Originally Posted by oceanbaby
I have never been to a baby shower with kids. Babies, yes, but not kids. I am a huge proponent of children being included in daily life, and wouldn't have cared if people brought their kids to my baby shower. Hey, I don't have to watch them. But I certainly understand that it is a different vibe, and I guess that bothers some people. I personally wouldn't bring my kids to a baby shower just because I know that we'd all have much more fun that day if I got to chat with my friends and actually sit while eating, and they got to go run around the playground with Daddy.
How do you say no? You write "adults only" on the invitation. And when someone asks, you say "I'm really sorry, but this event just isn't appropriate for children."
And of course some people won't be able to go because of this. When you have kids sometimes you miss out on things.
The host also stated that her child is still and infant and the house is not childproof for wandering mobile children. Which means probably not alot of toys/things to do for older kids either. And very little space. Plus add the hot tea and china and it's just not appropriate for children, period.
I also think that I'd be so worried about "watching" my own 4 year old, to make sure he wasn't getting into hot tea, or breaking something, lol, that I would not be able to relax and enjoy myself. I'd much rather leave him at home with his dad or a babysitter for a few hours.
I have been to lots of showers with kids and men invited too, and they were fun. Although at several showers I've seen young toddlers/preschoolers tantruming/insisting on opening the Mom to be's gifts, and the Mom to be looking uncomfortable, and the parents just giving the "aren't they adorable" look, instead of intervening . And of course, the proverbial kids running amok or trashing the host's house, with little supervision because their moms are talking.
Even if men are invited to these showers, from what I've seen, the men usually find a reason not to come, usually it's just the moms and kids.