For those of you that didn't tell your parents - Page 2

[pjs]

We're not telling- at 20 weeks it hasn't come up at all. This is our third birth, and so the interest in my pregnancy/birth is barely existant, except there's interest in the gender (girl after 2 boys) and the name (which we probably won't share since we're not really interested in what my parents would name *my* baby). We're pretty much estranged from the ILs and they're lucky they even know I'm pregnant- they can get the mailed birth announcement along with everyone else.

[lhowlett]

OPer here. Thanks for all your stories!
My problem is, I don't want to break ties with my family. I don't want to write them off and say "well forget them". I don't want them to dictate what I do, but family relationships are important to me and I don't want to ruin them.
So I guess I probably would tell them if I were going to do a HB, because I'm afraid they'd be more upset about being deceived if I didn't, that and I don't think HB is something to hide. An advantage I do see to hiding it though is that if you transfer they don't think anything of it.
I know HB would be an amazing and wonderful experience, I really do believe that, and when I try to talk myself into another hospital birth because of a provider I already like and insurance issues, I still come back with the arguments of we'd have to drive 15 min, no water birth - only water labor (unless I can hide my pushing urges!), being stuck in a little foreign room, and then dealing with policiies and my baby being summoned away. I don't know, but I do thank you all for your help!

[lysanderishisname]

I was so lucky, i think my mom would have killed me if i had a baby in the hospital.: she didn't like doctors or hospitals. Me being the first born of six kids she was determind not to make the same mistakes she made with the other ones. I was a hospital birth that was not pleasent later when i was about six months old i almost died because of malnutrition from starting solids to early, wich the doctor recommend. After me it was nothing but homebirths and breastfeeding. I just had my first baby and i had an amazing midwife, the same midwife my mom had for her last two sons.