TTC #1 in our 30's February Thread - Page 2

[beckyphry]

: CONGRATS JENN! :

I'm so happy for you!

Welcome to the thread, Kemi!

Dee, sorry you keep getting BFNs. I'm bummed for you!!

Hi Kat! I've been thinking of you lots and hoping you're doing well!

[CowsRock]

Originally Posted by dctexan

I am not sure how often Kripa is checking in with the thread, but she should be able to update your info for you

Thanks Emily, I missed that her chart wasn't on the front page. If anybody wants me to change/update any of their info on the front, feel free to send me a PM...even if you just want a different color

[Dee-Groovy]

Wow so much action today - I love it!

Welcome Kemi, and welcome back Funnygrace and Nico!

Xenon congrats on O!

Kat your chart looks awful purty How has your 2ww been?

Cattiebrie sorry to hear your hubby was injured in the line of duty. Hopefully he'll be better in no time. :

Christina how are you? Has the BFN blues gone away yet? Thanks for the happy anniversary wishes - it was so sweet of you to remember!

I finally got out of my denial funk today and started taking proactive steps. I started soy isoflavones this morning and I'm so nervous for some reason. Also ordered 15 OPKs, 7 HPTs and 6 tubes of preseed for $25.50! I rock with the bargains! Hopefully they'll all arrive by next Thursday (cd10). Maybe this is lucky cycle 7?

[KitttyKat]

I wasn't going to say anything, but as we're all woman in our thirties with no children, that alone puts us in a special catagory of girl cancer risk. Taking soy isn't helping that risk. Soy is good in the short term but the problem is that your body reads soy as estrogen and later (around menapause) that could infulence your breast cancer odds.

[KitttyKat]

My chart is horrible inaccurate because FF seems to have been over run with a poltergiest. Everytime I try to enter information, it enters something else, and everytime I try to change it, it enters something else.

[kJad29]

I'm back for now...I just have to comment on the RRL and nettles tea: I usually buy it in bulk from the co-op and mix it 1:1 and just drink the two cups at once in the evening after dinner. I don't put sugar in my tea, but I've heard that it takes away the bitter flavor. I really like it.

I hope that all the slippery juices you're getting Kripa result in a sticky baby!

Now it's time for bed. It's getting late and I have a date with DH in the morning.

[CowsRock]

Originally Posted by Nico DeMouse

I thought I o'd around day 14 but now I'm not sure and feeling a little discouraged.

Hang in there.

Originally Posted by funnygrace

It's this limbo that is so difficult.

Welcome back to the thread Funnygrace. I agree about the limbo. I feel like that too. I'd say we are definitely straddling two worlds when TTC the first kid. I find it hard to make some decisions because my mind gets stuck in the loop of "well hopefully I'll be pregnant soon" and "but you don't really know how long it will take", etc. Emily gave us a nice pep talk during the January thread, I went back and got it. It helped many of us who were feeling discouraged.

Originally Posted by dctexan

To all the 30s TTCers, I KNOW the fear is there for you because I felt it BIG TIME. That is a HUGE reason why I started this thread, I needed TTC support from same-age, similarly-minded peers. Remember, we all have our reasons for waiting until now to start TTC and we really need to trust ourselves that we did what was best at the time. The road to motherhood is not easy for anyone. While physically it may be a bit bumpier for us, the road isn't closed and our bodies are not broken. Many paths can lead to the same place and with age comes the experience and courage to take detours that younger women may not even see as possibilities. Your journey will be unique and different from anyone elses. You are your own best guide. You have made it through life so far, and I know each of you is capable and ready to meet whatever lies ahead. I trust in my heart that each of us will end up in the place she was most meant to be. Lots of love and support to you all.

Originally Posted by KitttyKat

My chart is horrible inaccurate because FF seems to have been over run with a poltergiest. Everytime I try to enter information, it enters something else, and everytime I try to change it, it enters something else.

That stinks...I hope it is a temporary quirk.

Originally Posted by jpiper0430

My hubby is one of the most wonderful people in the world.

I was back at the January thread looking for Emily's pep talk and saw Jenn's cute hubby story, and it popped in my head that I wonder how he reacted when you discovered you are pregnant? Feel like sharing?

Originally Posted by kJad29

It's getting late and I have a date with DH in the morning.

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[jpiper0430]

Hiya Everyone!

Thanks for the well wishes! I'm still nervous that I'll miscarry, but I'm starting get get really excited. My anniversary is Oct 5 and my due date is Oct 10, so I could get lucky and welcome a new baby on my 5 year wedding anniversary. How cool would that be!

