Originally Posted by MsElle07
Nope. Absolutely not.
You should read the book "Protecting the Gift" by Gavin DeBecker... in it, he talks about one of the best ways you can avoid having your children become the victim of sexual abuse (which, unfortunately, something like 1 in 3 girls are) is to not allow them to have male caregivers. Most people are abused by someone their mother trusts.
Not to cast aspersions on this boy -- he is probably a lovely young man. I just think it's a wise policy to have.
Not every male is a predator and teenage boys are not predators-in-training. I do not think that is a fair assessment, and females are also likely to abuse.
My brother is 14 and has been babysitting for the past year and a bit. He took training to do so, we have a Babysitters course offered by St John's Ambulance which covers things like basic care, activities to do and First Aid training. And he would be very very hurt if he found out that someone was reluctant to use him as a sitter because of a gender bias. How upset would you be as a parent if someone dismiss your children because they were boys?
Sorry if I sound preachy about this, but I do not think it is fair to assume because a male choses to engage in a caring job then they must be a molester. I am an ECE and I worked with several men who were fantastic as early educators, and I was shocked and disgusted by some people's attitudes towards them. They assumed that they must be in the field so they can have access to little girls or they were gay and preying on little boys. It's that attitude which deters men from entering caring fields.
Before you dismiss him I would meet with him, find out if he has any training, and what he can offer you and your family as a babysitter. Get references from a few parents he has worked with. My concern would be more due to his age, not all 13 year olds are mature enough to handle very young children while others, like my brother, have a gift with little ones (very young children adore Evan, my daughter included, and he is fantastic with babies).