Sex

[deuxceleste]

Yes or no?

I'm feeling guilty

[tika]

Yes!!!

DH and I have been out of sync for months, going many weeks at a time without. We're back in sync again...thankfully!

Gotta make up for lost time and stock up for even more lost time after the baby comes. tee hee

[Wild Flowers]

I am confused Are you asking if we are still having it? If that is your question, oh yeah. Not only is my dh a scopio sex maniac, he is also going to be deployed on and off throughout the next month and a half. And after that the whole "6 weeks" that ends up more like 3 after baby of recovery, well, I am trying to get as much in as possible. The poor guy. Though I admit that it is really uncomfy. And he knows this so he tries to make it worth it for me. He is such a sweetie and massages my back thoughout. Though really, we have had some miscommunication of, can you massage my back and he thinks I am asking for something else...Or he says, I will massage your back and I think I am just getting a massage....sigh
Why do you feel guilty?

[deuxceleste]

Ah, scorpios... I know them well

I'm feeling guilty cause I'm still not interested in sex very often... once or twice a week maybe? MAYbe.

And yes, that is what I was asking.

[a~...Mamacitaa~...]

yes.. but really the ponly way we can DtD is on hands and knees.. this belly is just too big.. and i can't breath..LOL...

[Wild Flowers]

I wouldn't feel guilty, I mean if I wasn't getting a massage with it, I am not sure if it would really be worth it. With the whole pelvic thing going, I feel horribly clumsy and we have had to eliminate many postions. Pretty much the only thing that works is spooning.

[tika]

We found an awesome "T" shaped position when preggo with DD and it's worked just as well this time around.

[karen1968]

Hey, deuxceleste, I think you need to start more threads!

As for sex...what is that again? Oh, yeah, it's what got us in this condition, right?

I haven't had a libido in months. For a while, I ignored that, and went by DH's cues. But the last time we had sex, I "popped" something in my pelvis, and I've had pelvic/hip pain ever since (that was...I don't know! Before Christmas). Makes it hard to WANT to do anything, and coupled with my lack of libido, well...there hasn't been any action in our bed in a long time.

BUT, and I'm hoping this means a change is coming, I've had sex dreams twice this week! And once I woke up on the verge of orgasm (oh, damn dog for waking me up!). Maybe a little sex is still possible before DS arrives...one can hope!

ETA: I should add that my DH is COMPLETELY understanding, and seems to have resigned himself to no sex for the foreseeable future. We do kiss and cuddle and get close, just no genital play at all.

(oh, yeah, and I'm a Scorpio, too. A Scorpio with no sex drive! Who knew that was possible??)

[MotheringHeart]

Yeah, but we only do it about once or twice a week. Poor DH, for a while there it was less than once a week and I felt terrible, but I was honestly not interested at ALL. We've tried to *glam* it up and change things around so that I feel more interested and that has really worked. I know things get better after the baby comes so I guess I feel less guilty since I realize it is a temporary lull for us!

[blessed with boys]

Gee....you all are still having sex? Now I feel guilty lol.
Now I may have to tell dh to come home early.

[Wild Flowers]

"t" postion? Explain tika, if you can. I am trying to figure it out but my imagination isn't working too well I guess.
and Karen, no I didn't think it was possible to see a scorpio with no sex drive. But then pregnancy does weird things.

[tika]

It is tricky and sometimes takes a minute for us to get situated and remember what goes where though we're getting pretty good at remembering...

Let's see...me laying pretty much on my back, hips tilted up and a little toward DH. DH is on his side facing me and enters somewhat toward the back at an angle (making a "T" shape almost). I have one leg (the one closest to him) on top of his hip and the other leg is in between his legs. I grab his top leg and pull toward me during. I think I let my hips back down once he is inserted properly.

LMAO @ my description, I hope that's right.

Provides perfect stimulation in front for me to O and my belly isn't in the way at all.

That was really hard to explain!

[Llyra]

Sex? What's that?

[karen1968]

Originally Posted by tika

Let's see...me laying pretty much on my back, hips tilted up and a little toward DH. DH is on his side facing me and enters somewhat toward the back at an angle (making a "T" shape almost). I have one leg (the one closest to him) on top of his hip and the other leg is in between his legs. I grab his top leg and pull toward me during. I think I let my hips back down once he is inserted properly.

We did this a lot in the second trimester. A little awkward at times, but it works. :

[deuxceleste]

Originally Posted by Llyra

Sex? What's that?

Eh.

[FLMama092485]

Originally Posted by Wild Flowers

I wouldn't feel guilty, I mean if I wasn't getting a massage with it, I am not sure if it would really be worth it. With the whole pelvic thing going, I feel horribly clumsy and we have had to eliminate many postions. Pretty much the only thing that works is spooning.

Originally Posted by tika

We found an awesome "T" shaped position when preggo with DD and it's worked just as well this time around.

I know both positions very well. We also do a lot of doggy. But I am only having it about once a week to every other week depending on my mood. And with DD I didn't wait the full 6 weeks and that was after a c/s. I think the night after I came home we did. But he was so gental. But any way right now DH works 2 jobs and I am working one so I guess we are just to tired to think about it.

[Mavournin]

Sex? : Yeah right.

My sex drive went out the window right around the time I got pg. It always happens to me this way. I won't really get it back until I wean this babe - which isn't likely to happen for over a year.

But, it has happened occasionally this pregnancy. I asked Dh a couple weeks ago about his "needs" and he basically said that he's too afraid of hurting me. It is a logical answer as I've had severe pelvic problems this pregnancy and I'm in a lot of pain most of the time.

I figure it will happen at least one more time - in about 7-8 weeks when I'm begging him to do his "manly duty" and get the baby out.

[deuxceleste]

Originally Posted by Mavournin

Sex? : Yeah right.

My sex drive went out the window right around the time I got pg. It always happens to me this way. I won't really get it back until I wean this babe - which isn't likely to happen for over a year.

But, it has happened occasionally this pregnancy. I asked Dh a couple weeks ago about his "needs" and he basically said that he's too afraid of hurting me. It is a logical answer as I've had severe pelvic problems this pregnancy and I'm in a lot of pain most of the time.

I figure it will happen at least one more time - in about 7-8 weeks when I'm begging him to do his "manly duty" and get the baby out.

lol yes! I guess i never thought of it that way before! His "manly duty." Hm. He'd like that.

Over a year? Wow. See... I know *intellectually* dp knows that it might be a while, but does he really *understand......*? Time will tell. And hopefully I won't be out of the sex loop forever.

But yes, I completely understand the pain. And part of what turns me off to sex is that I feel so sexually UNadventurous. Like, as in "okay, this is the ONE position that you can take, but DON'T take too long, k, you gotta be quick cause it starts hurting after a minute."

Sigh. Pregnancy woes.

[bemommy]

tika, yes. . that's a really great position.

We've been DTD once or twice a week which is actually pretty frequent for us. It's good, but, um. . doesn't last very long. I am very quick to O and even quicker when pregnant. . .

[Wild Flowers]

Tika, we have done that postion. I can't be on my back like at all anymore. It kinda sucks. I used to be able to handle it for longer the last two times, this time I start really getting out of breath and light headed and not just because of activities. I remember last pregnancy I had heard if you prop up one side of your back it wouldn't be so bad, the baby wouldn't be lying on that vein. Well, don't try sex like that, it really doesn't work very well Bemommy, I am the same way. He has apoligized a few times for being quick, its like, thats fine honey, prefer it that way, do you really need to be sorry when you o once and I 10 times? I don't think so. Though this postion isn't the greatest for it. But I am pregnant enough that a massage is preferable to Oing.