So MIL, FIL, & SIL all came rushing up 5 hrs when DD1 was born. They were literally sitting in the hospital listening to me yell & moan through the last part of labor. While it wasn't my ideal situation, I was OK with it & had a great birth anyway.
Fast forward 2 1/2 years. We now only live 3 hrs away. Since we are birthing at the different hospital the set up is different. Before they were actually able to stay in my post-partum room most of the time. And my Mom & her fiance were there for part of it as well since *everyone* had to come from out of town. This hospital will not let them stay in the post-partum room & we now live next door to my Mom who will be watching DD. We told them that due to the set up at the hospital being different there was no reason for them to be AT the hospital for the labor. My Mom (who seriously dislikes these people btw) very graciously asked them over to her house so they could play with DD1 & wait for the call saying DD2 had been born.
As far as we knew that's what was happening. Then a couple weeks ago MIL & FIL made a comment to me along the lines of, "Well, if we can't be at the hospital when she's *born* then we're not coming up until you're home from the hospital." Um...OK. It's not like they were in the room or anything. They didn't even see DD1 right away anyway. DH went out about a 1/2 hr after the birth, told them she'd been born, & then they all went to dinner to give us some time alone and came back bout 3 hrs later to visit. Anyway, I shared this little comment with DH who was just *sure* I'd misunderstood what they'd said. I hadn't -- my Mom was sitting there too & agreed that that's exactly what they'd said -- but I didn't want to push it so I just asked DH to please call his parents so we'd know for 100% what's happening this time around.
Turns out that not only are they not coming up the day she's born, they're not even coming up the day after. In fact they're not coming up until the next weekend! Their reason? "It's too hard to arrange work around an unknown date.." (they work for themselves -- and they seemed to do it fine last time...) and "Well, you know, it's DIFFERENT with the second one..." Um...OK....mind my DH IS the second one of their children too!!!
Honestly, I could care less if they show up at all, but I feel awful for DH & DD2. DH is really annoyed & quite hurt, although he'd never make a big deal about it. That's just not his way. DD1 has like 300 photos her her with her grandparents when she's literally only hours old & unless I happen to go into labor at the end of the week DD2 will be at least a couple days to a week old before they even see her!
<grrrrr> Despite that, I'm being very petty and suddenly wishing I go into labor on a Sunday night or a Monday morning so they have to wait as long as possible to see the new baby.
Holly
Fast forward 2 1/2 years. We now only live 3 hrs away. Since we are birthing at the different hospital the set up is different. Before they were actually able to stay in my post-partum room most of the time. And my Mom & her fiance were there for part of it as well since *everyone* had to come from out of town. This hospital will not let them stay in the post-partum room & we now live next door to my Mom who will be watching DD. We told them that due to the set up at the hospital being different there was no reason for them to be AT the hospital for the labor. My Mom (who seriously dislikes these people btw) very graciously asked them over to her house so they could play with DD1 & wait for the call saying DD2 had been born.
As far as we knew that's what was happening. Then a couple weeks ago MIL & FIL made a comment to me along the lines of, "Well, if we can't be at the hospital when she's *born* then we're not coming up until you're home from the hospital." Um...OK. It's not like they were in the room or anything. They didn't even see DD1 right away anyway. DH went out about a 1/2 hr after the birth, told them she'd been born, & then they all went to dinner to give us some time alone and came back bout 3 hrs later to visit. Anyway, I shared this little comment with DH who was just *sure* I'd misunderstood what they'd said. I hadn't -- my Mom was sitting there too & agreed that that's exactly what they'd said -- but I didn't want to push it so I just asked DH to please call his parents so we'd know for 100% what's happening this time around.
Turns out that not only are they not coming up the day she's born, they're not even coming up the day after. In fact they're not coming up until the next weekend! Their reason? "It's too hard to arrange work around an unknown date.." (they work for themselves -- and they seemed to do it fine last time...) and "Well, you know, it's DIFFERENT with the second one..." Um...OK....mind my DH IS the second one of their children too!!!
Honestly, I could care less if they show up at all, but I feel awful for DH & DD2. DH is really annoyed & quite hurt, although he'd never make a big deal about it. That's just not his way. DD1 has like 300 photos her her with her grandparents when she's literally only hours old & unless I happen to go into labor at the end of the week DD2 will be at least a couple days to a week old before they even see her!
<grrrrr> Despite that, I'm being very petty and suddenly wishing I go into labor on a Sunday night or a Monday morning so they have to wait as long as possible to see the new baby.
Holly
First of all, you are not being petty. I understand how you feel. In case you forgot (which I am *sure* you did), you are PREGNANT and I think that everyone should really be sensitive to your feelings. You did forget that you're pregnant, right? 
