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post #141 of 608
The Bears Game was great the first minute and that was it! Great party though. We had a party for people who had small kids at my friend/realtor's house. Our kids are in class together and she is 4 blocks away. So if someone's kid has a meltdown, they can go and not miss the game, not that it mattered!
We vowed to get together for the next one. I said it could be at my house and the kids could bring their spouses
post #142 of 608
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So, Kait is waving! It's soooo stinking cute. !

William started waving too, but he usually waves with the hand that is behind my back when someone in front of him waves. Too funny...

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She's still working on teeth. I thought the top 4 were all in, but she let me get a good feel, and only 2 are cut. So it's _X_X with the x being a tooth. The other spots look like they will pop at any minute. Crank, crank.
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We only have the two bottem teeth, and he has had them since Christmas Day. My two year old got his first 6 teeth in a week and a half..that was fun!

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Other than that, no new news over here... Ya'll enjoy the puppy bowl! (that's what's on in my house...)
Ok, we went to a Superbowl party and before we left, my husband put the Puppy bowl on for our dog...you know, so she wouldn't miss the big dog game of the year

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And you know how once you start arguing, it's hard to stay on the actual topic? (Or maybe that's just us !

We do that all the time. Always ends up back to the same topic. Actually, that topic is usually very similier to the one you had, that he doesn't enjoy being with me or being married to me anymore. Issues, anyone??



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We vowed to get together for the next one. I said it could be at my house and the kids could bring their spouses

We were just saying the same things about the Eagles....my grandchildren might enjoy seeing them win!!



Well, nothing much here. It is COLD. My kids won't wake up because we were out too late last night, but heck if I am going out to drive Lillian to school.
post #143 of 608
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DH loves Prince now because of a "Chappelle's Show" episode - anyone know the one I'm talking about?
Assemble your crew! Game. Blouses.
We loooove that one and quote it randomly. I watched that dvd while I was in labor, haha. Heather, we should have TV night if we lived closer.

The 48 hour rule is probably a good idea, but then again sometimes people can manage to pack a lot of dumb into 48 hours :/ I like to end all fights with "Yeah? Well, you broke up with me!" Which dates back to 3 months in 2002 where I moved out. We figured out we wasted something like 20k on rent that year because someone was being a butt. Can't let that one whizz by, now can I?
post #144 of 608
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I watched that dvd while I was in labor, haha.
OMG. So did I.

That one, and the Venture Bros DVD from "Adult Swim". You know that one? Brilliant show.
post #145 of 608
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The 48 hour rule is probably a good idea, but then again sometimes people can manage to pack a lot of dumb into 48 hours :/ I like to end all fights with "Yeah? Well, you broke up with me!" Which dates back to 3 months in 2002 where I moved out. We figured out we wasted something like 20k on rent that year because someone was being a butt. Can't let that one whizz by, now can I?
: That's right! Now, if I had to get everything out within 48 hours I wouldn't be able to bring up those random people he had dinner with in college with names that begin with "Sh-" like Sheshanna and Shanna-Marie and Cherie and Shira (actually she was just Annamarie, but I had to prove my point with the Sh-) What we actually end up doing though is that I have to organize my thoughts by rehearsing everything I am ticked off about a few times with my mother and/or sister. (they are actually pretty good sounding boards because they know how great dh is and the things I am usually ticked off about are trivial in the whole scheme of things or as soon as I tell him, he corrects it) And then when I have calmed down some and can speak without yelling, I then approach dh about how I am feeling. We also have a WEDS book. Did any of you Catholics get that from your class? For those not familiar it is Write, Exchange, Discuss, Solve.

The most brilliant thing I got out of my class though was to ALWAYS talk about finances. No secrets or trying to cover-up to protect the other person. If we are broke, we are broke. If we are rolling in it this month, we are rolling in it this month....

Anywho, to work. Have a good one guys....
post #146 of 608
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OMG. So did I.

That one, and the Venture Bros DVD from "Adult Swim". You know that one? Brilliant show.
Only thing I watch on Adult Swim is the Boondocks... Great show....Labor... first time dh watched a hockey game... Second time it was late at night and really kind of went fast so no TV for us....
post #147 of 608
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We also have a WEDS book. Did any of you Catholics get that from your class? For those not familiar it is Write, Exchange, Discuss, Solve.

The most brilliant thing I got out of my class though was to ALWAYS talk about finances. No secrets or trying to cover-up to protect the other person. If we are broke, we are broke. If we are rolling in it this month, we are rolling in it this month....

Anywho, to work. Have a good one guys....
We didn't get that book. Our marriage prep may have been slightly different though, as it was "re-marriage" prep, focusing on blending families and dealing with ex families, ex spouses, first children, new children, etc.

We really liked our marriage prep, actually. I grew up with parents who were Engaged Encounter instructors (and they have one of the worst marriages I've ever seen...irony anyone?) so I was used to it, for the most part.