Welcome Kemi! Welcome back Nico and funnygrace.

Xenon - congrats on O. We have another chart to stalk!

Kat - great to see you back! I hope you are doing well these days.

Dee - that was quite a bargain you got there. I hope everything arrives in time to be put to good use.

To answer about how hubby reacted. Well, I was so surprised that it was positive (not sure why, I had been feeling a little ikky all week, but I was), that when I walked out of the bathroom, he new right away. He got a big grin on his face and kissed my belly. Very cute. Then, at work, I got an email containing a photo with a small bouquet of pink and blue flowers and a bunch of magnets, which I thought was very funny. Last night before bed, he said goodnight and then said goodnight to our little bean. 'Twas very cute.

[CowsRock]

Originally Posted by jpiper0430

To answer about how hubby reacted. Well, I was so surprised that it was positive (not sure why, I had been feeling a little ikky all week, but I was), that when I walked out of the bathroom, he new right away. He got a big grin on his face and kissed my belly. Very cute. Then, at work, I got an email containing a photo with a small bouquet of pink and blue flowers and a bunch of magnets, which I thought was very funny. Last night before bed, he said goodnight and then said goodnight to our little bean. 'Twas very cute.

too cute

[CowsRock]

Originally Posted by xenon

I had a nice temperature rise this morning, and together with the OPKs, it looks like yesterday was O-day. So now I wait...

There has been so much action, I missed this part. Congrats on O. : Are you feeling good about your timing?

[xenon]

Originally Posted by Kripadasi

There has been so much action, I missed this part. Congrats on O. : Are you feeling good about your timing?

Aw, thanks for asking, and thanks for the well-wishes, Jenn and Dee! Our timing was decent, I think. This is the first month I've had VIP-FF, so I'm excited to see how FF assesses our chances! This was also the first month we used PreSeed (ordered on CD1, arrived on CD11, just in the nick of time!). All these new tools have to pay off, don't they?

Happy Friday to everyone! I'm ready for my weekend NOW, please!

[Dee-Groovy]

Jenn sounds like you got a really special guy! How sweet that he kissed your tummy! How are you feeling? Tummy still upset?

Funnygrace your chart is beautiful.

Emily sorry you didn't get the ultrasound you wanted at your first prenatal visit. What exactly did she do? Does she believe that you're pregnant now?

Xenon glad you're happy with the BD timing. I really like FF VIP and I'm glad I signed up for it in December. Where did you order your Preseed from? All of a sudden I'm worried that I won't get it in time. I've ordered it 2x before and it seems to take forever to get here, just a few states away. But I have been called impatient...

Nico sorry your cycles seem a little out of whack. Did you stop the pill recently? It didn't work for me, but the herb vitex seems to work really well to help normalize cycles.

[cking]

Welcome, Kemi! And welcome back, Nico and funnygrace. And Katt!!

Originally Posted by jpiper0430

Thanks for the well wishes! I'm still nervous that I'll miscarry, but I'm starting get get really excited. My anniversary is Oct 5 and my due date is Oct 10, so I could get lucky and welcome a new baby on my 5 year wedding anniversary. How cool would that be!
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To answer about how hubby reacted. Well, I was so surprised that it was positive (not sure why, I had been feeling a little ikky all week, but I was), that when I walked out of the bathroom, he new right away. He got a big grin on his face and kissed my belly. Very cute. Then, at work, I got an email containing a photo with a small bouquet of pink and blue flowers and a bunch of magnets, which I thought was very funny. Last night before bed, he said goodnight and then said goodnight to our little bean. 'Twas very cute.

Oh, that is so cute. : Hey, our 5th anniversary is in September! How cool would that be if your babe was born on your anniversary! Our original plan (or at least, my plan; I don't think DH thought much about it ) was to start trying with our 5th anniversary. So I try to keep that in mind each month we're not pg - that we're still ahead of the original schedule.

Originally Posted by Kripadasi

I feel like that too. I'd say we are definitely straddling two worlds when TTC the first kid. I find it hard to make some decisions because my mind gets stuck in the loop of "well hopefully I'll be pregnant soon" and "but you don't really know how long it will take", etc.

So true. So true. We are kind of approaching a crossroads. DH is starting to consider PhD programs -- but the logistics of that is baffling to both of us. Not to mention the simple little things like vacations and road trips. Some friends of our starting planning a college football weekend for September – a year in advance! (It’s a BIG game….) The thing is, it’s the weekend of our 5th anniversary - . I thought that would be enough to excuse us from it, but DH didn’t get it. Then there was also the possibility of being very pregnant (or having a newborn – at the time). Neither of us has had the guts to tell our friends we might not be going.

