Originally Posted by devonc
I JUST watched The Secret DVD last night and I am dying to know more! Subbing to this thread.
At the moment, I am developing an "Attitude of Gratitude", making a list of every single thing I am grateful for, and trying to attract:
~a good observation from my boss, with NO Needs Improvement and 5 Exceeds Standards
~a phone call from my recent ex-bf telling me he was stupid and he misses me (figured I'd start small before I start trying to manifest my Soul Mate
If you don't mind my saying so... it is unwise to attempt to over-rule someone else's feelings. Your ex is gone, that is his choice. Trying to regain HIM in particular is setting yourself up for some bad karma, because it's a form of trying to take away someone else's free will.
What is highly recommended is that you go back to the time that you were with him, and HAPPY... and write down how that felt. What feelings does being in a good relationship give you? What did you enjoy about the RELATIONSHIP? Not actions he took or things he did or things about him... instead, what about the FEELINGS that you enjoyed with him.
The reason for being in a relationship are many.... companionship- ask for that. friendship- ask for that. contentment- ask for that. a feeling of belonging- ask for that. a sense of being loved- ask for that. happiness- ask for that.
Always ask for the end result, not for the means to get there.
The end result isn't being with him- the end result is happiness, feeling loved, having someone to love. Don't narrow it down to only being happy with HIM, or only feeling loved by HIM, or only getting to love HIM. Do you see how you limit yourself and Universe that way??
And for your job, what is the end you are after from the desire to have your boss give you good marks? Probably more money... so why not cut to the chase? What things do you want as a result of more money?
A better home? Ask for that!
A new car? Ask for that!
A better wardrobe? Ask for that!
A fun vacation? Ask for that!
If you limit it to only getting your vacation after you get a raise, or only getting a new home after you get a raise... then you tell the Universe it's not okay to give it to you through winning a contest, or through someone leaving it to you in a will, or through you getting a loan from HUD, or from.... the Universe's resources are unlimited.
But you certainly can limit it to only getting a raise or getting an old boyfriend back. The question is... why would you want to? Especially since maybe your old boyfriend isn't the best you can get.
Did I say that out loud??