And the finances are huge here! We talk about it all the time. It's made a huge difference in our daily life, honestly. It always amazes me to talk to my few married friends who have no idea how much their spouse makes, or what their money is being spent on. I don't understand that, TBH...not that I'm saying Brad has to tell me every time he stops to get a soda (or I him) but I mean I have friends who don't know what their spouse spent $400 on, and vice versa.
post #148 of 608
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We didn't get that book. Our marriage prep may have been slightly different though, as it was "re-marriage" prep, focusing on blending families and dealing with ex families, ex spouses, first children, new children, etc.
It's actually just a notebook we created for that purpose, not an actual book given by the class or anything.

And for us, it was deciding how much was a fair amount that could be spent without consulting. Everything relative depending on how secure you are financially and all.... If we are going to spend more than that amount, then we have to discuss....
post #149 of 608
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It's actually just a notebook we created for that purpose, not an actual book given by the class or anything.

And for us, it was deciding how much was a fair amount that could be spent without consulting. Everything relative depending on how secure you are financially and all.... If we are going to spend more than that amount, then we have to discuss....
Now I understand! Got it.
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Now I understand! Got it.
: Didn't mean to confuse you. :
post #151 of 608
Ok.

1. 48 hour rule. Sounds great. Right now we are currently working with an "anything that happened within our lifetimes" rule, which means when DH gets mad he'll bring up something that happened 5 years ago.

2. Katie, congrats on the job! Kessa, I"m glad you get to see your DH. Helen, your posts make me laugh. And, I like the snowbabies pictures everyone posted.

3. Heidi, I'm sorry to hear about your difficulties, and hope things work out soon. (I don't have any great suggestions, unfortunately).

Other stuff--
P is a crawling fiend and he wreaks havoc wherever he goes. DH is tired!

Why are eggs "on sale" for $1.99? Why are they so expensive now? These aren't even happy chicken eggs- they're from battery cage chickens. ???

This weekend I discovered the cats had peed outside of the litterbox, because the box had gotten so bad. I must be really out of it, because I had FORGOTTEN that we have a litter box! : Note to self: be very very sweet and loving to cats.

DH keeps getting after me to get a playpen but instead I put chairs sideways on the floor and it worked... for 6 hours, when he figured out how to go around them. Little stinker.

Did I post about this before? VENT warning:
SS's mother's youngest son was born on Jan 2. She has been bfing him, but SS said on Wed. that "sometimes she has to use formula because she doesn't have enough milk." ??? She bf SS until he was 2, so I don't see how she could truly have supply problems. I wanted to suggest things, but she and I don't have a relationship. I just said to SS that she'd make enough milk if she just let the baby suck, because that's what stimulates milk production.
I even went so far as to consider sending information to her in the mail about how she should essentially get rid of the formula and pacifier (I'm sure she's using one), just nurse her baby on demand, and it would be fine.
Well, this weekend she left the baby with her mother so she could go over to her sister's house. : WFT? He's 1 month old! No wonder she has supply problems, because she leaves this sweet new thing when her supply is establishing.
I know it's none of my business, and I know it doesn't matter that I'm frustrated by how it affects SS. He's smart, he'll figure it out. I guess I"m just sad for the baby. It wasn't like she HAD to leave him. (And if anyone out there left their baby at 1 mo, please don't take offense! This isn't directed towards you!) Why do people bother having kids when all they want to do with them is farm them out to others? (This statement is not just derived from this occurrence.)
Anyway, I don't think she wants to bf him, so I won't bother sending her info.
And, SS told us he doesn't like spending time w/ his mom because she makes him take care of the kids (one brother, 2.5, one brand new). That's sad.

Ok, off to work.
post #152 of 608
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1. 48 hour rule. Sounds great. Right now we are currently working with an "anything that happened within our lifetimes" rule, which means when DH gets mad he'll bring up something that happened 5 years ago.

And, SS told us he doesn't like spending time w/ his mom because she makes him take care of the kids (one brother, 2.5, one brand new). That's sad.

Ok, off to work.
Seriously, the 48 hour rule rocks. And it's really easy once you get used to doing it.

Oh, and we also have the "don't talk about anything remotely serious after 10pm or before Sarah has been awake for half an hour in the morning" rule. 'Cause we both are REALLY exhausted at night and tend to get snippy with one another after 10 if we try and discuss anything important, and I am NOT a morning person...by any stretch of the imagination. Seriously, if it's important, we e-mail each other so that we can mull it over during the day and then discuss it in the evening when Brad gets home. Or, it gets resolved over e-mail. Either way, it's discussed. We rarely back-burner things. One way or another, it gets figured out within that 48 hours. It's pretty neat.

Re: SS's mom...I don't know what to tell you. All I know is that I'm grateful we'll never have to deal with that, considering that my girls' biomom will never have more kids. She's so different than I (refused to BF either girl, at all, left them both in carseats all day long, CIO, scheduling, would circ without even thinking twice or feeling guilty, etc) that I don't think I could keep my mouth shut. DDs1&2 are seeing such a different world in our house, and they have expressed many times that they really like the way we're raising their baby sister.

There was something else I wanted to say, and I just completely blanked...talk about pregnant brain!!