Dee, thanks for asking about me. I think the funk is starting to lift. I'm trying not to think about it too much since we won't really be trying this month.

: But I have to confess, I have a little bit of that denial going on too. My period didn't last very long, only 2 fairly heavy days and one very light. Right now I'm bascially spotting and it's only cd4. I guess that's not too unusual, but my boobs are also still feeling full and heavy. Just a little bit of neurotic wishful thinking, I guess.

[dctexan]

Originally Posted by MajorGroover

Emily sorry you didn't get the ultrasound you wanted at your first prenatal visit. What exactly did she do? Does she believe that you're pregnant now?

Oh yeah, I am officially pregnant now! How could I have forgotten to tell you all?! It was actually really funny because when she walked into the office and saw me there for my prenatal, she said, "that was quick". I had to remind her that I had been pregnant the last time she saw me but that I had only known for a few days. It was kinda like she still didn't believe me because it was like, "Okay, lets check you and see. I'm not sure we will be able to see any thing yet". Of course when she got down there and did her thing she was like "Oh! You are definitely pregnant!". Then she used to doppler thingie to find the heartbeat. I don't think I get an ultrasound until 20 weeks. In a way I guess that is good because less medical intervention now probably equals less medical intervention later. But still, I am so jealous of the other preggos who get to see their babe.

[xenon]

Originally Posted by Kripadasi

I find it hard to make some decisions because my mind gets stuck in the loop of "well hopefully I'll be pregnant soon" and "but you don't really know how long it will take", etc.

Oh, ugh, can I ever relate to this. These thoughts stymie me every time I consider applying for a job. It's really frustrating.

Originally Posted by MajorGroover

Xenon glad you're happy with the BD timing. I really like FF VIP and I'm glad I signed up for it in December. Where did you order your Preseed from? All of a sudden I'm worried that I won't get it in time. I've ordered it 2x before and it seems to take forever to get here, just a few states away. But I have been called impatient...

I couldn't wait for FF to give me the verdict on our timing, so I fudged a temperature for tomorrow to peek at the analysis... we scored high (happy dance!)

The Preseed was from Early-Pregnancy-Tests.com. It was slow, but it had to come more than a few states to get to me! I liked it, overall, but I wish the packaging were different... I had the little pre-loaded applicators, and it felt like a lot of waste. It was also nearly impossible to get all the last little bits of lube out of the applicator!

[Nico DeMouse]

Originally Posted by Kripadasi

Hang in there.

Originally Posted by MajorGroover

Nico sorry your cycles seem a little out of whack. Did you stop the pill recently? It didn't work for me, but the herb vitex seems to work really well to help normalize cycles.

Thanks for the support, guys. I may pick up some Vitex for next cycle. It certainly doesn't seem like it could hurt.

I feel the weirdness, too, about the whole plans for the future thing. I plan on leaving my job at the end of teh school year, pregnant or not. But, if I'm not pregnant soon, I also feel like I should start a job search for something else. I'm waiting to hear back from my university; I applied for a doctoral program. But, I won't want to start that if I'm pregnant. Sigh. I've had the same job for so long it feels really weird for things to be so up in the air.

[kJad29]

Originally Posted by Kripadasi

I'd say we are definitely straddling two worlds when TTC the first kid. I find it hard to make some decisions because my mind gets stuck in the loop of "well hopefully I'll be pregnant soon" and "but you don't really know how long it will take", etc.

I totally understand. I was at a point where I wanted to lose weight, nothing major, just like 10 pounds or so, but I was always thinking, "I can't lose weight, I may be pregnant!". So let's fast forward some months and I'm still not pregnant. This month I decided to just bite it and lose a few pounds. So far I've lost 4 that I can count and I'm on my way to losing some more. I've decided not to let ttc get in the way of doing what I wish at this point. If I get pregnant, I'll work to eat healthy like I have been and not lose weight. So yeah, I can see that when we haven't had children yet, we tend to straddle both sides of the fence.

[Dee-Groovy]

Wow Emily and I must be trendsetters with the PhD thing. :
Nico what are you planning on studying? Christina, what does you hubby want to study? I'm always interested b/c there are so few of us (even tho I'm surrounded by them IRL).

