fighting in front of the kidzzzmakes me sad to think about it, though it is a reality sometimes.
i agree w/previous posts, but i did want to add that when i think about fighting in front of the kids, i see the looks on their faces in my mind, and i get sad.
just lately, before and since the crushed basil situation, i am really paying attention to the expressions on ds face. i think it started when we were describing happy, sad and mad and making the faces to go with it.
how with each face change, ds unknowingly was mimicking them back while watching. like he wasn't even trying, but just fascinated and doing it himself.
so i compare that ultra sensitivity to all situations right now. thinking how his face would look if we were yelling or carrying on in front of him.
but, yes, a disagreement/discussion with a little urgency in the voice shouldn't be too bad, as long as it resolves at some point. (obviously).
nuggetsmom, you were saying how sometimes it does go unresolved, and i have to say, sometimes, it being dropped and not brought up again is our way of saying "we agree to disagree", but only when we resume with love. wasn't sure if that's what you meant, but i am sometimes relieved to let things go just b/c i hate fighting so much w/dh. it's like the one person in your corner is gone! not good!
okay, nuff from me. i am like feast or famine on this thread!
p.s. editing to answer your question: in camp meeker/occidental - west of santa rosa- near sebastopol-we live in the redwoods!!