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post #41 of 72
I actually learned more about morning erections through my intro to the english language class than through anywhere else.

I wouldn't worry about too much since morning erections are due to needing to urinate (the phrase, "slap the P*ss outta you" comes form this as well) and not sexual arosal.

DD is 6 and we co-sleep.
post #42 of 72
This thread is from January so I'm sure the OP has moved on from here but none the less it is still something that a lot of us women don't know about. I understand how men can be defensive. It can be read that because men have erections that they see their children in a sexual manner. For any Mother that would be alarming. That simply isn't the case but it ISN'T common knowledge that it is a normal thing that happens to all men. I, for one, didn't know that since DH always wanted to have sex when he woke up We co-sleep with our son and will with our next child be that child a boy or girl. We often walk around without clothes on and DS hasn't ever mentioned anything about either of us and I doubt a daughter would.
post #43 of 72
so my 9 mo ds has erections - some I have noticed during sleep. should I/Could I learn to associate this with need to urinate to help in ec.

ds sleep nakey butt as part of ec (potty training) and he has learned to mostly keep his bed dry, except during growth spurts... and I also have seen erectinos when he is on the toilet. at his age is it safe to say these are all sings of a full bladder? That he needs to go...
post #44 of 72

"morning erection"

My DH refers to it as the "morning erection" and there is nothing sexual about it and nothing they can control (or so I've been told).

I've also seen this in my boys, nothing to worry about. I don't think it's a sign that they need to pee either.
post #45 of 72
The biggest issue we have is an exuberant, roly-poly, KICKING toddler who somehow manages to aim at daddy's groin at 5 am.
post #46 of 72
LOL My family was a co-sleeping family and I still would climb into bed with my parents in the mornings until I was....10 (They were hippies, what can I say?) At one point my mom gently asked that I stop coming in and as an adult she told me it was because she was concerned I would notice my dad's morning erections and be scarred for life!
post #47 of 72
Anarkissed Mama, I too did not like the tone in which some responded to your question. As far as jumping to the "arousal" assumption, I don't think your post insinuated that you were thinking that in any way. And you did not sound ignorant about erections. This is an older post, but I just wanted to voice my support.

This is the first thread I've read in the Dads area, and this is the first thread I've seen a poster get jumped all over. Go figure.
post #48 of 72
I don't see what the big deal is. Your child only needs to know what (s)he needs to know. If they ask what a penis is, tell them. If they ask what it's for, tell them. It's only weird if you (general you) make it that way.
post #49 of 72
How would she even know..... I mean- our daughter are always in bed with us in the morning and sometimes things pop up- but it is not something that they notice, and why would they? I guess I am confused....
post #50 of 72
My husband walked around with only underwear on until my step-daughter was 9 or so... she never asked, never cared. Then at that age, she already knew about sex (because of our many talks) so I guess by the time she was old enough to ask/care, she knew... It just seems like such a non-issue and if she does ask... why can't she be told the truth? Maybe I'm more open then most but I have no problem talking to my children about sex and the human body... Lord knows my daughter is going to see my son's erections at some point anyway. The child never has clothes on.
post #51 of 72
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Originally Posted by treefolk View Post
I never knew it was a pee thing (and we have great communication!).....aw man, I thought it was me all this time - guess that just burst my bubble
yeah same here.

Our 21 mo DD often sees my husband naked in the mornings. And currently she is into clothing. So this weekend she points towards my DH penis, we are thinking here it comes..., and she says daddy you need pants and starts getting his pants

Carma
post #52 of 72

Body functions

We cosleep, and our daughter hasn't raised the question yet. She's three months old. But when she notices, it'll be one of those things where we just teach her that this is something that my body does in the mornings. Nothing to panic about. My wife already knows that erections don't necessarily = arousal.

As far as it being connected to peeing: don't care what the experts say, doesn't apply here. Go figure...
post #53 of 72
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That simply isn't the case but it ISN'T common knowledge that it is a normal thing that happens to all men.
Seriously? How can someone sleep with a man every night and not know that they wake up with morning wood?