OK Christina I'm gonna tell you what you should've told me a couple days ago: SNAP OUT OF IT. Your temps would be higher if you were preg, right? That's what finally convinced me even tho AF was super light and early. Sorry, think of it as tough love. You don't have to be crazy and obsessive and stop indulging during the 2ww, if you still want to try (but not try) while you're in Italy. Honestly, the embryo usually implants around 10dpo and even then it gets practically nothing from you. Think about it - the placenta is still forming and not fully functional. I think nature designed morning sickness to kick in at 6 weeks when the fetus needs the most protection. So a couple of glasses of wine and an espresso here and there (I don't know what limonocello is) are really not going to hurt anything, especially before you even know whether you're pg or not. Plus you'll be in ITALY, how romantic! That's my rant.

Nico I also found some info about taking soy isoflavones to help with ovulation. The theory is that the isoflavones are phytoestogens and block estrogen receptors, causing your body to make more estrogen. The estrogen helps trigger the LH surge, so it works like clomid. So that's something else you might wanna look into. I'm taking 80mg a day on days 3-7, which I found is equivalent to 1.5 veggie burgers! Doesn't seem like much but I hope it helps me.

Emily I'm so glad that your midwife finally believes that you're pregnant!

Sarah you're chart's looking nice!

Kat so sorry AF found you.

Since the clouds have lifted for me I'm back on the upside of the roller coaster. I realized that I used Preseed both times I got pg, so using it this cycle dramatically increases the odds that I'll get pg again. Now it just has to get here in time!

Xenon the Preseed is always packaged like that & a lot of women agree that there's too much in each tube. I found it worked better if I used a lot (shake the tube down first to get the air out of the tip) rather than trying to use it sparingly or externally. Sounds like with your high score on FF you won't need a "next time" though! :

Holy crap I wrote a book!

[cking]

Originally Posted by MajorGroover

OK Christina I'm gonna tell you what you should've told me a couple days ago: SNAP OUT OF IT. Your temps would be higher if you were preg, right? That's what finally convinced me even tho AF was super light and early. Sorry, think of it as tough love. You don't have to be crazy and obsessive and stop indulging during the 2ww, if you still want to try (but not try) while you're in Italy. Honestly, the embryo usually implants around 10dpo and even then it gets practically nothing from you. Think about it - the placenta is still forming and not fully functional. I think nature designed morning sickness to kick in at 6 weeks when the fetus needs the most protection. So a couple of glasses of wine and an espresso here and there (I don't know what limonocello is) are really not going to hurt anything, especially before you even know whether you're pg or not. Plus you'll be in ITALY, how romantic! That's my rant.

Thanks for that. I actually have a rationalization for my temps too - it involves my sheets. : They have been steady all week, and the day that my temps dropped was the morning after I changed the sheets.

Ah, but I'm not at all worried about trying in Italy. That I'm looking forward to - but we'll be there in early March - so that's the next cycle. What I'm not sure about is trying this month. If I were to get pg in Feb, it would put me at 5/6 weeks while we are in Italy. Thus, morning sickness, avoiding alcohol, etc.

Limoncello is a liqueur made from lemons that is a specialty in Sorrento. It's not exactly the main attraction of our trip, but one of those things I'd like to try if I wasn't pregnant.

Christina, what does you hubby want to study? I'm always interested b/c there are so few of us (even tho I'm surrounded by them IRL).

We are both civil engineers. He is interested in a construction technology-type program. He really would like to teach, so that is his primary goal in getting the degree. He mentioned the other day that he is pretty sure he would like to get some more experience before going back to school. That does make sense to me, because of the nature of the program he'd be going for, and I guess the finality of it, because he probably feels like going to school would be the end of his "field" experience. So, it's still somewhat down the line I guess....which means it's a little scarier - the prospect that we might have school-age children by the time he's in school.

What are you studying?

[Dee-Groovy]

Originally Posted by cking

I actually have a rationalization for my temps too - it involves my sheets. : They have been steady all week, and the day that my temps dropped was the morning after I changed the sheets.

Hahaha I actually LOL'd at that. I see what you're saying about being newly pg in Italy... wouldn't want to have m/s while there & on the flight. Wow that is a really tough call. That's awesome that you & DH are in the same field. Grad school is tough but I think the money situation makes it much worse. If you're making decent $ while he's in school it probably won't be too bad. I know several couples like that and it works out well. My DH is in humanities and I'm getting my PhD in biology. He's an undergrad and I'm both excited and filled with dread about him going to grad school. I can't help feeling like our lives are on hold while we prepare for the future by getting these crazy degrees. I'm not sure that either of us wants to teach but I think we'd both be good teachers (college), which would be nice if we can get kid-friendly flexibility.