This thread is disturbing to me in so many ways. Much of what I feel has already been said, and I feel for both "sides", so I don't really have much to add to that part of the dicsussion. I do have a question I saw before, that I don't think was addressed.
How do we change this?
What can mothers of sons do to help their sons not be pigeonholed into the potential molester category? Is there anything we can do? Or is it a lost cause because of the alarming rate of reported and unreported abuse that plagues us?
My heart aches for all of those abused, and
for all the innocent, decent men (and boys) out there who are passed over or categorized simply by virtue of their birth gender. I am fully aware of the male privilige in society, but I still don't think that it makes it right to lump them all together as potential abusers just because they're male. I hate the fact that my son will have to go out of his way to prove he's NOT an abuser. I hate that anyone
has to go out of their way to prove they are NOT what any particular stereotype is. I hate the fact that there are so many people in this world who would abuse a child. I really, really do.
Discussions like this really depress me (this one, racism threads, etc.), because it seems like there's no way to move forward from the shadows of the past.