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post #21 of 49
My memories of this are fuzzy (no drugs but I'd been in excruciating agony for over 7 hrs prior to dd's birth, and my memory of the end of the birth is kind of hazy), but this is what memory I have of it:

Exhausted. Relief.

Want baby. Want baby.

(baby handed to me)



(baby taken away)

Where's baby? Where's baby?


Uncomfortable. (until placenta/clots delivered)

Pain. PAIN. (stitches) PAIN! Where's baby? WHERE'S BABY?!?!?

Finally I got my baby back after the doctor was done stitching me. She was only across the room, but it was horrible to not be holding her. I was almost crying, and not from the pain of being stitched up (which was awful all on its own, but had nothing to do with why I was almost crying).

Then once we were together again it was for the rest of the night. I just held her, and gazed at her amazed at how beautiful she was. The nurse gave me something for the pain (a pill, not sure what) and I just spent the whole night awake, staring at my beautiful baby girl.

Next time, I don't even want my baby across the room. I want him/her right next to me where I can see and touch him/her the whole time, even if I need stitches or something. It was awful to miss anything, and to be separated at all.

dd 10 mos
post #22 of 49
Absolute ephoria.
post #23 of 49
Originally Posted by Nora'sMommy View Post
So I'd like to know how you felt immediately after your first unmedicated, vaginal birth.
My first unmedicated, vaginal birth was for my second child. Homebirth, accidental UC. I was in active labor from roughly noon to 2:30, but labor was so manageable that I didn't call my midwife until it was far too late (she was over an hour away). So, active labor was fabulous, I was in transition from roughly 2:30 to 2:45 (I didn't realize this was transition, I thought I was finally in active labor and woo-boy, was I in for a rough haul), DD was born in 2 pushes and caught by me before 3:00.

My first thought was "I want to do this again!" I was euphoric. So proud of myself, so certain I could do anything. My midwife didn't arrive for another hour, so I spent the first hour of DD's life sitting on my bathroom floor with DH, nursing DD and having no interruptions to our initial bonding. It was amazing, so much so that even though we thought DD would be our last child, and I really am not good at being pregnant, we're expecting baby #3
post #24 of 49
I felt PAIN, the afterpain was awful and the placenta took ages. And relief, the worst was over. And then surprise because she was such a chomper sized baby!
post #25 of 49
I've had two mw attended home water births.

After my first, I felt ecstatic, elated, fabulous, physically light and like I was on top of the world! I hopped out of the tub and into the shower while baby was being dried, dressed and weighed and then I had the best bowl of potato soup on the planet and then settled into bed with my new daughter. I felt like I could climb Everest in one push with no O2. This birth was everything that I dreamed it could be and more. I was ready to have another immediately!

After my second, I felt relieved, ecstatic, fabulous and TIRED. He was born at 3:19 a.m. and though my labor with him was only about 8 hours, it was harder than my first for some reason and I didn't cope with the surges quite as well.

I did have excrutiating after-pains after both births. IMO, they were way worse than labor, but obviously, I survived and plan on doing it all over again in about 10 weeks.
post #26 of 49
With my first, a C-section due to transverse presentation, failure to descend, the cord wrapped around his neck three times, and a partridge in a pear tree: Total, overwhelming joy. I just cried and cried from happiness when I heard him cry and saw his face for the first time. I was floating on cloud 9 for like the next several hours. It was truly amazing.

With my second, a hospital VBAC: Mostly just, "Holy crap, so that's how it is supposed to work!" I had similar feelings of joy, this time mixed with more tiredness (I'd had lengthy prodromal labor). Mostly I just felt satisfied in a job well done, if that makes sense.
post #27 of 49
i had toxaemia and spent a whole week in hosp. before birth. :i had to refuse the C-sec, induction (AROM, pit, whatever), Mg sulphate, everything IV every single day, so i was tired, couldn't sleep and was really exhausted.: the 7th night i started to feel regular contractions...from that moment on i was in 7th heaven!!! i was so thankful, i was crying happy tears between contractions...the best pain relief in the word: being thankful for being in labor finally! after birth: i felt that i am frickin' Superwoman!!!
post #28 of 49
Originally Posted by georgia View Post
First birth (hospital/interventions galore)--thank God that's over and we're alive. Complete shock and disassociation/disappointment

Second (home waterbirth)---OMG--that was the most amazing thing I've ever done! When can I do this again? Sheer euphoria
Exactly how I felt.

Right after my first birth I declared that any woman who did that twice was clearly insane.

When I as asked immediately after my home waterbirth how I felt my response was, "I want to do that again!". It was wonderful! :
post #29 of 49
With the first, it's a bit blurry, I think I was really scared I was unqualified to take care of this little baby. But I remember looking at my hands minutes after she was born and saying: " My hands! They're back to normal! " They had been uncomfortably swollen for a couple months.

With the second, I felt such a high! I was high for 3 weeks after. I couldn't believe how easy it had felt. I also remember how all the physical pain from pregnancy was gone. I could lie down and not be in pain, instantly. It was amazing! I was so in love too!
post #30 of 49
DS: 9 hour labor, unmedicated hospital birth. I didn't listen to my body and pushed when they told me I was fully dilated and could push. My body wasn't ready and I exhausted myself pushing, even though it was only 45 minutes. After he was born they put him on my stomach for about 30 sec and then whisked him away to be weighed, measured and eye gooped even though I had said I wanted to delay that and nurse him first. I felt really disoriented and overwhelmed, they stitched me up for 45 minutes and after that was done I got to hold him again. I was hungry and very tired.

