A pissy vent about nursing discretely - Page 2

[guestmama9924]

For anyone that hates the "booby burka" this is a hilarious comic from Hathor
Male Gaze

[Sofiamomma]

That's a beautiful photo of Lucy Lawless. What is she in again? I know, I'm a geek! I also liked the cartoon.

I like the nursing tops with two slits and a flap. I'm out and about a lot and I like to be discreet for others' sake, but more and more lately I'm getting tired of worrying about them. Plus nursing tops are expensive. I have plenty of clothes that work just fine. All I have to do is pull them up. I do have some material and a pattern, but haven't found the time yet.

This weekend I'm helping my dad with a street fair. Yesterday I had on a T-shirt and pulled it up. He covered us with a blanket. I just said thanks. I figured he was nervous about what his customers would think, so today I wore a nursing top. He tried to cover us up again. I said "Dad I am wearing a nursing top! Nothing is showing!" He said "Oh, I guess not. Sorry, I guess I'm just a prude." Poor guy. He's pretty progressive, but I'll have to work on him some more! I did go somewhere else a few times. It was his first fair, so I didn't want to add to his stress.

At this same fair, I was talking to my mom about object permanence and how babies do not know something still exists if it is covered up until they are about 9 months old. I said,"But my two month old knows where my breasts are when they are covered up!" I said it in a normal conversational voice and her initial reaction was to laugh, but then she quickly looked around to see if anyone else heard! Bwa ha ha ha ha!!

[youngnhappymamma]

I tried a nursing top with this third baby when she was a newborn...mostly to cover up my generous belly rolls (that's Belly rolls...not Jelly rolls...all though they do have a similar consistancy...) and it was a major pain to try and fish myself out of the hole and not bare it all and all the while my baby is like "what the heck is taking so long, mom?" plus it was really a bulky shirt ...I usually just wear a t-shirt and this was really thick....and it was sort of ugly. So I returned it and will never use a nursing shirt again! I just lift my shirt. And use my maya wrap to cover the rolls. I have gotten less discreet with each baby and the longer I nurse....mostly because I forget that I am in public, etc. At home I just whip it out and bare it all (I'm sure my neighbors get an eye full) so when out in public that is my first inclination. I really am not embarrased for people to see my breast....but then I think about the time when I was bf in public and not being terribly discreet about it and then saw a man from my church approaching and tried to cover up a bit more...I would be embarresed in that sort of a situation...although I am working on that!!! And gettting better!

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

Originally posted by Sofiamomma
That's a beautiful photo of Lucy Lawless. What is she in again?

xena

[sadean]

When I was nursing both of my kids (individually, never together), I tried to be somewhat discreet, but didn't go out of my way. My family (both immediate and ILs) tolerated and for the most part supported me and were not particularly embarrassed to be with me in public. I think I may have helped my sister "get over it" (about nursing discreetly at home and out) somewhat. But then, I come from a family where all of the women who have had children have nursed them (though not as long as me ), so in that respect I feel blessed with support and the expectation that "of course you will nurse".

Kind of funny "baring it all" story: when my brother was a baby (circ. 1976-7), my mother took him out somewhere and was wearing a wrap-around dress that was the fashion then. While holding him standing in line talking to someone he "discreetly" untied it to get at "the girls" (without her noticing). Her dress practically fell off of her when she shifted her weight and him to the other hip It was at that moment that she (sadly) decided to wean him to hopefully prevent any future public displays of her body So showing a little boob can never be as bad as my mother's dress falling off in the middle of a public services office.