Are we wierd...like a minority? - Page 3

[luckymamato2]

I don't know if anyone else posted this, but I DVR Birth Story - occasionally they have a decent story - and they said only about 10% of women actually get through a natural pain medication-free birth. I feel lucky to be one of so few.

[aywilkes]

Originally Posted by Mamatoto2

I hear you, I'm just saying that unless one knows the "back story" of a birth there is a tendency to make assumptions based on the end result....as for the other Qs, I didn't have a Dr. and I'm not sure about the MW cord tug question (although I did look into that). Nevertheless that would have not caused the placenta to adhere to my cervix which was clearly the cause of at least the second hemm. As for future births, unfortunately, I HAVE to have C-Ss from here on out due to the type of incision that was necessary for DD#2 (or else my uterus could rupture and I could risk death yet again). I would not be a candidate for a V-BAC.

I guess I feel like you are in the minority and fortunate to be able to have a natural birth. My experience has been with women that act incredulous when you tell them you don't plan on taking drugs is that these aren't women who even CONSIDERED an unmedicated birth. They automatically think drugs are the way to go and are quick to tell you that you're crazy for not planning to use any drugs. I thought the OP was referring to women with these types of experiences as opposed to one like yours where you intended to do everything right and ended up having to have interventions.
For example, I have a friend who planned a homebirth, labored 24 hours, was exhausted, opted to go to the hospital after 24 hours in labor and have an epi. She got some rest and baby came out an hour after waking up. This friend who ultimately used medication would never incredulously ask a person whether they are going to get drugs or had drugs nor would she encourage it.

[Full Heart]

Yes, we are in the minority. Very very small group of women in the US. I think only 10% go w/o pain meds and I think hbs are 1% of birthing mothers. Compare that to 90% pain meds and 30% c/s. Just visit any mainstream board and you will see just what a minority we are. But be prepared for such a backlash against any ? regarding ncb or hb : . I can't even go read them anymore. Thats why I love it here (although it really fraustrates me that I feel like half the time I still have to add a disclaimer). I think the majority of ladies in my ddc are having hbs. Ahhhh, I feel at home!

[ma_Donna]

This is an actual email reply to DS2's announcement of his arrival (guess she didn't pick up he was born at home). BTW he was 8 lbs, 15,5 oz

"Congrats on your newest blessing! I couldn't be happier for you all. He is beautiful already... should I assume c-section At least I would hope so at that size!"

[mamato271828]

I was at the IL's for Thanksgiving and a close family friend (whose daughter just had a baby in mid-December) was going on and on about how great it would be to stay in the hospital for weeks(!) to recover after giving birth. I piped up and said "I just stayed at home to give birth and it was so much nicer - the midwives even did some laundry ". She said "Oh, that's just you" and did not say another word to me. Needless to say, I felt very much in the minority.

[OMama]

Originally Posted by ma_Donna

This is an actual email reply to DS2's announcement of his arrival (guess she didn't pick up he was born at home). BTW he was 8 lbs, 15,5 oz

"Congrats on your newest blessing! I couldn't be happier for you all. He is beautiful already... should I assume c-section At least I would hope so at that size!"

OMG people are so strange! What -- a baby is supposed to be more beautiful aftern a c-section?! I'm so confused! And really, why is everyone so afraid of a slightly larger baby?! Arggghhhh! Don't they understand that this is what our bodies are designed to do?! I always said "if my body grew this baby, it can certainly get her/him out."

We actually had something similar said to us after our new baby was born (at home 8 lbs. 11 oz.). But anyway, when another mother at DD's preschool co-op was talking to DH about the picture I sent out, she said that he "looked like a c-section baby" because his head was nice. Glad she didn't say it to me, because I would have said "no, he just looks like a baby who was born peacefully and calmly into the world."

[Full Heart]

I don't get this whole thing about babies heads and c/s. Do they really look that different?

I was at the IL's for Thanksgiving and a close family friend (whose daughter just had a baby in mid-December) was going on and on about how great it would be to stay in the hospital for weeks(!) to recover after giving birth. I piped up and said "I just stayed at home to give birth and it was so much nicer - the midwives even did some laundry ". She said "Oh, that's just you"

Ah man. I must have had a crappy hospital. I couldn't rest there, they were bothering me every 30 min about something. Being at home is way better! Its not just you

[Shell_Ell]

Ugh you know what happened to me? We transferred with my last labor, and most everyone knew I was going to a birth center. So then when people heard I didn't birth at the birth center, they automatically thought I had a c-section. There IS such a thing as birthing vaginally in a hospital, people! And then we had a ton of unsolicited visitors at the hospital. Everyone assumed we were staying there a few days. We left 12 hours postpartum. People were calling my room later that night and got someone different.

Anyway. This time I haven't even discussed my birth plans. Thankfully there will be no akward baby shower moment.