DD's birth: homebirth, 2 hour labor (woke up when I was just about in transition), less than 10 minutes of pushing. After she was born she didn't leave my stomach for 2-3 hours, except when I got up to pee. I felt like we were in this warm, hormonal mother-baby cocoon, separated from the rest of the world. She nursed for a long time, passed meconium all over me twice, then after a few hours we weighed and measured her. Then she fell asleep. I was so energized! DH was exhausted and napped on the couch until DS woke up a little later around 6 am. I called my parents and grandmother on the east coast and talked to them for a while. DH made me a huge breakfast which I wolfed down, then I wrote down my birth story and emailed it to friends and updated my blog. I was way too energized to sleep until about 11 am, she was born just before 3 am.
post #31 of 49
With my first (13 hours of back labor), I felt amazing. I was wide awake and in awe od what I just did. I kept saying 'I DID it!' and was so proud that I had done it med free. I was on a huge high and couldn't sleep for more than 12 hours.

With my second (5 hours, no back labor, waterbirth), I was thrilled he was here, but very hungry and very tired. He came at 11:15 pm and I was wiped out within 2 hours of his birth. I wanted him in bed with me, but I was all shaky and was afraid I would drop him, so he slept in the bassinet right next to my bed. After a bit of sleep, I felt amazing!
post #32 of 49
Very empty. That was what I noticed first. And then very, very empty after I delivered the placenta. I felt awesome, and bewildered. It was a hospital birth -- I've had homebirths since then. I didn't like being in the hospital, but they all left us alone after I was stitched up and stuff, and that was a wonderful time. We cuddled and tried nursing and it didn't feel nearly as awkward as I worried it might.

After we left the delivery room and they took him to the nursery for no reason, though, things weren't so sunshine-and-lollipops, though. :
post #33 of 49
i felt HUNGRY, like ravenous. i was consumed with it. i went home and ordered a huge pizza
post #34 of 49
This is really interesting. I remember having more emotions about the actual birth than the baby! I felt so immensely proud of myself and I did also feel a little sorry for myself at the same time! Physically I felt unwell, I was really shaky and my BP was very low. I held and nursed the baby for a while immediately after but I distinctly remember feeling unfamiliar with him and when my mw took him for a minute to do his physical I didn't even notice/care. It was a lot different than I pictured it in my mind.
post #35 of 49
"Yay it's done and I did it! Surprised with the realization my son was finally there and real and that he was so heavy. Wow he's beautiful. Look, DH, look what we made! U/S was right, he's male right? Yep, hi, your name is Pherson, hi Pherson! Ooooo squishy placenta, wow that feels better to have everything out. In fact, I feel really good! DS is so beautiful! Wanna nurse? Hmmm, I'm naked. Yes a blanket would be nice, thank you, and an ice pack for the swelling. Let's call everybody!"
post #36 of 49
Wide awake
post #37 of 49
Two CNM-attended hospital births with water labors:

With my first: "It's a real live baby!" (post-miscarriage pregnancy)
Wow, that was AWESOME!
I felt AMAZING - hopped up on endorphins. Euphoric describes it perfectly!
I was starving hungry. Snarfed down a dinner tray with DS latched on for his first nursing. Then snarfed the labor snacks that I hadn't felt like eating.
I had to pee like a racehorse.
I couldn't stop staring at DS. I couldn't sleep because I kept checking out bits of him.

WIth my second:
Dayum, what was THAT!? (had a FER, went from 5cm to birth VERY quickly)
Oh, so THAT was the ring of fire! (no pushing meant tissues weren't numbed up)
I had a 10-pound baby? Wow! Where was she hiding all that extra mass? Are you sure?
Wow, check out how fast she latched! She's already a better nurser than her brother (this turned out to be totally true, long-term).
Gotta Pee! No, gotta eat! No, really gotta pee! Hey, can I take this sandwich into the bathroom? And can you get me another one? What about some toast? Juice? Sure!
Eew, I didn't bleed that much when I got up after DS.... blech....
Sleepy. DD was born at 3am and I hadn't slept the night before. Just wanted to curl up and nurse (and did so).
Still couldn't stop looking at DD. Tried to figure out how much she looked like her brother did when freshly squeezed.
post #38 of 49
Well mine were both c/s which wasnt the question ... but

After #1 - c/s after 33 hours of induced labor. All I felt was exhaustion and hunger. And I wanted my baby which I did not get for 4 hours and then only for 5 minutes.

After #2 - c/s at 42w due to BPP findings and no labor. euphoric to meet my sweet baby girl. hungry and nauseous at the same time.

I hope to answer the question asked after this baby is born!
post #39 of 49
Thank goodness it's over and he's out

Just complete relief from all the pain. On a scale of 1-10 with 1 being little pain and 10 being the most excruciating pain I've ever experienced, it went from 10 when i was pushing to 1 after he came out.

He was SO worth everything I just went through, days of prodromal labor etc

Shock that I had dealt with that much pain

Is he crying? Oh good, he's okay

So grateful that the hospital staff was so great about putting him on my chest after he was born, not seperating us and respecting our wishes. relief that I had avoided unneccesary interventions or any of the other things I had been stressed out about with a hospital birth.
post #40 of 49
Both times were unmedicated except while I was sewed up after tearing.

I felt:

euphoric-- not because I did it without drugs, just because I did it!

relieved-- healthy baby

self-centered-- I felt like I REALLY deserved a break. (At no other time in my life have I felt so justified.) I had no problem with DH being the one to care for the DC.

dread-- I HATEHATEHATE getting the placenta out. It's so anti-climactic. It was also surprising the first time . . .I was like, "I have to do what now? But I thought I was done!"
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