Positive solution advice

[Eather]

I'm hoping to get some feedback about positve solutions when dealing with other peoples children. I know most kids go thru semi aggresive phases my son included. I would like to hear how you handle a situation when another persons child is aggresive with yours ie: hitting pushing nothing over the top just normal toddler stuff. Would you handle things different with kids you see all the time and with kids you might only see out at a playground etc? I feel like what I do with my own son works but not sure it has much effect on other kids. Anyway I would like to hear any positive suggestions/ solutions you might have.

[4evermom]

Usually I stayed really close to my dc if there seemed to be problem interactions happening. Once kids are beyond toddler years, they tend not to try anything when they know they are being observed. With younger kids, I've physically gotten in between my child and the other (even just my arm so if the other kid pushes, mine won't get knocked off the play structure). I might tell the other child that if he needs space, he may say excuse me (and I would help my child give him space). I might empathize "you really want to use that NOW... we'll give it to you when we are done." My tone of voice tends to be rather firm. Lately, we've been running into the problem with kids not letting ds on part of the play equipment. I tend to narrow my eyes a bit and say "He is allowed to be there."

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[Eather]

My child is only 2 so he is Never out of my sight or reach. What has worked for you when it is 2 kids that see eachother frequently. I always say " Hitting hurts can you find another way to tell your friend you dont like that" and then try to redirect them to doing an acivity that's more for multple kids or get them to play independently. Being 2 though I don't know how much of what I am saying is really understood by another kid when their parents most likely say something different than I do. I'm fine with that too, just wondering how other moms handle a situation like that. Ds has a friend that he picks on and fortunately his mom is my best friend so she is very understanding and I take a lot from her parenting style, but I find it harder to deal with kids that I don't know as well.

[4evermom]

My ds didn't hang out much with same aged kids when he was two. But I'd think it would help to do like you said, have toys that play well with multiple kids. I'd either want to have two nearly identical toys or something like a pile of blocks (unless the kids are at a throwing stage, ouch!).

I remember how it would work with the one same aged kid we ocassionally saw. One kid would have a toy. The second kid would try to take it. The mom would fetch the other similar toy (she had two of everything because she had two older children who were close in age). The first child would want the new toy. The second child would still be fixated on the first toy and happy to get it. This struck me as funny because the mom was always trying to give the second child the new toy when s/he still wanted the original toy and the first child wanted the new toy and was willing to give up the original one.