or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Parenting › "Leashes" for children.
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

"Leashes" for children. - Page 2

post #21 of 89
Me too! We bolt down side streets and alleys as much as possible.
post #22 of 89
Tried them, but my kids are like leashing cats. They immediately hit the bushes and run around lamp posts. :>
post #23 of 89
We got one of the doggie backpack ones from Target for our trip to Disneyland. It was a lifesaver. We also wore her alot, but she was at the stage where she wanted to be down running around, and she was short enough to fit underneath the railings, etc. She loved her backpack so much we had to hide it and throw it away when she got back because she wanted to take it everywhere we went.

So, I think they are ok in really crowded places such as the airport, or Disneyland etc. Not for everyday use. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and keeping up with her is hard, but manageable.
post #24 of 89
i haven't used one, but there before the grace of <insert higher power> go i.
post #25 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mamma Mia View Post
I know, I love how we both used different search terms.

and the all time favorite... http://www.mothering.com/discussions...hlight=highway


Aww. Memories. *sniffle*
yeah, that one was pretty entertaining.
post #26 of 89
am i the only one with a toddler who will suddenly yank her hand from my grip to dart off in another direction while i have two other young kiddos i can't abandon to chase after the littlest??

i love the monkey backpack. the leash is my friend.
post #27 of 89
The leash is our best friend. I bring my Ergo, James will tolerate it for about 3 minutes before screaming "I WALK! I WALK! I WANT DOWN! I WALK!!" while pulling my hair and kicking me. So down he goes and the leash gets put on him. He will not ride in the stroller or the cart, he has to walk.

We have that cute one except ours is the puppy dog, I held both up and he picked the puppy dog. I dont know how I would buy groceries without our harness. Couldnt live without it.
post #28 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lisa Lubner View Post
am i the only one with a toddler who will suddenly yank her hand from my grip to dart off in another direction while i have two other young kiddos i can't abandon to chase after the littlest??

i love the monkey backpack. the leash is my friend.
Me too!! (except I only have 2) I feel like I am going to break DS's hand when I'm holding it because he yanks so hard to let go. I still have to run when he's wearing his harness, but at least he's attached.

I do use the sling and stroller combo more often than the harness, but it has been useful.

I've also been in conversation with someone at a wedding when DS decides he wants to go somewhere and ends up dangling from the end of it. It probably looks like I'm really neglectful, but I'm a single mama, and dammit, sometimes I want to have a conversation with an adult and not have to chase after my toddler or have him do gymnastics on my shoulder.

STBX was not pleased about the "monkey on his son's back" but his mom said "when you're 9 months pregnant trying to chase after G, you can complain, until then, shut up." Gotta love that woman. And, X still has not taken DS1 and DS2 out in public together (by himself), and DS2 is 6 mo. old.
post #29 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by KayasMama04 View Post
I own two harnesses for dd ...she is very spirted and telling her do not run into the street means run into the street. I like to put her harness on and hold her hand.
http://www.target.com/gp/detail.html...sin=B000EBITU8
I would use that type of harness (looks like a stuffed animal backpack) when I was truly fearing for the safety of my child, not on regular occasions. For example- Disney, other large congested theme parks or state fairs. I do not think they should be used as babysitters. Like at a mall, walking down the street, in the home, others homes, etc. Unless these places are so extremely busy that you can't keep track of your child by holding their hand etc, don't use it.

I know there are moms out there that swear against them, but this is just my personal choice about them.
post #30 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by BornInSeptember View Post
I do not think they should be used as babysitters. Like at a mall, walking down the street, in the home, others homes, etc. Unless these places are so extremely busy that you can't keep track of your child by holding their hand etc, don't use it.
May I just ask why any of those circumstances equal using the harness "as a babysitter"?
post #31 of 89
I never used one until recently. We went to Disney World (first time!) for a family reunion event and I'm hugely pregnant and I have two toddlers. I bought 2 at Target made from Eddie Bauer. They look like little backpacks that are shaped like animals and then the "tail" is the leash. My kids begged to wear them! They loved them and it worked. I loved slinging my youngest but I just can't right now--it is too painful pressing on my belly. So we used a stroller and then when they wanted to walk we used the leashes. It worked--they didn't get separated or lost and everyone was happy! (ETA: when we are out and about in a normal day I will hold my kids hands. My youngest really likes his independance and he sometimes fights me on the hand holding. I'm ok on a normal day to let him walk besides me...but in a really crowded area I would be too worried that someone grabbed him away, etc.)
post #32 of 89
we have a harness for my dd. it is a puppy backpack with a "leash" attached. i think it is better than strapping her in a stroller or wearing her, because she has a TON of energy and needs to walk/run... but I need that extra bit of security because she has a tendency to run off! imo, it is less restrictive than a stroller. i agree that it looks and feels weird, but logically, i dont think it is a big deal.
post #33 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by BornInSeptember View Post
I would use that type of harness (looks like a stuffed animal backpack) when I was truly fearing for the safety of my child, not on regular occasions. For example- Disney, other large congested theme parks or state fairs. I do not think they should be used as babysitters. Like at a mall, walking down the street, in the home, others homes, etc. Unless these places are so extremely busy that you can't keep track of your child by holding their hand etc, don't use it.
I don't get it. So it's okay to use one in really large crowds (Disney, fairs, etc) to prevent a child from wandering away or getting kidnapped. But it's not okay to use one in the mall, grocery shopping, walking down the street to prevent the child from wandering away or getting kidnapped? Why is that?




