So my DH is home, finally, and watched this week's episode of "Scrubs," [spoiler alert] in which a character suffers from PPD and another mom (former sufferer) convinces her to get help/meds. Her DH had tried to tell her that but she had resisted -- it wasn't till another mama told her BTDT that she was able to open up about the seriousness of her problem and seek help without stigma. My favorite line was when the DH tried to interrupt the other mama and she told him, "You don't have any lines in this play." I totally feel like my DH does not get what I am going through with morning sickness, fears of birth, etc. Not that I am out here solo, but more that we are having parallel experiences and I am just much more consumed by everything baby, at least at this point. He sometimes feels like I am ordering him around with regard to the morning sickness -- get me this, no, not that! -- and as if my birth planning casts him as "just a support person" -- as if he would be giving birth?!?! So anyway he thought the show was not funny, that it was about the marginalization of daddies. I want to bridge this place in our relationship -- I feel like we are ultimately moving toward the right place as totally involved and attached and even egalitarian parents, but we will have really different paths there because I am carrying this baby, birthing this baby, and nursing this baby. Why is this such a dis to him? Anybody got any great reading material for him (or me)? I want him to love catering to my every need, but frankly I fear he misses the do-it-myself, high energy, career woman he married.
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1/15/07 at 12:16am