February Law of Attraction - Page 8

[*Devon*]

Once again, Linda and Crunchy, you guys are goddesses! I am going to try everything you suggested.

A big part of my negativity is this schadenfreude I have toward other people I feel are doing better than I am. I tend to put everyone else's lives up on a pedestal and then I get a little tickle when I find out they're not perfect, which I really wish I didn't do. I think I will start to manifest focusing on the great things in my own life and stop caring about what everyone else is doing (you know what I mean... not stop caring)! I have already started trying not to compare myself to everyone else, and it's been working ok!

Like Captain Crunchy said, It's not easy at first! (Oh, I had an moment reading your post... so funny that you mentioned a concert - I took HIM to one because he couldn't afford it and I really wanted someone to go with. You're so right about the positive memories)

I need to read Ask and It is Given... I think that will help me a lot.

[Momtwice]

When I'm feeling negative about a certain person, often I'm not able to think of something nice about them. When that happens I switch my mind to thinking about something ELSE that brings me joy that has nothing to do with them.

It's great when it works...feeling grateful about a person to dispell negative feelings about them. But I find it works better for some people than others and this gives me something else to do.

[KoalaMama]

A big part of my negativity is this schadenfreude I have toward other people I feel are doing better than I am. I tend to put everyone else's lives up on a pedestal and then I get a little tickle when I find out they're not perfect, which I really wish I didn't do. I think I will start to manifest focusing on the great things in my own life and stop caring about what everyone else is doing (you know what I mean... not stop caring)! I have already started trying not to compare myself to everyone else, and it's been working ok!

You might want to do a little work on why it makes you feel better to hear that someone else is not doing as great as you thought. When I read your comments I thought of jealousy, and when I think of jealousy I think lack of confidence in your ability to achieve the same things (love, money, career, happiness... it doesn't matter about the 'what'). If this feels 'on' for you, then I think you might benefit from some affirmations like these:

I am capable of having anything my heart desires.
There is nothing I cannot do or be.
The world is full of experiences, and I can choose any of them as my own.

Once you believe that you can do anything, or be anything, then you're not likely to want anyone else to be/have less than what they can be/have. You can view the experiences of others as wonderful examples of things you might like to choose for yourself!

[MsChatsAlot]

I agree with Koala...it sounds like an issue of self-esteem and confidence. Do some personal growth and realize all the wonderful qualities that make you, you. Focus on all the good things that you do, all the lives you impact, etc. When you feel good about yourself, you find the good in others.

[celesterra]

I started the 30 Days book yesterday and had so much FUN! I really love the list in the morning - separating what I am going to do vs what I am giving to the Universe is awesome. Very clarifying and freeing.

I had a great success yesterday - I was able to get us in line to receive a great solution to an issue with cell phones for everyone living in my home: We got new cell phones for me, my sister and my hubby for just $20! I was stoked!

When I opened the book last night, I came to the exercise where you do BOPA for yourself and others... but I couldn't find what BOPA means! Do any of you know?

TIA!

ps: Hi Devon! Good job being so inquisitive and ready to learn!

[KoalaMama]

BOPA = book of positive aspects You create lists of all the wonderful things you appreciate about a person.

[*Devon*]

Originally Posted by celesterra

ps: Hi Devon! Good job being so inquisitive and ready to learn!

Hi Celeste!! I started the 30 Days book today too!! I can't wait to do more! I think I still have your number, we should really chat one of these days... maybe even get together!

Thanks for all the comments. It's funny, I feel outwardly like I am very confident (if you ask my friends they'll tell you how much I love myself! Except my best friend, she sees right through me) but when I really dig deep I realize I very often feel inadequate! I am also EXTREMELY dependent on outside approval in order to feel good about myself. I need to practice affirmations to realize what an awesome person I truly am! And that I DESERVE great things.

In other news, I manifested not being late for work today! I left later than usual, I would normally be late, but I visualized looking at the clock in the office and it saying 8:44, signing that time on the sign in sheet, my name not being highlighted, etc, and it TOTALLY WORKED.

And I won the Super Bowl pool I'm giving it all away though, because so many people need it more than I do. (Weird question - it's not like, rejecting it by giving it away, is it? I am just blessing it out to others).

I am so hopeless with this stuff! Thanks for being such an AWESOME support system!

[MyLittleWonders]

To me, giving away something you win or purchase in and of itself isn't an issue. I am manifesting great amounts of money in order to help others. But, it's the attitude of "other people need it more than I do" that to me, raises possible red flags with the Universe. From my upbringing (was raised with these beliefs and then fell away and am relearning them for a lack of a better word), telling the Universe that others need it more than you basically tells the Universe not to continue sending it your way. So, instead I would focus on the feeling/joy/excitement of continuing to manifest money so you can feel the joy/excitement/love of giving it to others as well.

[*Devon*]

I do need it, and I deserve it, and I love sharing it with others! It makes me so happy to be able to help someone in need.

Does this work for an affirmation?

[Amris]

Originally Posted by devonc

And I won the Super Bowl pool I'm giving it all away though, because so many people need it more than I do. (Weird question - it's not like, rejecting it by giving it away, is it? I am just blessing it out to others).

It depends on how you look at it, I suspect.

The Law of Attraction states that there is plenty for everyone. If you are looking at them and seeing them as lacking, that feeds the concept of lack. It seems as if you do not look at other people and see them as their REAL selves, the powerful, creative, beautiful being... you see them as a being of lack, limited and incapable of creating for themselves.

If you are seeing them as rich, powerful, creative, beautiful, mighty beings, then you are seeing them correctly.

