any good books for parents who have lost a child?

[napless]

I've found some good books about grief for my kids, but still nothing for myself. The one book I did read wasn't too helpful - it just reminded me of what I already know - that this really hurts. I'd like something with a bit more hope - maybe something written by a parent who has lost a child. (The one I read was written by a therapist.)

Thanks.

[Gemberly]

I just finished reading one that I really like. After the darkest hour, the sun will shine again, a parents guide to coping with the loss of a childby Elizabeth Mehren.

I am sorry for your loss. My daughter's caringbridge page has my blog about her sickness, and how we have coped with her sickness and death. You can look at it if you want. The journal takes a long time to load. The web address is http://www.emeraldismygem.com

Hugs,
Kimberly

[napless]

Thanks so much Kimberly.

Emerald was a beautiful girl. I read just some of your journal - thanks for putting it out there. This sentence jumped out at me: "I have had a few people who have commented that no one would want to be in my shoes, for me, I think they are wrong. To be Emerald’s mom, I would stand in these shoes 10 times over, knowing it would end the same way, for I am the lucky one." That's how I feel too. If I'd had the choice - if someone had told me that I would have a wonderful healthy baby - that he would become mysteriously ill at 7 months - that he would require constant around the clock care for a year - and that he would die at 19 months - and if I'd been given the choice to accept or decline to be his mom - I would have accepted in a heartbeat!!!

[asoulunbound]

I'm still looking. I've been reccomended "I'll Hold You in Heaven," but I have only read the first page. Life's really hectic right now. I'll let you know when I find some!

[napless]

Thanks!

[Arduinna]

I liked Empty Cradle, Broken Heart it's a book about loss of a child pre or post birth

[tessamami]

I have a book for parents who have experienced

the sudden death of a baby. If you want it, just PM me with your address.

[napless]

Thanks, everyone.


PMing you, tessamami

[lisamarie]

Here is a link to our Grief and Loss Resource Thread that has a great list of books that might be helpful: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...10#post6821010

Hugs,

Lisa

[habibekindheart]

I recommend Swallowed By A Snake. It addresses 'male grief', but I think we all go through parts of grief that can be considered 'male'. It also discusses cultural rituals from other places that can help bring closure.