Originally Posted by jiva
Beebaweewa, you described my perineum exactly!
Never thought I'd say that.
But yes, that's what mine looks like and yes, I feel like there's nothing left to tear, except, um, what I reeeeaaaally don't want to tear...not that I wanted my perineum to though. It's my one regret from my first birth. I just pushed the shoulders out to fast and wasn't too good about keeping my legs together for a week.
Heh, heh, kinda nice to know I'm not the only one with a perineum quite like that. I did basically the same thing, his head came out and he sat there for a minute, which was really not a great feeling, so as soon as he started rotating I blasted him out (seriously, he shot out fast)
I used to feel similar to you, that I should have been more patient/careful. The thing is, I really felt compelled to get him out of me and I'm a firm believer in the 'rightness' of instinct. So I came to the conclusion that if I felt the need to get him out that fast then it's because he needed to be out that fast; and if I needed to tear to get that done then so be it. I also believe that if an unhindered woman tears in the process of giving birth then it's most likely because it was the only way of getting what needed to happen to happen.
I totally understand the feeling of looking at what's left down there and thinking that if that
tears I'm really gonna have the kind of problem that requires medical attention. (I'm pregnant again so this has been on my mind lately.) One way to look at it is that whatever needed to give already gave, and the opening you need to get this next baby out of is a bit bigger than what you had to work with last time.
There are also some people who believe that the perineum is meant to tear, kind of like the hymen, so it's not something that's meant to go back together once it's split. If you think about it, you and I both had first babies UC and this happened. And despite the esthetics of it, and the many warnings foisted upon women by the popular birthing culture, neither of us has any functional issues. Maybe the 'V' perineum is just another variation of normal and if UC were the norm then many women would have perineums like this and it wouldn't be seen as something to worry about.