Originally Posted by thepeach80
I think we need to be a little kinder here, Tiffany did preface what she said w/ she had experienced sexual abuse as a child. If you haven't been there, you have no idea what you would/wouldn't do IMO. I know Tiffany and maybe that's why I didn't read into it as deep as some others. I didn't read it as she was saying those who get naked in front of thier kids are wrong, she just offered up her thoughts and some ideas that she uses. I'm still naked in front of AJ and we're both fine w/ that right now. I totally see her point. I know AJ is only 3, but I have not instilled in him like I should that no one else should see him naked. I think that's where being comfortable w/ everyone being naked at home could confuse children in that it's NOT o.k. to be naked in front of others, strangers, etc. A good friend of mine's ds (same age as Evan) will not let anyone change his diaper but her and her DH for the most part b/c she has taught him that no one is to see his penis or touch him. That's great and I love that. My kids are 'free' children and love to be naked in front of everyone b/c it is normal at home. IMO, that's what Tiffany is talking about. I sexually assaulted as a teen by a boyfriend so my thoughts on these things don't fall into play till later in a child's life b/c that is the age that impacted me. I plan on doing things differently w/ my kids than my parents did in hopes of 1) it not happening to my children (especially dd since she is more at risk) and 2) if it does happen, they can tell me ASAP and not be scared of what will happen.
You honestly think a baby (still in diapers!!!) should feel uncomfortable having another caregiver change their diaper?!
Or a 3 yr. old shouldn't be naked in front of people?!
I changed my son from clothes-->trunks-->clothes outside by the pool all the time last summer, at 3.5. Until recently (3? 3.5?) he spent every second at home naked, including when guests were over. He'll happily play naked with his friends, now (which happened fairly recently when they decided to jump in a little garden pond at a friend's potluck). I feel proud that he is so comfortable with his body and not modest or self-conscious.
I don't think raising confident children who are comfortable with nudity leads to sexual abuse. My child is not AT ALL ashamed of his body and would not hesitate to tell me if anyone did anything to him (trust me, the kid was born a tattletale).