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post #41 of 89
No no no no no no no. Oh. Did I say NO?! I DO NOT agree with them. I carry her in parking lots, across streets, etc. Otherwise she is right near me. We do, however, live in a smaller area. Not a small town, per se, but small enough that I'm comfortable.
post #42 of 89
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Originally Posted by Aliviasmom View Post
No no no no no no no. Oh. Did I say NO?! I DO NOT agree with them.
So - does that mean you don't like them for your family, or you don't agree with others using them, either?
post #43 of 89
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Originally Posted by Aliviasmom View Post
No no no no no no no. Oh. Did I say NO?! I DO NOT agree with them.
So what exactly are you trying to say? :
post #44 of 89
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Originally Posted by Aliviasmom View Post
No no no no no no no. Oh. Did I say NO?! I DO NOT agree with them. I carry her in parking lots, across streets, etc. Otherwise she is right near me. We do, however, live in a smaller area. Not a small town, per se, but small enough that I'm comfortable.
You know I posted in GD for some help getting DS to stay with me without having to carry him everywhere (I am pg and he is heavy!) and he flops when he holds my hand. . .what would you suggest to those of us with whom you do not agree? I would love some help with getting DS anyplace without him taking off on his run.
post #45 of 89
I plan on getting some for our trip overseas in June. The girls will be 14 months and I have a hard enough time keeping tabs on them as crawlers and cruisers. Who knows what will be happen by then!
post #46 of 89
There's a time and place for everything. Of course, your time and place are different from mine. Grocery stores, neighboorhoods, parks, airports, "downtown " concerts, etc. I say no harness. Stroller and "keep up with your child" method should be okay. Disney ~ get you a harness, leash, stroller, pager, cell phone, child locator, flame throwers, glow-in-the-dark outfits (matching) and your face tatoo'd to his cheek!
post #47 of 89
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Originally Posted by MOTHERoFIVE View Post
There's a time and place for everything. Of course, your time and place are different from mine. Grocery stores, neighboorhoods, parks, airports, "downtown " concerts, etc. I say no harness. Stroller and "keep up with your child" method should be okay. Disney ~ get you a harness, leash, stroller, pager, cell phone, child locator, flame throwers, glow-in-the-dark outfits (matching) and your face tatoo'd to his cheek!
When we went to Disneyland with our 2.5 year old I put a folded up note in his pocket with his name, my name, my cell number, my DP's cell number and name. Also dressed him in a bright tye died shirt.

We did the park with no stroller and no leash though. Of course there was one of him, and two of us.
post #48 of 89
I've used a ring sling as a leash in the Seattle Airport. DS liked to lay on the ground and be dragged across the slick floors. Really, at that age, you do what you can.

Funny, the Maya Wrap company even advertises that use for the slings! But I guess that's crunchy, and the other ones are mainstream and therefore marinated in bad juju.
post #49 of 89
A harness is like anything else (TV, stroller, etc). It can be used or misused. I don't have a problem if other parents want to use one to keep their little one close by. We have a teddy bear backpack type toddler harness but we haven't used it much. My daughter loves to run and she's quick. I would rather have people look down on me for protecting my child from harm than to have my child get hurt. I don't know how many of you know the Jamie Bulger story. It's a very sad tale. That mama's tragic experience was what made me get one these things from..ahem...Wal-Mart of all places. :
post #50 of 89

I loved the harness, and dd loved it

It was great... mostly for her. She loved the freedom to move as she pleased, bend down, veer left or right. I still had the eagle eye on her, but we both had a little more freedom for certain occasions. I wouldn't hesitate to use it in a store or wherever it seemed like she'd prefer to walk alongside to being in a basket, or wherever I wanted. It was a short but memorable relationship. The affair was no more than a year, if that. I enjoyed watching her navigate her way, with this little safety line, through the aisle, whatever.

It was a good thing for us. Fun.

VF
post #51 of 89
They don't bother me. I would much rather see a happy kid on a leash running mostly free than a kid getting in trouble for getting away from Mom or Dad. I've been blessed so far with kids who don't run away from me when we go out, but if we had one do that, I would use it in a heartbeat (though probably the disguised backpack one to avoid other people's snarkiness).
post #52 of 89
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Wow. Just.. wow. I don't even know where to start. I'm only on page 13.
post #53 of 89
I had to use a harness with my 3rd. and I really mean HAD to. At the time I had an 8 year old, 4 year old, he was 2, and a newborn. As soon as his feet hit the ground he was running, he could unlock any lock and open any door.

When I had to go grocery shopping and stuff I very carefully got all three other kids out of the car first, put the baby in the sling, had the 8 year old hold the 4 year old's hand, slipped the leash over my wrist while I unlocked his car seat, and then tried to grab his hand before he made it the length of the leash into the parking lot. Without the leash, he'd have been across the parking lot before I could get the car door shut. :

He's just always been that way, he hits the ground running when he wakes up, and doesn't stop until he keels over at night. I even used the harness when we co-slept. : I didn't start that until he'd gotten out of bed before 6 am and was across the street playing in the neighbor's front yard. I didn't even wake up and it scared the living crap out of me. I had 3 locks on the front door, and he'd opened them all, and he was only 27 months old.
post #54 of 89
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Originally Posted by Aliviasmom View Post
No no no no no no no. Oh. Did I say NO?! I DO NOT agree with them. I carry her in parking lots, across streets, etc. Otherwise she is right near me. We do, however, live in a smaller area. Not a small town, per se, but small enough that I'm comfortable.
i understand, but you only have one child. i was appalled by them when i was a mother of one. my daughter has never been a bolter and i scoffed at their use.
now, i'm not so sure. m is still small enough to be carried and he is content with that in public (he gets a little shy). i'm hoping he won't be a bolter, either, but i can't depend on that (they tend to get each other excited and i can easily see them taking off together at the zoo).
post #55 of 89
I am the mother of four kids ages 11.5, 10, 9, and 5.5.