Anyway, I would like to say that I didn't think the OP was making a big deal about anything, just asking a question, which people tend to do on discussion boards...
post #54 of 72
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Originally Posted by Sea_Guy View Post
As far as it being connected to peeing: don't care what the experts say, doesn't apply here. Go figure...
Phew. DH isn't the only one that doesn't think pee has anything to do with it. We were starting to wonder if he was weird or something...not that it's a problem...it's kinda nice knowing he just thinks it's because I'm hot.:
post #55 of 72
Mtiger: totally agree. I didn't find it condescending at all either. I was also surprised that it wasn't common knowledge. Even before I got married, they taught it in my human sexuality class at school! But I guess not all schools teach that? :

Gabysmom: I agree about society. My dh and I talk about EVERYTHING (and I mean everything! he sometimes gets calls at work to tell him I pooped too much (and thus have hemmorhoids), and he calls me to warn me that he's coming home with really bad gas from the beans I made him! ) Within a week of sleeping under the same roof as my dh, I knew his erection habits... It was better than an alarm clock! I knew when it went up that it was time to wake him for work! . But I guess we're more open than most... :

Sea_guy: its not ALWAYS a pee thing... My dh's comes up if he's tired (which seems totally contradictory! ) or if his boxers are too tight and pull the wrong way. Still not sexual, but not always pee related either...
post #56 of 72
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Originally Posted by mtiger View Post
I didn't find the Dad response condescending at all. Presumably, we are all adults here, have all got some basic understanding of how human sexuality works (even that of the opposite gender) and what we don't know we know how to google or look up otherwise. It's gobsmacking (to me) that an adult woman who has had sex and slept in the same bed with a man more than once wouldn't know that adult men do wake up erect at times.

Sorry, but it's not rdl's fault some are ignorant wrt how the human body works.
Well, ya know, I know how sex works, I know how google works, I'm married to a man, and quite honestly, I'd always been under the mistaken idea that "morning wood" only happened to old guys. For as long as we've been together the very second my husband wakes up he stumbles to the john. I have no clue if his penis is soft, hard, or missing completely until he gets back in bed. So n'yeah!
post #57 of 72
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Originally Posted by JBaxter View Post
When my oldest was about 5 he asked why his penis stood up really tall in the mornings I told him it was because he had to pee and it was full: Worked for us when he told his dad that he better hurry up and go potty cause his penis was full ( he usually joined us in bed at about 3 or 4 every morning)
I love this answer!!! It's factual but to a child's taste.
post #58 of 72
In our house we talk about our bodies all the time. We see each other naked every day too. So, when anything new is noticed, we explain. I have found even when I am a bit uncomfortable with explaining something plain old staightforward works best. I just keep it age appropriate.

My ds learned about sex when I got pregnant, he wanted to know all he could about the baby. I just gave him the answers. He has not asked anymore yet, when he does, he'll get more info!

I just think the more natural we are about our bodies, the better the messages we are sending to our kids.
post #59 of 72
Good talk in this thread.

We co-sleep... Haven't noticed an issue. I'm never awake enough to know if I'm sport'n wood or not. But DW is the light sleeper in the bouse and would definately joke about it later.

Right, dear?

All of the responses about discussing it openly are right on target with what I would do. If you want to wait to discuss... roll onto your tummy!
post #60 of 72
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Originally Posted by mtiger View Post
It's gobsmacking (to me) that an adult woman who has had sex and slept in the same bed with a man more than once wouldn't know that adult men do wake up erect at times.

Sorry, but it's not rdl's fault some are ignorant wrt how the human body works.
Wow. Just... wow.

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Originally Posted by Tishie View Post
Seriously? How can someone sleep with a man every night and not know that they wake up with morning wood?
Um... I don't sleep with my face in my husband's crotch? Does everyone else who thinks anyone who doesn't know everything is a drooling idiot, wake up every morning and examine their husband's crotches?

I've been married for 6 years and I've never seen a morning erection. Hmm, let's see, could we POSSIBLY use a couple of brain cells and come up with some POSSIBLE reasons why that could be the case? :

- Maybe I get up before DH does?
- Maybe DH gets up before I do?
- Maybe he loses his erection earlier than your DH does?
- Maybe DH wears different types of clothes to bed (even, say, jeans?)
- Maybe he has a habit of "tucking" the erection into his waistband?
- Maybe I don't STARE at my husband's crotch all the time?

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Originally Posted by Shadow Papa View Post
I'm never awake enough to know if I'm sport'n wood or not.
GASP! Look! A *MAN* who doesn't notice his OWN morning wood!!! Would anyone care to throw rocks at him?? Wow, what an ignoramus!!! (Sorry Shadow Papa, being sarcastic here of course).

Would you all really stone everyone who didn't know similar things about a woman's anatomy? I've heard lots of things - several males who thought women pee out of their vaginas, don't have a clue where the clitoris is located, don't know what a cervix is, think a woman's egg hangs around to be fertilized for a week after ovulation, think PMS starts when the woman's period starts, and call vulvas vaginas. Not to mention not knowing the difference between a nipple and an areola. What on earth should we do with these morons???
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