he's living with a stepmom. WITHOUT the indicents you report, this screams a situation where this child needs counseling. And, add the situations you've said and it screams a child (yes, I believe 16 is a child) who is on the path to something worse. He's got lots of unmet needs -- is he trying to fulfill them with inappropriate contact with little kids? It's happened before.
I agree that meeting has no purpose, but really, to not report inappropriate contact that happened TWICE? You are putting other children in danger. Why are you not willing to report it, but also not willing to send your kids back?
Make a factual report. He's a juvenile. He's troubled. You have a moral obligation to report it.