Do you have non stop talker?

[hipumpkins]

I am not kidding my DD is never quiet. she talks all day long. It is making me batty. she asks the same questions. I do engage her in conversations so it sin't like she needs to grab for my attention. I am home all day and just now I said, "Shh please mommy needs 5 min of quiet. Just stop talking"
I don't think it was nice of me to say that but I can't keep my sanity. I can't keep a thought in my head. She never stops and I really feel like she can't stop. :
What do you do to keep yourself sane?

[peilover010202]

I have a talker too. It bothers me most while I'm driving somewhere, mostly because ds1 wants me to look at him while he talks (that's my fault, I ask him to look at me when I'm talking to him.)

You know, my ds will go into his "playroom" and engage in pretend play and "talk" to different toys or pretend "bad" and "good guys".

Maybe you could engage your dd in something like that? Then perhaps it would blossom into her playing on her own sometimes (and talking to her toys )

[joensally]

Do you have non stop talker?

Yes.









Phew...got a word in edgewise, fancy that!

I actually have two of them. I try to focus on the fact that they actually both have very good memories and this may be part of the way they learn. And sometimes I ask them to just take a break for a bit, or find an activity for them where they actually are quiet. Since DD started reading it's been much better as she spends hours doing that ... silently. Another positive thing about the talking is that you can easily be in another room and know what they're doing .

As a coping strategy, I try to make sure that I get a period of silence every day. The difference is astounding.

[bobica]

we take quite breaks too. also, the last 5 min in the morning before going out the door for work & school are quiet time so i don't forget my head! sometimes we just need quiet time, & i think dd understands the need for a "break"

[flyingspaghettimama]

Haha. Remember when we were so excited when they said their first words?Bwa haha haha. What FOOLS we were!

I changed the topic of conversation to something I was interested in...George Bush's lack of coherent policy and cultural understanding regarding the Middle East in general and Iraq in particular; Postmodern philosophy's role in modern American film; how the increasing rate of adjustable rate mortgages might harm the housing market and possibly take down the entire US economy; Paris Hilton's boob job...

really, your choice. They'll just ask "why" a million times, so you might as well choose something you're interested in.

[faerierose]

I've got 2 nonstop talkers...they even talk in their sleep

[MamaChicken]

Count me in! DS would talk non-stop if I didn't have set quiet times. On non-school days, we have adopted BOB-time from scout camp. BOB stands for Bodies on Beds, and the idea is for DS to spend a set period of time on his bed quietly. Since he is 8 years old, we do this for about an hour right after lunch. The idea is that they might be too old for naps, but can still benefit from some quiet rest. About half the time, DS is asleep by the time BOB-time is up. He is allowed to read his books, play his leapster (with headphones), or listen to quiet music.

During BOB-time, I usually read a book, what a TV show without interuption, or DH and I get some "quality" time.

Other than that, it is non-stop chatter.

[MamaWindmill]

Does he have to stay on his bed for an entire hour?

[mom2x]

Do they do this w/ other people, too? Ds will tell random people in public places everything that comes to mind. I want to let him go, but a trip to the food co-op would take weeks if I did not say "C'mon buddy, let him get back to work."
He's not little either, he's 7. Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk....

[Guava~Lush]

yes.
and i too have said driving in the car, please, no talking, just for a moment. please.


and yes in his sleep and where ever we go. My dh is the exact same way.

i on the other hand, could probably be a monk somewhere taking a vow of silence and be fine.

[teachma]

Originally Posted by joensally

I try to focus on the fact that they actually both have very good memories and this may be part of the way they learn.

I think you are right on with this. My mom realized, when my son was around 2.5, that his incessant talking (much of which included repitition and lots of questioning) was the way he committed ideas and new vocabulary to memory. Unfortunately, this did not make me more patient with him. But really, if you look at it as an important part of the way your child's brain is developing, it might work for you.

[teachma]

Originally Posted by flyingspaghettimama

Haha. Remember when we were so excited when they said their first words?Bwa haha haha. What FOOLS we were!

I distinctly remember a time when ds, 3 months old, sat in his infant car seat in the back of our car as we drove to a restaurant for dinner. Dh turned up the heat in the car and jokingly asked, "You warm enough back there buddy?" Then dh turned to me and said, "I can't wait until he's able to answer." Fast forward 3.5 years, and we're driving with our new baby daughter in the car. I turned to dh and said, "Don't make that mistake again. Enjoy some silence while it lasts." It didn't last long...

[hhurd]

Yes. Yes I do. I'd say more but I've used up my word quota for the day...

[wildtigercubs]

Ugh, I have 3, yes 3 of them. And none of them talk to each other or their Dad!

[cdmaze]

I am getting payback- says my mom. Apparently I had what my parents referred to as "diarrhea of the mouth".

And now my son has it. So, I remember what it was like and do my best to keep up.

He repeats alot of things we say- then tests them out on us. I have to remember not to squash him by telling him we've had enough. It's hard though- especially in the car! I just know when he's 15 he'll have his iPod on and probably WONT talk to us. So, I'll try to enjoy him!

[teachma]

Originally Posted by cdmaze

He repeats alot of things we say- then tests them out on us. I have to remember not to squash him by telling him we've had enough. It's hard though- especially in the car! I just know when he's 15 he'll have his iPod on and probably WONT talk to us. So, I'll try to enjoy him!

My six year old already gets the i-pod, but for long car rides only. Then he listens to audio books, and he is purely silent all the way from southern CT to Boston! It is quite miraculous to hear nothing from him for nearly 3 hours! But around town, it's both children talking and arguing over whose "turn" it is to speak to me in the car. We have gone so far as to require them to alternate, "Okay, it's your turn to tell Mommy 2 things, then your brother gets to say two things, and then you can have another turn." Wheen there are 2 parents in the car, dd talks to me and ds talks to Dad, literally, the whole time. Two simultaneous conversations in close proximity are apparently not enough to confuse my chatty children!

[Bartock]

If I here no talking with DS almost 6, I get worried

[witchbaby]

yes! she wakes up as though in the middle of a sentence, spends all day chattering, then even talks a little in her sleep! oy!

[Igraine]

From the moment my ds is awake (And sometimes before!) he is talking non-stop.

Even when watching a show of his, he is commenting.

Drawing has a constant running commentary about what is going on in the picture. I swear the boy is going to be an animator or film maker because he is constantly making things go in action.

And, well, yes it is my mother's curse. I was a non-stop talker (and some would say I still am). MY sisters were made absolutely insane by me . "Make her shut up!" I would wake up very early in the am and sing and clean.

Thank God my ds does not do that.

[2GR8KIDS]

Yes, my 7 y.o. is a talker. It has tapered off a bit since he started school- his teachers have had to work hard with him to stop him from talking constantly. When he was 4 when he made the following statement - "Mom! I just thought something in my head and DIDN'T say it!" I truly think he didn't realize until that moment that you don't have to say aloud every thought that pops into your head!