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vbac moms...i had an epiphany!

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Not sure if any other vbac-ing moms are feeling like this, but I feel like i'm becoming obsessed with doing everything, learning everything, reading tons to ensure I do everything possible to have my vbac. I finally decided that was nuts and that i need to just allow my body to do what it is going to do. there's no possible way that i can learn everything before the birth, so i need to just surrender.
but here's my epiphany: i'm going to stop thinking about this as a vbac. It's really and truly Elise's BIRTH! It isn't her "vaginal birth after cesarean"-i mean, people who have had vaginal births don't go around saying they are having VBAVs--vaginal births after vaginals! So i'm focusing on my daughter, and that this is about HER--her birth, her entrance into this world...not my past. just wanted to share in case that helps anyone else. I felt like a lightbulb went on and I'm now feeling with my heart instead of thinking with my head.
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Good for you mama! I think that is the best way to look at it and now you'll be able to relax more and enjoy her wonderful birth!!
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Thanks Bennifer, I too have been caught in the VBAC whirlwind of overanalysing, thinking too much. I firmly believe that this is just another birth and I just have to relax and let it happen but many times I forget and go a little crazy. Thanks for the timely reminder.
Good luck to us all!
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Good for you! I am having my 3rd VBAC....so I think less and less about it being a VBAC and more just the birth of my next wonderful blessing!
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Good for you! I think an important part of my c-section recovery was getting over the vbac thing. My son's c-section was scheduled for breech presentation and even before he was born I was telling the OB I was going to vbac. I feel like I was a vbac mom before my first baby was even born.

Anyway, I have had the same feelings as you. VBAC is a great, empowering term but it does not fit every birth. My sister and I were both born vaginally. Yet her birth story does not begin with my birth. The term vbac automatically refers to a prior baby's birth. Also, if I have five kids will I always be a vbac mom? When does that allow me to "get over" my c-section?

I think the term vbac is a wonderful, powerful statement. I can't wait to experience a vaginal birth soon. I also get exactly where you are coming from!
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