I have never used a leash and would never have considered using a leash. My crew learned from early on to hold my hand when asked. It wasn't a discussion or negociation. If they refused they were carried or put in a stroller (which they didn't like much), so they learned they got to be walking if they complied.

I saw no need for them in our family.
post #56 of 89
I won't take the time to read the three pages of replies, but I'll toss my thoughts in. The only time I ever used a "leash" with DS was when he was between two and three-years-old and we were traveling by plane. When he was younger, I did travel with him in either a sling or backpack, but as he got bigger, the combo of his weight and the carry on stuff was too much. He liked to walk, but wouldn't cooperate happily with hand-holding for the length of time required to get through the airports and letting him more than 6 feet from my grasp was too uncomfortable. By attaching an actual dog lead to his pants' belt loop, he got to enjoy the illusion of freedom and I got the peace of knowing he was only a tug away.

In case what other people think is a concern for you, the only looks I ever got came attached to smiles and knowing nods.
post #57 of 89
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Originally Posted by Houdini View Post
I am the mother of four kids ages 11.5, 10, 9, and 5.5.

I have never used a leash and would never have considered using a leash. My crew learned from early on to hold my hand when asked. It wasn't a discussion or negociation. If they refused they were carried or put in a stroller (which they didn't like much), so they learned they got to be walking if they complied.

I saw no need for them in our family.
See... I don't see why strapping a child down in a shoulder is any better than putting on a harnass. At least with the latter, they still get some exercise.

I should mention that my littlest holds my hand with the harnass on. It's just nice to have that extra security in case she decides to bolt. My older two walk with me just fine, but the 2 year old just doesn't understand WHY she needs to stay next to mommy yet.
post #58 of 89
No need for my step son, he is a hip hugger. Never leaves our side.


But my brother growing up? He was all about exploring and breaking boundaries. If my mom said 'no' he would think that meant 'i dare you' basically.


To keep my brother safe my mom had him on a harness from about the time he figured out if he ran fast enough while my mom was carrying me he could get away to the time he understood that cars can make you road pizza.

Not all the time mind you, but anytime my mom couldnt give jesse her full attention in public he was in a harness.

He wanted to know what was behind the next car, behind the next aisle to explore.

Some people would say 'get your child under control'.... Well... it isn't a character defect and if he was an only child that she could devote all her time to I doubt he would have been leashed often. But when it came to his safety in public, he was harnessed.


I have no problem with harnesses. i have a friend with an autistic child. He is basically all there and HIGHLY intelligent. Wouldn't call him a savant but he can recite to you an entire movie word for word if he feels like it.


He is in 1st grade now, do't know if she still uses leashes or not, but there was a time when she was against them. They were in my parents drive way and just for a second she stopped watching him and my mom turned and said 'Where's Zach?'

They both looked at the road and he was going full barrel to it.

My friend took off after him full speed and my mom heard a bus horn, just happened to be the time of day that the elementary let out.


My mom saw chrissy grab zach and the bus went zooming by, my mom thought they had been hit because when the bus passed she couldnt see them.


Luckily Chrissy got there at the LAST second scooped up and dove into the ditch across the street. Bawling they both put their heads up and my mom could take a breath.


She wasn't against leashes anymore after that.
post #59 of 89
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Originally Posted by Lisa Lubner View Post
See... I don't see why strapping a child down in a shoulder is any better than putting on a harnass. At least with the latter, they still get some exercise.
I guess for us it was more of an issue of if you want to be allowed down to walk, you need to follow the rules. If they strayed to far ahead, they got a warning. If they strayed again, they had the option of holding a hand or sitting in the stoller/being carried.

I had no issues with them being down and walking, as long as they followed the safety rules of where we were.

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Originally Posted by Lisa Lubner
I should mention that my littlest holds my hand with the harnass on. It's just nice to have that extra security in case she decides to bolt. My older two walk with me just fine, but the 2 year old just doesn't understand WHY she needs to stay next to mommy yet.
My crew don't always understand the reasoning behind safety rules (even at their current age), but they understand they should be compliant when asked.
post #60 of 89
my 22 mo likes to throw himself around and run away...fast, being almost 5 months pregnant and having a little bit of issues (like bad ankle/hip joints that hurt..and badly if i move wrong) and not being able to breathe well already...i need something! i cant carry him anymore, i will almost faint, and the stroller, hes too big for alresdy, he never used it until 17 or 18 months whih im proud of, i just wore him, but i just cant anymore, and i cant bend over to pick him up kicking and thriwing himself all over the place anymore,
and i felt SO embarassed with using a harness for my little brother- he was born whe i was almost 12- but i have to do something..so this might be my option :sigh:
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