For, either we ARE, or we are NOT, beings with unlimited power and creativity. There is no in-between with something such as that. It's like being a little bit pregnant.

[Amris]

Originally Posted by devonc

I do need it, and I deserve it, and I love sharing it with others! It makes me so happy to be able to help someone in need.

Does this work for an affirmation?

Remember to only give away excess money. If you have nothing you want to buy or need to pay/buy for yourself... THEN it is money to give away.

Never give away money you have a use for yourself. After all, there's plenty, right?

[Eli's_mommy]

Originally Posted by devonc

Once again, Linda and Crunchy, you guys are goddesses! I am going to try everything you suggested.

A big part of my negativity is this schadenfreude I have toward other people I feel are doing better than I am. I tend to put everyone else's lives up on a pedestal and then I get a little tickle when I find out they're not perfect, which I really wish I didn't do. I think I will start to manifest focusing on the great things in my own life and stop caring about what everyone else is doing (you know what I mean... not stop caring)! I have already started trying not to compare myself to everyone else, and it's been working ok!

Like Captain Crunchy said, It's not easy at first! (Oh, I had an moment reading your post... so funny that you mentioned a concert - I took HIM to one because he couldn't afford it and I really wanted someone to go with. You're so right about the positive memories)

I need to read Ask and It is Given... I think that will help me a lot.

My girlfriend and I have been talking about 'sympathetic joy' a lot lately. Somebody somewhere is overjoyed for some reason, and if you can feel that joy for the people you know and love and care about, then you will always be joyous. I like that thought a lot. Perhaps it'll help you

[MsChatsAlot]

Amris

[Annikate]

Patience

I'm having a little trouble being patient and letting my manifestations come when they're supposed to.

Anybody else experiencing this? I mean, I *know* they'll come, but I'm wanting to see the results *right now*. It's like I'm drumming my fingers and tapping my toes waiting, waiting, waiting . . .

[MsChatsAlot]

Yes, I've been there.

Then today, (obviously manifested by my higher vibrational self) I pull this "Ask & It Is Given" card.

"Why is it taking me so long?"
"The only reason you have not already received what you desire is because you are holding yourself in a vibrational pattern that does not match the vibration of your desire."

Great! (I say with a sarcastic tone) More for me to figure out and re-adjust!!!

[chasmyn]

I had a great day yesterday!

After I vented my frustrations with my low vibration and received some wonderful words of wisdom and support from this group, it was a new day. I went to a friend's house so she could show me some knitting stitches. I got in the car to go home and was listening to Jack Johnson and I was suddenly aware of feeling really good - buzzing!

I drove by a hair salon on the way home and a little voice said, "Go in there, get your hair cut now!"

I might mention I'd been wanting a hair cut, I just hadn't gotten around to making an appointment. I haven't cut my hair in 4 years!

I got a great haircut - I feel lighter for it, it's cute and sassy and I get to donate my braid to Locks of Love!

So when I was feeling good, the Universe opened up and guided me to a great haircut - perfect!

[hula]

Originally Posted by Amris

Remember to only give away excess money. If you have nothing you want to buy or need to pay/buy for yourself... THEN it is money to give away.

Never give away money you have a use for yourself. After all, there's plenty, right?

I'm not so sure about that. Help me out here.

We've accumulated some pretty serious credit card debt over the past several years. If I were to only give away "excess money" I wouldn't be able to give any away until I paid off every last penny of that debt.

But I know we're still better off than a lot of other people, so I give when it seems right - not huge amounts, but we don't have what I would consider "excess money."

Also, I've always heard that if you don't give when it's difficult, you won't give when it's easy.

[Amris]

Originally Posted by hula

I'm not so sure about that. Help me out here.

We've accumulated some pretty serious credit card debt over the past several years. If I were to only give away "excess money" I wouldn't be able to give any away until I paid off every last penny of that debt.

But I know we're still better off than a lot of other people, so I give when it seems right - not huge amounts, but we don't have what I would consider "excess money."

so there's not enough money in the universe to pay off your debts, and give to others, also?

Also, I've always heard that if you don't give when it's difficult, you won't give when it's easy.

I would consider that to be a negative belief about money, wouldn't you?

Kind of reminds me of, "money doesn't grow on trees, you know," or "you can only get rich by screwing other people!"





ETA: I personaly gave and gave and gave. Until one day, I realize that I was the charity case, but I still kept giving away!

Since then, I have worked on being willing to receive. That's a big problem for me. It hurts my pride, it makes me feel like I'm taking from others, I'm being selfish and narcissistic, etc. etc. I have a lot of really negative beliefs about receiving.

[WuWei]

I am capable of having anything my heart desires.
There is nothing I cannot do or be.
The world is full of experiences, and I can choose any of them as my own.

KoalaMama, thanks for posting this. It is an amazing personal power to realize this is so.

Devonc, there is a book called "The Secret Life of Bees". It is a fictional story about learning to mother yourself and giving yourself the unconditional acceptance that you yearn for. I haven't read it but I have heard it highly recommended.

Pat

[KoalaMama]

Amris and hula... I think there's truth to what both of you are saying. (Obviously, because it's all truth. ) I really don't think we should hold off giving until we need nothing ourselves, because there's always something more we can be providing for ourselves, and to never give seems, well, wrong to me. (Though if someone doesn't ever want to give, that's their choice.) I think there's something absolutely wonderful about the experience of giving to another person, and I don't at all think that means the person is being viewed as lacking. Perhaps I just like helping others manifest their own desires.

I think where the problem might come in is if you're giving with some sense of obligation and resenting it. Giving from the "I have to" place instead of the "I want to" place. So whatever makes you feel best is the right way to do it!