:And online and irl I have witnessed some "rants" from white, well-off women who want to adopt or have a surrogate carry their child that just really, really turn me off and appall me. I've personally been on the receiving end of "why did someone like YOU get to have a baby when *I* can't?" Because you know I'm so horribly undeserving of my child, and they deserve her! Argh, talk about triggering a mama bear response!
I am one of those well-off white women that have ranted "Why can you have a baby and I can't" . It is not that we are horrible, evil people. I was just so desperate to have a baby. For over 6 years that is what my life revolved around. I remember feeling so horribly jealous of women who could have children. I thought it was so hiddeously unfair that a teenage girl who didn't want a baby, couldn't afford to feed or clothe the baby and didn't have any kind of support could have a baby, but I couldn't. Here I was married and able to care for a baby and had a great support system, etc, etc., but I couldn't have a baby. I didn't thnk anyone was undeserving of a child. I just wanted to know why I didn't deserve a child.
all I am saying is that those statements are coming from desperate women who are in the middle of their own personal hell. They are not trying to hurt anyone. They are just trying to make sense of their own situation. I wouldn't take it personally. I hope this makes sense.
I would definately be a surrogate!!!!!