Looking for support and to vent... cross posted this to vax threads but it's not as busy as here...
My 7yrold ended up with the pox vax to get into kindergarten, but 3yrold just came down with it, hooray. 1yrold appears to be next.
You would think the kid had small pox. Maybe even bird flu. I am getting grief from all sides. Except my mom, sis, MIL and ped, I have only talked to two other people who were in support of delaying that particular vax. I've been on the phone or email daily since Friday with the gal we carpool to school with. Her older daughter (vaccinated) was in the car maybe twice with my son (and a whole row away, out of droplet range). She said at first that her ped recommended she not ride with us for two weeks. She is just floored that I haven't vaccinated. She canceled four playdates this week just in case her oldest has passed something on to her youngest (also vaxxed and not at all exposed to my son) even though i sent her links showing the near statistical impossibility of that. And the kicker? Drum roll please.....
As of tonight, I have been summarily dismissed from carpool status forever. She told my husband and I (by phone, speaking of CHICKEN...) that it might be fine for our family but it's not acceptable to hers. That it is a safety issue and she has been losing sleep at night thinking about it. She said everything has been fine up until now but this just isn't ok to her, not vaccinating your children. (As if someone who doesn't vax also runs red lights too?) She feels badly but she hopes she'll see us around and no hard feelings. (She lives next door to my mom and our kids go to the same school, she will definitely see us around.)
I have been working VERY hard at the whole different families make different choices concept. I've been explaining that to my children a lot lately too. But this one is really taking the cake for me. I understand she has to do what she feels is right. I understand my choice is not her choice. But couldn't we just agree to disagree, let the chicken pox pass and pick up where we left off?
Thank you for letting me get this out. She did not let me. After "dumping" me, she hung up because her child was crying.
God Bless Mothering... I might be a pariah in my community, but there's always some great support here!
My 7yrold ended up with the pox vax to get into kindergarten, but 3yrold just came down with it, hooray. 1yrold appears to be next.
You would think the kid had small pox. Maybe even bird flu. I am getting grief from all sides. Except my mom, sis, MIL and ped, I have only talked to two other people who were in support of delaying that particular vax. I've been on the phone or email daily since Friday with the gal we carpool to school with. Her older daughter (vaccinated) was in the car maybe twice with my son (and a whole row away, out of droplet range). She said at first that her ped recommended she not ride with us for two weeks. She is just floored that I haven't vaccinated. She canceled four playdates this week just in case her oldest has passed something on to her youngest (also vaxxed and not at all exposed to my son) even though i sent her links showing the near statistical impossibility of that. And the kicker? Drum roll please.....
As of tonight, I have been summarily dismissed from carpool status forever. She told my husband and I (by phone, speaking of CHICKEN...) that it might be fine for our family but it's not acceptable to hers. That it is a safety issue and she has been losing sleep at night thinking about it. She said everything has been fine up until now but this just isn't ok to her, not vaccinating your children. (As if someone who doesn't vax also runs red lights too?) She feels badly but she hopes she'll see us around and no hard feelings. (She lives next door to my mom and our kids go to the same school, she will definitely see us around.)
I have been working VERY hard at the whole different families make different choices concept. I've been explaining that to my children a lot lately too. But this one is really taking the cake for me. I understand she has to do what she feels is right. I understand my choice is not her choice. But couldn't we just agree to disagree, let the chicken pox pass and pick up where we left off?
Thank you for letting me get this out. She did not let me. After "dumping" me, she hung up because her child was crying.
God Bless Mothering... I might be a pariah in my community, but there's always some great support here!
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mama, I hope you're able to work out a carpool situation with a more levelheaded person.
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