I, personally, did use one for Owen between ages 1-2. He was a runner. He loved to walk but would jerk his hand out of mine and take off running. I was afraid of hurting his shoulder if I jerked back. If I had let him walk down the sidewalk holding my hand there would have been a HUGE risk of him jerking away and running into traffic. I used the harness on him almost every single time we were out of the house. He did not understand that he had to stay with me so I did what I had to do to keep him safe. Now he's in a stage where he wants to ride in the stroller. All.... the... time. He refuses to walk (lays down and screams) so he's in the stroller every single time we go out. Yup, I'm sure there are some who thinks that's totally un-ap of me but whatever. He's happy and safe and that's all it boils down to.
post #34 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by Adamsmama View Post
I never used one until recently. We went to Disney World (first time!) for a family reunion event and I'm hugely pregnant and I have two toddlers. I bought 2 at Target made from Eddie Bauer. They look like little backpacks that are shaped like animals and then the "tail" is the leash. My kids begged to wear them! They loved them and it worked. I loved slinging my youngest but I just can't right now--it is too painful pressing on my belly. So we used a stroller and then when they wanted to walk we used the leashes. It worked--they didn't get separated or lost and everyone was happy! (ETA: when we are out and about in a normal day I will hold my kids hands. My youngest really likes his independance and he sometimes fights me on the hand holding. I'm ok on a normal day to let him walk besides me...but in a really crowded area I would be too worried that someone grabbed him away, etc.)
yes this is the one we have! it is very cute!
post #35 of 89
I have no issues with harnesses. I think controlled freedom can be good.

I have seen some poor kids be yanked around like a dog while on a leash. I am not cool with that.

My son isn't walking yet but I would have no issue using one.
post #36 of 89
Seeing a child in a harness makes me feel icky, but that's my issue. Kids can get away from even the fastest, most attentive parents and I'd rather feel a little weird about seeing a kid on a "leash" than hearing about a kid getting run over, or stolen, or watching a kid get smacked in public for not holding their parent's hand. I was lucky enough to have a child who always seemed to be aware of the danger of traffic, or getting too far from mom and dad, so it was never an issue for me. I guess I feel like, it's not my kid, not my business. Whether the parents are doing it because they're just lazy or because they put a lot of thought into it and have one of those kids who is stuck on run, the outcome is the same, the kid is safer.

Hope that made some sense
post #37 of 89
I'll admit, I use one every time we go places. He would rather walk then be held/wore/sit in stroller so I do what I have to do. In public he is set on 'RUN' and will dart away from me, not hold my hand and stuff, he doesn't run into traffic thankfully but he will dart toward the escalator or end rack deal of toilet paper in a heartbeat.

I figure that part of AP is listening to your kids and respecting their wants/needs. James has a desire to be independent and walk. I have a desire to not have him kidnapped or more realisticlly, get on the escelator and fall or get under peoples feet and trip them or get run over by a cart. *shrug* He actually likes it. He'll go find it and bring it to me and say "I walk! Go walk." it's cute I think.
post #38 of 89
I'm not a big fan of leashes. The only time I have ever even thought about using one is if we take the kids skiing this year. I've heard it works really good if you have a very young child that you want to take skiing. You put the leash on them and let them ski ahead of you. I would use one for my youngest who is 2 only in that instance.
post #39 of 89
I have used the harness with both my children. DD is a very spirited child who would run away from us in a second. She hated to hold hands and I felt keeping her in a stroller was cruel. In fact, I would give her the choice of the stroller or the harness and she would always choose the harness. It gave her some freedom of movement without allowing her to run into a street or just disappear in the blink of an eye. Now I have my DS. He skipped walking and went straight to running--really, he NEVER walks. We have tried holding his hand and he flops. We've tried keeping up with him and he runs away. . .it is great fun, except he runs toward roads. I stop to speak with someone for a second and he is gone (really, a second). He hates to hold hands, hates the stroller, and honestly, doesn't really like the harness. However, it does keep him somewhat close and safe while giving him some freedom to run circles around me.

Like pp I have seen them way misused. Children should never be dragged with them or pulled over. My children are allowed to explore their environments and I am pretty patient with them. I just use it because I don't want to take the chance of them getting hurt. One other thing, when out and about I have never had a negative comment about using the harness, only mothers asking where I got mine!
post #40 of 89
Quote:
Originally Posted by Demeter9 View Post
Tried them, but my kids are like leashing cats. They immediately hit the bushes and run around lamp posts. :>
LOL, now there's a great mental picture!

I have a monkey backpack one for my little guy, but I have never used it. He's just REALLY good, I don't know how I got so lucky! Even if he runs, he will come back or stop when I call him.

I don't make him hold my hand all the time, but I can say "Stay with Mommy" or "This way", and he actually comes! It's a miracle, I swear! lol

I always hated them...until I'd seen enough kids almost get hit by cars, etc. I would much rather put a harness on a kid whom I can't trust to stay with me, then learn the hard way...
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Parenting
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Mom › Parenting › "Leashes" for children.