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post #1 of 10
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Very brief (and maybe irrelevant) background -

I am a single mama who's ds's father contributes $50/paycheque for him, which I put into an RESP (education savings plan). I am a full-time shiftworker (70 hours bi-weekly), who makes a very good wage, grossing a little under $45k a year. (Last year was around $39k and the previous four years were part-time and probably closer to $29k). This past year, prior to a cumulative retroactive raise of roughly 6% as well as reaching the next level in my hours and getting the resulting raise for becoming a 4th year clerk, I put nearly $8000 free and clear into a savings acount towards a house, which I hope to buy this spring/early summer (I am tired of renting and want to do this for my son and myself). I have started a registered retirement savings plan as well into which I transferred $7800 of my house fund. As a first-time homebuyer I can borrow up to $20k (provided I have it in there for at least 90 days) tax free from my RRSP and pay it back at a low rate over a long period of time. First-time homebuyers also don't need a downpayment but obviously have to be able to show that they have money.

The questions are buried in here:

So. In an effort to hurry my savings and promote a healthier financial/personal style (I like to spend money if I have it) I've decided to attempt to eat out of my pantry buying only produce, milk, eggs (which I don't eat many of), and other things only as needed. In the health area, I've started forcing myself to eat three meals a day and two snacks (previously, I often only ate supper since I was making it for my toddler and no snacks - weekdays he eats lunch at daycare). I recently purchased a small (less than 5 cubic feet) deep freezer since my fridge freezer, which is self-defrost, wasn't doing it's job to my standards. I understand the concept of getting several meals from one meal but does anyone have any recommendations for really good (ie: quick, simple ingredients, homestyle food, easy-to-cook) cookbooks that don't make enough for an family of 10? I know recipes can be cut down but I find it discouraging to have to adapt so much and want something to adapt to me! Any good crockpot recipes/books that fit the same bill? I'd guess that an original recipe calling for 5 chicken breasts is going to cook slower than one using only 2 breasts and if my pot is cooking while I'm at work...

I've paid off the credit card again, which feels very good. I only have the one card. It was never a huge amount and I try to pay it each month but it sometimes creeps up and takes a couple months to pay off. All I have left on it is $160, which is part of my next bill statement. I use cc to fill the car up with gas, pay for groceries, and for household stock-ups since I only get a limited number of transactions with my debit card before paying $1.25 for each additional swipe. I don't use much cold cash since the bank is so difficult to get to for me.

I realize that this is a very broad question and that I've been rambling without any totally clear point but do you have any tips for me in general? I need to go through my closet and weed out clothes and consign them (picked up $175 in the summer from clothes, which I put into the house fund). My son is fine for clothes at the moment though he will need a few pants in the coming months; I can make him t-shirts from my fabric stash though it is so much easier to just buy them. Expenses for him are really only diapers. I cloth-diapered part-time but I would need to start making him a stash of size large now as he outgrows the mediums and I'm not sure it's cost-effective to do that (I'd have to stock up on a few diaper-sewing supplies since my stash is depleted nearly and I also don't have much time to sew them). I've made him some pull-up waterproof trainers, which daycare uses in the mornings; I told them I wasn't buying commerical pull-ups ($$$) and they'd have to use mama-sewn ones.

I have very limited space to store bulk items (food or otherwise) and am concerned about using it before it goes bad. I already have a large bag of brown rice that I find tastes a little old however is fine if I make a risotto-type dish with a cream soup and veggies (quick and cheap too).

And I'll stop now. : Basically I'm wondering what un-extreme measures I can take to make meals easier and quicker, not have to see the same meal as leftovers for a week straight, chop a couple of dollars here and there, etc. I've opened an ING Direct account that I plan to put a couple dollars in per month as a forced savings and forget about; on $6700 at my regular bank I got literally only a couple cents interest on my house fund account. I'd do a coin jar (every little bit helps right, and we have $1 and $2 coins up here) but I so rarely have cash that when I DO, I like to keep it in my wallet for those tiny purchases.

Okay. I'm done. If you've read this far through my rambling, just toss whatever thoughts you have at me. Cost-saving, dollar-stretching, meal-planning, neat ideas, etc.
post #2 of 10
No advice, since there are 4 of and we're big eaters , but I wanted to say WOW, you are one together single working mama. I'm so impressed. Keep up the good work!
post #3 of 10
I don't know about portions (we have 5 in our family), but I really like the Fix It and Forget It cookbook for crockpot meals.

Also, if you have enough freezer space, you could spend the weekend cooking the portions in any given book (so, probably about double what you would need), and freeze the leftovers. Cook a few days in a row and freeze the leftovers. Then you can rotate your leftovers, so you don't get tired of it.