OH! Another board I'm on (local mom's group) is going to be starting a Frugal Living forum with me as the moderator. I'm excited.
post #153 of 608
I'm lost. I can't even catch up. I went to my mom's yesterday I know to take her lightly,but the things she says make me : .

OK so I have a situation.My dh was married before(not the problem)to his best friends sister they were married for one year then split. she messed him up good. people tell me he's not the same person he was.Well bf diead 2 yrs ago from cancer and we still hang with his wife. I am having a pampered chef party and I invited said wife and she called back saying she was comming and she was bringing S along do I mind? And I said that I didn't. Then in the back of my mind I was like .

How do I be nice to someone who isnt very nice?I feel like I will be judged on so many counts.

To add all she wanted was kids when she was married to dh.know she's on ter 4th and no kids. that is all end rant.


I will go back and play catchup!
post #154 of 608
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I'm lost. I can't even catch up. I went to my mom's yesterday I know to take her lightly,but the things she says make me : .

OK so I have a situation.My dh was married before(not the problem)to his best friends sister they were married for one year then split. she messed him up good. people tell me he's not the same person he was.Well bf diead 2 yrs ago from cancer and we still hang with his wife. I am having a pampered chef party and I invited said wife and she called back saying she was comming and she was bringing S along do I mind? And I said that I didn't. Then in the back of my mind I was like .

How do I be nice to someone who isnt very nice?I feel like I will be judged on so many counts.

To add all she wanted was kids when she was married to dh.know she's on ter 4th and no kids. that is all end rant.


I will go back and play catchup!
I would bet she wouldnt show IMO, But if she does, she will endure lots of stares etc since everyone will know the story when she arrives. At least if it was at my party, a few girlfriends would know and bam now everyone knows.

We are all exhuasted here. From the 4 days of running crazy and then 4 days of staying away. Last night after that horrible game, we all came home and crashed.

As far as WEDS or the 48 hour rule etc. Bob and I were a PreCana couple at our church for several years. We stopped about 3 years ago because the lead couple who was ancient were driving us nutso. They managed to run the most boring seminar there ever was and could not figure out why they got such horrible feedback from the engaged couples. One couple came to our baptism class a few years later and said they were glad to see us because they liked our part of the day the best. .

But my point, we used to stress communication, expectations, and of course your relationship. We still do date night with each other, talk about 99% of $ matters, plus if something is bugging us, be upfront. Letting it escalate to a huge fight and then drudging up ancient history does no one any favors as anyone here has learned. We have learned over 10 years that taking turns and sometimes picking up slack for the other helps us.

We also love when the other does "little things" for the other. Like, Bob is eating and I take his plate etc up and clear up. I have a crazy day so he does the dishes that night. Tomorrow he is taking the day off, so I will make sure he can sleep until 7am because he is exhausted right now. The message it sends- I care about you and I know you will appreciate this little something special and it will make your life easier, even if only for a few minutes. It dosent cost anything and its nothing extra I have to go out of my way for.

Sorry for the soapbox. :
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I like to end all fights with "Yeah? Well, you broke up with me!" Which dates back to 3 months in 2002 where I moved out. We figured out we wasted something like 20k on rent that year because someone was being a butt. Can't let that one whizz by, now can I?
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Now, if I had to get everything out within 48 hours I wouldn't be able to bring up those random people he had dinner with in college with names that begin with "Sh-" like Sheshanna and Shanna-Marie and Cherie and Shira (actually she was just Annamarie, but I had to prove my point with the Sh-)
post #156 of 608
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... are ellipsis. Poor Bubbie-ann indeed! And how funny is it that her almost-twin's nickname is Bubba-doo? Ha!

Please, goddess, don't let us get sick! I don't want to be sick and in labor!!!
That is funny!

Don't worry I washed my hands before I logged on to MDC.

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to you too! : ILs... Oh, and I'll let you in on a little secret: I used to say pop too, when I was living outside of Pittsburgh while I was a kid...but changed over to soda quickly when I moved to NY state.
It's weird because I thought I had retrained myself to say soda...we lived in Savannah for awhile and I learned that pop isn't pop there. But now I am saying it again...not that DH buys me pop ever. I have to sneak it at work.

How come when I'm home sick I get stuck working?
post #157 of 608
Why not use both and say "soda pop"? Satifies both requirements. :

And sorry you didn't get an actual day off Lindsey...
post #158 of 608
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Why not use both and say "soda pop"? Satifies both requirements. :

And sorry you didn't get an actual day off Lindsey...
Thank you....I need a hug!


Did I mention that the IL's gave Marlow a chocolate pretzel?


OH! and thank you Lisa for the bathrobe! Marlow loves it!
post #159 of 608
. What is up with people really having no clue what to feed kids? We were leaving for church and C said he was hungry. It was 7 in the morning. Why did dh grab him an oreo cookie? Never heard of a granola bar or some wheat crackers???
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. What is up with people really having no clue what to feed kids? We were leaving for church and C said he was hungry. It was 7 in the morning. Why did dh grab him an oreo cookie? Never heard of a granola bar or some wheat crackers???
: Oreos are the breakfast of champions! With cold pizza! :
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