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post #21 of 45
Being alone overnight has never bothered me. I think I'd let ds1 stay overnight very soon (he's almost 14), except that I'm afraid he might slip and tell a friend that he was going to be home with no parents...and I don't want the infamous "hey - did you hear about that kid whose parents aren't going to be home this weekend? He's having a party!" scenario playing out in my living room. I'm going to guess that I'd be okay with it at about 16...depending on whether or not his brain dribbles out his ear in the next couple of years.
post #22 of 45
I had way too much responsiblity as a child /teen. I was baysitting overnight by age 14 or 15. It is really important to me that my kids don't have that kind of responsiblity.
Currently my daughter is on a travel vollyball team and my husband is staying home with my 16 year old son and I call frequently. I think it is important to have that human connection . Sallie
post #23 of 45
I am 28 years old and still never spent a night alone. Although I used to work nightshift until dd was born. When dh went out of town a few years ago, my mother stayed at my house overnight to babysit my dogs while I worked nightshift. I was afraid to leave even my dogs alone overnight.

Mom and Dad never left us alone when we were teens. When Dad had to have surgery and mom wanted to stay in the hospital overnight, my Nana stayed with us. I was 15, and brother was 17.

I had a few friends in highschool that had some wild parties when their parents would go away for a weekend. These were normally responsible kids, too.
post #24 of 45
If they didn't mind being home alone, probably 13 or 14. I would see if they wanted to have a friend over for the night (or girlfriend/boyfriend, if they were a bit older), but I would trust them alone.
post #25 of 45
When my sister & I were teenagers about (16,18) my parent went away for a few days. You better beleive that there was drinking, smoking & boys. My neighbor was supposed to keep an eye on the house. They only joked to my parents about the strobe light.

I have a ways to go before my kids are teens & I'm faced with decision like this.
post #26 of 45
"depending on whether or not his brain dribbles out his ear in the next couple of years."

Oh..... I think you can pretty much count on that :>))
post #27 of 45
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When my sister & I were teenagers about (16,18) my parent went away for a few days. You better beleive that there was drinking, smoking & boys. My neighbor was supposed to keep an eye on the house. They only joked to my parents about the strobe light.

I have a ways to go before my kids are teens & I'm faced with decision like this.
this is what i have been thinking about. even responsible kids can be put in a place of temptation that they would normally not think about doing until the parents have left the house. not saying it would happen, just that it could.
post #28 of 45
For me, it is not really my kids I don't trust. One of my kids, the 16 year old boy would probably be fine but lonely.
The other is a girl, will be 14 in April. She is a great young lady. She also does not stand up to peer pressure that great. I have already dealt with this quite a bit of that the past year or so. I would be concenred about other kids coming over. We had a nieghbor girl come over here in the middle of the night,etc. Also, a few weeks ago, kids wanted ot leave the movie theatre and my duaghter went right along with it.The same girl came over in the middle of the day and they got in a car. My daughter is not the instigator but she is a follwer. She has some growng to do. I think by the time she is 18 and ready to go to college,she will be fine but the standing up to the peer pressure stuff will take time. Sallie
post #29 of 45
I think 14 or so would be a good age. My brother and I stayed home alone for a weekend when I was around 15 or 16 (he's a year younger than me). Nothing bad happened. We just sat around watching movies and playing Atari. Hey, it was the 80s. I think if you trust your kid is responsible it's fine to leave them overnight.
post #30 of 45
Maybe when she hits 16. It's not that I wouldn't trust her before that. She does not want to be home alone after dark now and I don't see that changing anytime soon.
post #31 of 45
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Originally Posted by jane197 View Post
"depending on whether or not his brain dribbles out his ear in the next couple of years."

Oh..... I think you can pretty much count on that :>))
So far, I've been pleasantly surprised. He's more resistant to showers, can't seem to keep track of his clothes, and is occasionally somewhat surly and short-tempered (he denies this vehemently, however). Other than that, he's still the same person he always was. He's a great kid - I like him a lot.
post #32 of 45
"He's more resistant to showers, can't seem to keep track of his clothes"

You mean the system of "sprinkling" the clothes around the bedroom floor isn't working for him? - lol. Maybe that is a girl thing. My daughter's bedroom floor looks like she has experienced several major earthquakes in the last several weeks even though I have not heard of any strong seismic activity in the area :>)

But hey, you have to pick your battles, and her own personal organization system works for her -as she amazingly knows where everything is.
post #33 of 45
How about at 25! NO really I think that it depends on the kid. If yours is a good kid and very responsible 16 would be fine. If not I think that I would wait a while. It's alot of responsibility to be home alone and can even be sacary to older kids. Heck when my husband works nights it still freaks me out a wee bit and I'm about to have my 3rd child!
post #34 of 45
I was 16, nearly 17. My parents still don't really trust me alone, though. I'm not entirely sure why, especially since I loathe the party scene and would therefore keep my alone-ness a secret closely guarded.
But there are also people I know who, if they were my kids, I would NEVER let them stay home overnight. So much irresponsibility.
post #35 of 45
My daughter is 14. I am NOT overprotective at all.

But, I am no where near ready to leave her overnight. I don't think I could sleep, knowing she was home alone. If she had a sibling, maybe I would. I think when I do the first time, it will be with a friend. Just incase she gets scared.

This is an excellent thread idea though. This gives me some idea of what would be considered normal.
post #36 of 45
21? 25? At 14, if we were alone at home, there would have been a party at our house. Then again, I was completely 100% responsible babysitting others' children for a weekend at 11 (and I did it, for a baby and a 3 year old) and never ever had a friend over while babysitting. My own home, on the other hand, was a perfect place to have a party!!
post #37 of 45
18. maybe 17, depending on circumstances. But it would depend on the child and his/her comfort & maturity level and wherther they were chomping at the rebellion bit thinking a party involving alcohol and drugs would be a brillaint thing to host.
post #38 of 45
Thread Starter 
my husband clarified this for me and said 30!!
i think i agree
post #39 of 45
Depends on the specific child.

14-ish sounds like a good number, though.
post #40 of 45
BTW, when I was a kid, my parents never really went away, so I don't remember staying home alone at night... but I did house-sit in my brother's house, alone, for a week when I was 16.
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