I just want to say that I applaud you for being so organized and commited! Way to go, Mama!!!
post #4 of 10

How about freezing foods?

like make the serving for 6, serve 2 servings at dinner (one for you, one for your child (leftovers from that meal = lunch the next day) and have 2 dinners worth to freeze? I do this a lot. works really well for meat sauce, meal loaf, mac and cheese, as well as some sides, like home made baked beans, lots of stuff. And it is so easy to just take it out in the morning, come home, warm it up and have dinner...
post #5 of 10
Most crock pots recomend that the pot be at least half full when cooking so that might not work well for small (one person) meals. Like pp said I would go ahead and cook the full recipe and freez the left overs in individual portions. Then later you can pull it out and re-heat it for a quick meal some other time. If you have a stash of leftovers in the freezer you don't need to have the same thing over and over.

Another thing I do to help save time is when I get home from the market I wash all my produce right away. I also cut up some carrots, onions, celery, broccoli, red pepper and mushrooms into a bucket in the fridge. When it comes time to cook dinner I just toss some veggies in a pan and saute. They can become a surfry with some ginger and garlic. Add a can of diced tomatoes and some herbs or a can of mushroom soup and they become a nice sauce for pasta or rice and so on.
post #6 of 10
I agree with the others and the crock pot - you can buy a smaller one and you still will end up with food for 4 adults... why not make a meal on Monday, eat dinner from it, take a serving for lunch Tuesday, and freeze the rest.. then Tuesday you make a new meal (something quick in the kitchen), repeat the crock on Weds night for dinner... by week 2 you have a 1/2 week of frozen meals plus you can use the crock on M-W-F to make more meals, and eat from the frozen ones on Tue-Thurs, and as you continue to freeze/cook like this, you will end up with quite a selection of meals to pick from in the freezer that only require being warmed up, or you can use them as lunch meals.

Making a pantry list and using that stuff up is a great idea, also always use a list when you go grocery shopping.

Great job on having no debt, and savings already... you are well on the way to having that home! If you can, I'd suggest not borrowing against the retirement money, just because it's a riskier thing than using savings or taking a home loan.
post #7 of 10
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Originally Posted by Purplehaze View Post
like make the serving for 6, serve 2 servings at dinner (one for you, one for your child (leftovers from that meal = lunch the next day) and have 2 dinners worth to freeze?
Yeah. I do that a lot. Most recipes I have serve 6-8, so I divide it into halves or thirds, and typically freeze a bunch. I actually did some stuff last week. Cookbooks that have piqued my interest over the years are... Saving Dinner by Leanne Ely, pretty much any of the Taste of Home or Quick Cooking (by Taste of Home) cookbooks, there's one Freezer meal/cookbook I saw years ago from the library, but I forget the exact name. And check out the pantry/freezer challenge thread. I've gotten a few great recipes from there this month.

The fuller a crockpot is the better things cook, IME. Just find a smaller crockpot, you'd probably be able to find one on craigslist or something. Depending on the ingredients, you might be fine to make a big batch of something and freeze the stuff you don't plan to eat.

As for adapting recipes, if you go to allrecipes.com or something like that, you can put in the amount of servings you want to end up with and it'll change the ingredient amounts before you print it out. Kinda handy if you don't want to figure out the fractions - which is a lifesaver for me when I'm having a mommy-brain day.
post #8 of 10
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Thanks mamas! Keep 'em coming. I do have a regular-sized crockpot as well as a smaller one (2L or 3L) but I can count on one hand the number of times I've used either one. Neither one is digital or has a timer but some day soon when I'm home for a few hours I'm going to see if a regular light timer will work so I can set it to come on halfway through the day and be ready for supper since turning it on at 5:30 in the morning when I leave for day shifts would be far too early for a 4:30 return-home time.

I also have a forced pension plan through work 6% - increasing to 8% this year - comes off each paycheque and I can't opt out of it. Mandatory for full-time municpal employees whose employers are part of the pension plan program. The RRSP is just an additional savings and, on the advice of my family's long-time financial advisor, an option for the house plan should I need to use it.

I apologize again for my rambling and disjointed original post! I just re-read it and OMG!! Too many thoughts and not enough thought into creating a neat and tidy post.
post #9 of 10
Wow, you sound like you're doing great!

Not in the food department - when you buy a house, could you find a place with a separate suite to rent out?
post #10 of 10
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I can see the advantage of having a rental unit and may do that at some point with a future house but I so do not want to do that at this point. I am tired of having other tenants around to be considerate of (and tired of being frustrated that they're not being considerate of me). I'm tired of making sure Brogan is quiet, to the point of not allowing him to do some normal childhood things because it will be annoying to the tenants downstairs. I don't think that I want the responsibility of being a landlord either. I'm hoping to find a small 3-bedroom (since 3br is better for re-sale here than a 2br) or 3br + den house, older but not old, in good condition but a few necessary touch-ups are okay (since my dad is handy and used to be an electrician, my mom can paint, sew, lay tile and flooring, my ex is a drywaller, etc.).
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