Dating

[Houdini]

Do you think today's society views guys as being the ones responsible for keeping the girl's safe when on a date?

Is it the guys responsibility to make sure his date is home on time or do they share responsibility?

Is the old-fashioned idea of never leaving your date's side still around today?

Do you teach your boys to make sure they are respectful of their dates and they are responsible for keeping them safe and returning them home on time? How about your girls?

Any other things people want to throw out, please do.

[Yoshua]

I will teach my children that they should respect people in a general sense. And to show respect that they are shown.


This will include on a date. For instance.

If my son takes a fine young lady out on a date, yes it is his responsiblity to get her home when her parents say she should. If he is driving.


If she is driving then I expect her to abide by the rules of my household and return my son when I expect him home.


I don't know about 'keeping' someone safe in particular. But I do expect the young adults to abide by the guidelines/rules specified.


Maybe you should be more specific as to the 'dangers' you are hoping your daughter will be saved from?







Staying by your dates side is a normal procedure in early dating. Typically if people date they want to be near eachother, or else something is terribly terribly wrong

[BelgianSheepDog]

I'm teaching my daughter to watch out for herself. Especially around hormonal adolescent males. I'd never teach her to expect her date to "protect" her from anything. And I am against women being driven by a new beau anywhere. Better to arrive independently, all the easier to leave independently if need be.

[Yoshua]

Originally Posted by BelgianSheepDog

I'm teaching my daughter to watch out for herself. Especially around hormonal adolescent males. I'd never teach her to expect her date to "protect" her from anything. And I am against women being driven by a new beau anywhere. Better to arrive independently, all the easier to leave independently if need be.

And I feel the same way about those Hormonal Adolescent Females.


My son should be wary about what they can do.

[Mama Dragon]

Do you think today's society views guys as being the ones responsible for keeping the girl's safe when on a date?

No, I think it's becoming more of a free for all. Many men, certainly not all, but many, are just not being raised to show respect and consideration for their date...or anyone. I know there are some men out there who would die keeping our DD's safe though, they are just becoming rare (not that I require death to date my DD......)

Is it the guys responsibility to make sure his date is home on time or do they share responsibility?

50/50 If she wants to stay out late, he should say no and take her home. If she takes off, I think he should call her parents and explain. If he won't take her home, she needs to call and get a ride.

Is the old-fashioned idea of never leaving your date's side still around today?

Not sure, but I hope so. Maybe an allowance for if they both decide to go their own ways, but why be on a date if you're going to talk to the rest of the world instead?

Do you teach your boys to make sure they are respectful of their dates and they are responsible for keeping them safe and returning them home on time? How about your girls?

Yes and Yes.

[Houdini]

Originally Posted by Yoshua

Maybe you should be more specific as to the 'dangers' you are hoping your daughter will be saved from?

I am not really sure what I am looking for. I am not really worried about specific dangers to my daughter.

I just see myself going more on the path with my son of treat girls with respect, do the right thing, make sure she is safe, etc.... With my daughter, I see myself more along the lines of stay aware, keep an eye out for signs of dangerous situations, etc...that kind of stuff.

My crew aren't of taking age (which you already know Yoshua) and I haven't really even started conversations with my daughter about dating, but those are the thoughts in my head when I play over possible conversations.

No clue what my point is.....

[Houdini]

Originally Posted by Synthea™

Not sure, but I hope so. Maybe an allowance for if they both decide to go their own ways, but why be on a date if you're going to talk to the rest of the world instead?

I would say this is more for if they are out at a party/club or group type setting.

[Lambsauce]

I don't think guys are responsible for keeping their dates safe. I certainly don't think society has that view. My DBf does it for me, but I take care of him as well. It's mutual. Same with sharing responsibility for getting them home on time, or if plans change, to make sure parents are notified.
Respect should absolutely be taught to both boys and girls. Especially self-respect for girls, I know WAY too many who let boys (who don't know how to respect others) just push and pull them all over the place. And that's just not right. I will NOT tolerate going out with someone who doesn't respect me. That was a self-learned trait, but I think it's among the most important things a parent can teach their child.
As for never leaving your date's side... well, tonight when DBf and I were at the movies I made him go refill our pop seriously though, if you're on a date there really shouldn't be any reason to leave, unless it's a bad date, should there? Unless it's like... a casual group not-really-an-actual-date-at-all setting, which probably won't happen until you've got an established relationship going.

[2tadpoles]

Originally Posted by Houdini

Do you think today's society views guys as being the ones responsible for keeping the girl's safe when on a date?

In general, no. I think lots of parents worry about the girl staying safe FROM her date.

Is it the guys responsibility to make sure his date is home on time or do they share responsibility?

I think they share responsibility.

Is the old-fashioned idea of never leaving your date's side still around today?

I'm not really sure what you mean by this. If two people are on a date, they are going to be at each others' sides, won't they?

Do you teach your boys to make sure they are respectful of their dates and they are responsible for keeping them safe and returning them home on time? How about your girls?

I don't have girls. I teach my boys to be respectful of all their friends. I'm not really sure what my sons are supposed to keep their dates safe from...???

[AMagicalWishxoxo]

Hi there, I am new to the boards but I thought i would let in my opinionn here.
if you have a daughter and she wants to date i would talk with her and make sure she understands everything that is related to dating someone. and the most appropreite age to date as well.
for boys i think you should sit them down and teach them to be respectful towards girls and to know not to push them so far.

i am 16 years old and i got date raped. i was going out with this guy for 1 year and 3 months and one day he wanted to go further i said no and he took advantage. you should teach your children the ways in which to act when things such as this happens. i think if i would have talked to him about it instead of just simply saying no i wouldnt be pregnant right now.

just make sure your kids are ready to date. that was my first boyfriend. he was the first boy my parents allowed me to date. if only i would of had my boyfriend at my house to get to know my parents more often things would possibly be different. just make sure you know the guy or girl they are dating. but also dont make dating so restricted its still fun just tell them they need to be cautious and that bad things can possibly happen.

[~member~]

What if you son wants to date other boys?

I teach my ds and dd's the same. When someone has self-awareness, self-respect, self-esteem, self confidence, then they will extend that to others.