Babymoon privacy letter?

[medaroge]

Hi everyone, I know I have seen threads about this before, but couldnt find one today. I am looking for wording for two letters; one to be sent out in e-mail and post-card that will say something to the effect of this:

To all friends and family:

We would like to thank you all for all the support you have given us throughout this pregnancy with Jacob. We would love to share this special time with you. We ask that you please call before you visit; in the hospital or when we are at home.

Love,
the Medaroge Family

Ps- If you think this does not apply to you … it applies to you! Yes you!

And also a letter to post on our front door saying something like that we welcome visitors (as long as they have phoned first) and if you would like to visit for more than half an hour please choose from the following things that need to be done:
-read to DS1/play with DS1
-laundry
-dishes
-cook
-etc.

Do you think that is too pushy/bossy? I was telling my mom about the letter and she said "oh, for everyone but me and your dad, right?" ARUGH!!!!!

Thanks
~Melissa

[timneh_mom]

I think it sounds great!! Please let me know if it works!!! Really, my MIL was the only one who just showed up around here without calling first, and then she would ACCUSE me of not getting the phone. HELLO I'M A LITTLE BUSY...

Sorry but this went on all the time and I was ALWAYS the bad guy... I'm sure I will do the same thing this time around! (They are in FL right now and I just wish they would stay a few more months... no such luck though!)

[ekblad9]

Aviva Jill Romm recommends doing something like that in her pregnancy book. I've never had the courage to do it but I do think it's a good idea. I just lock myself in my room and leave the rest to dh who has no tact at all

[medaroge]

Really, I think its just rude to jsut show up, especially for a family who has just had a baby.

When DS1 was born the pastor who married us (3 years prior, we had not been to that church since, but is MIL's pastor) showed up at at the hospital 9:30 PM. We had no idea he would even come, not to mention not calling ahead of time, and at such a late hour. (Ok, so normally 9:30 is not late, but it is if you just had a baby!). Good greif! He did the same thing to my SIL. So I really feel there is no avoiding it. Hopefully I can talk to my MIL and ask her to ask him to at least call first, so its not such a supprise. Also, he no doubt will pray with us to lead the baby to baptismal waters.... but thats another thread!

[kayjayjay]

Sounds like a good letter. I wanted to do something like this, but the only people it really needs to be said to is my ILs and DH won't let me do it. My parents are too far away to just drop in and my irl friends are polite enough to know better (probably because they're all parents with small children!)

I did tell DH that no one is welcome the first day or without calling after that. He promised to tell his mom that, but I'm not sure he actually will.

I insisted that if DH won't let me tell them not to come over that we won't call them with news of the birth until we're ready for them to come by. This might mean we don't call until the next day, but DH for some reason thinks that's better than writing a letter.