suicide touches my family

[VBMama]

We found out this morning that my brother's best friend killed himself last weekend. While this is not my personal grief, I am so, so sad for my brother. He is like me in having only a few close friends, and he, his friend, and the friend's wife have all been buddies since junior high. They have been in and out of my parents' house with laughter for years. Apparently the friend and his wife were having an argument and he shot himself in front of her. So terrible... Does anyone know any good resources for coping with the loss of a loved one through suicide? My brother is still in shock and I'm sure he will be dealing with grief over this for some time to come.

[Mommy2Jackson]

I am sorry you have to deal with the loss of someone from suicide. I lost my dad 5 months ago from suicide. I see you posted this awhile ago but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and that it strikes much more often then I would've ever imagined. It's just a death that people seem to look at differently and are hush hush about it. Grief with suicide is much more complicated because you aren't only dealing with the fact that the person is no longer here but also the fact that it was by their own actions. It's been a roller-coaster for my family.....so up and down and it's common to have anger with suicide deaths....I have just recentely been very angry at my dad and I just make sure to allow myself to feel angry and let the grief process work itself out. Hope this helps and I hope your brother is doing okay.....sounds like it was a big shock as it was in my case too. :bighugs

[VBMama]

Thanks for your reply, mommy2jackson. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. There was a memorial service today for db(brother)'s friend and I attended with my family. It was so sad, so hard to think that his friend was so troubled that suicide seemed like the only answer. I hope you find some peace as you process your grief.

[USAmma]

I'm so sorry. Mh dh lost his good friend (and boss) to suicide. The Survivors of Suicide website was a great help. There's a lot of good reading there to explain the why's as much as one can.

[frog]

I'm so sorry, VBMama. My cousin killed himself in 1995. I hear you.

[Potty Diva]

Originally Posted by VBMama

We found out this morning that my brother's best friend killed himself last weekend. While this is not my personal grief, I am so, so sad for my brother. He is like me in having only a few close friends, and he, his friend, and the friend's wife have all been buddies since junior high. They have been in and out of my parents' house with laughter for years. Apparently the friend and his wife were having an argument and he shot himself in front of her. So terrible... Does anyone know any good resources for coping with the loss of a loved one through suicide? My brother is still in shock and I'm sure he will be dealing with grief over this for some time to come.

My heart aches for your brother. Warm thoughts are being sent your way.

I'm also so sad for your brother's friend who thought the situation could not be resolved by any other means. How sad, lonely, and terrified he must have been to resort to taking his own life. He truly must have felt there was no other option.

Again, my thoughts go out to you and your family while you work through this sad time.

Peace,

[Molliejo]

I second the Survivors of Suicide website. My first husband killed himself and that website has some good resources on it that helped.

Your family will be in my thoughts.

[Mommy2Jackson]

Does anyone have a link for that website??

[Molliejo]

http://www.survivorsofsuicide.com/

[VBMama]

I appreciate all the kind thoughts so much! I'll be sure to read through that site and share it with my brother.