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Spinoff: Would you distance yourself from (or disown) your child for circumcising?

post #1 of 106
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This is a spinoff from the thread about talking to your daughter about cut men. Well, the thread title says it all - would you distance yourself, or even disown, a child of yours for circumcising?

I'll post my opinion when I'm not on my way to bed
post #2 of 106
My children have my unconditional love.
post #3 of 106
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My children have my unconditional love.
I totally agree, but I remain friends with people who circ, so yours is a very easy question for me.
post #4 of 106
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My children have my unconditional love.
ITA.
post #5 of 106
I do hope that I raise my children so that they would never ever abuse their children.

The possibility that my children would start to mutilate their own children is quite impossible to even imagine, since both FGM and MGM are not done here.

Ofcourse I love my children , and I would never disown them or stop loving them.
post #6 of 106
Oh gawd! It would tear my heart out...but of course my love is unconditional.
post #7 of 106
Yeah, it's kind of a weird question to me. When you've mass-murdered your way across a continent, your momma is supposed to come visit you on death row. I wouldn't stop loving my kids, it's not a button I turn on & off.

I'd be angry (& oh, would I express it) & disappointed, but I would continue to be there (who is there for you when you are contrite that you didn't listen to your mama & made a huge mistake with lasting repercussions? Mama! By 20 I've got this part down pat, & hardly ever say 'I told you so'. Well, more than once.)
post #8 of 106
It would really make me wonder, since right now I only have one dc and he's an intact male.
post #9 of 106
I would be very upset, but my love is forever.
post #10 of 106
Honestly, I don't know how I would feel. If my son or daughter grew up to be the kind of person who could cut their baby's genitals, I'm not sure if I could get over it. I think it would hurt so deeply I'm not sure I could recover, and I know for sure I'd never feel the same way again. I might still love them and want to be a part of their lives, but it would be tough.
post #11 of 106
Absolutely NOT!!! My love for my child is unconditional.
post #12 of 106
No way. When I decided to have children it was forever and no conditions were put on that.
post #13 of 106
No, I would not disown my child for making a decision they felt in their heart was the best course of action for their child and though I would disagree with it, I would still love and honor their decisions, which are personal and none of my business.
post #14 of 106
It would sadden me , however I do hope that when the time comes they do their OWN research on the topic, and voice their own opinions. I only have a son (right now) and I would be more disappointed to hear him say " I won't cut my son because I want him to look like me".

My MIL and I had this talk once because she has been disappointed in a lot of things her children were doing and she felt like a failure. My reply...no actually you raised independent thinking childen, you are a huge success.
post #15 of 106
No, I wouldn't do either. I would not be able to keep quiet about it, of course.

My ds's are intact, however, so is dh, and if my ds's find a partner in life she would have to accept their wholeness, so it's hard to imagine them deciding to circumcize a child.
post #16 of 106
Tricia, or your ds' new love interest might be able to convince him to be circéd as an adult, ya never know.
post #17 of 106
True! At least it would be his choice though, so I would have to respect that, just like if he decided to get a nose job or calf implants.

I really believe RIC will be illegal though, in Canada anyway, by the time my ds's are procreating.
post #18 of 106
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I would still love and honor their decisions, which are personal and none of my business.
I'd love & honor THEM, but I fart in the general direction of any decision to genitally mutilate a child! It's not 'personal'; the child's genitals are personal. To the owner.

The rhetoric of 'it's a personal decision' galls the living hell out of me. Horsefeathers, I say. You can't even 'decide' whether your kid will eat their bowl of farina in the morning, how do you have the right to decide to cut off part of their genitals?
post #19 of 106
I'd love my children unconditionally, but that being said I could never sit by and approve of them abusing their children. And circ is abuse. So yes, there would be some ramifications to our relationship if they were mistreating their children in any way.
post #20 of 106
If my DDs choose to do that to their children, I would be flabbergasted. They will grow up KNOWING that it is wrong and harmful(The older 2 already know about it.), so I just can't imagine it. I can think of 100 mistakes I would rather watch them make than that one. I would feel crestfallen and dejected, but I could never disown my children.

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I'd love my children unconditionally, but that being said I could never sit by and approve of them abusing their children. And circ is abuse. So yes, there would be some ramifications to our relationship if they were mistreating their children in any way.
I agree w/ this. Child abuse is something I couldn't sit back and watch my children do to my grandchildren, and I do view this as legalized child abuse.
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