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Annikate... Can I give you some homework? I'd like to create a little assignment for you.
I'm all ears.
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So, you know how Louise Hay talks about sinus/headaches have to do with anger/frustration with a loved one and how sore throats have to do with communication issues? Man did that ever ring clear for me today! I have been getting increasingly frustrated with my mom lately and yet haven't been communicating with her, so today during quiet time I realized I had a knot of a brow with accompanying headache and a slight sore throat! !

Maybe you all can help me process it and give me some good suggestions for affirmations, visualizations and release-statements. Here's the hopefully short story.

So, my parents divorced when I was seven. I adopted the belief that I needed to take care of my mom. We haev, in some ways, a codependent relationship. When I graduated from high school I moved away to college (albeit only 1 1/2 hours away). It was very uncharacteristic of me, and I almost moved back the following year. But, I didn't and I lived away from home for 5 years. Then, I moved back home when I started teaching back here (and actually lived with my mom for a while while I saved money to get my own apartment).

In the interrim, I had left the beliefs she raised me with (metaphysical and LoA), and converted to Christianity. She was never very fond of that. I left the church while still in college, but then went back after I got pregnant with ds#1. She wasn't very fond of it again. When dh and I left the faith completely, we dabbled in a couple other belief systems for a while (1-2 months) and she still wasn't thrilled. Recently I have finally come back to my original beliefs and am happy. But, I have always felt embarrassed about the entire journey around her because I feel a big sense of "I told you so" from her even though she's only really said that one time.

(And mind you, she isn't a mean-spirited person, and I really love being around her.)

As dh and I were ending our religious experience, we also started changing our diets. We went quasi-kosher for a while, then stopped (though we still don't eat much shellfish or pork). We have gone more and more traditional in our eating. We have become much more picky about what we eat, as well as what we feed our children. And now we are on the Feingold program. And when my mom talks about these things, I get an undertone of "what now are you doing?" Actually when I first told her about FG, she said, "What are you doing now?" It : me (combined with that I already got that from my disapproving father).

On top of all this, dh and I have always dreamt of moving away ... either back to San Diego (where we went to school and met) or central CA coast, or in my wild dreams, the pacific northwest. Whenever, and I mean *whenever* I mention our dreams, she either gets negative with me about it (it's a different country up there, you can't move back once you move away, I don't know what I'd do without you guys, etc) or she flat out changes the subject. And in all honestly, I don't think she even realizes she does this. But it's really starting to : me a lot.

This morning we were talking and I mentioned moving and how that dream has really opened up the channels of communication between dh and I - we have really started digging deep into why we would want to move (get out from under parental control of our lives), why we are afraid to move, etc. I told her how the actual moving may never happen in our lifetime, but it is so nice to talk about and dream about and is helping us really work through deeper issues in our lives. So instead of being supportive (which is funny because we always talk about how my dad isn't supportive of me and yet in some ways she's not supportive of me either), she said basically that from her perspective, all these "changes" we've done since I got pregnant with ds#1 has precluded us from simply enjoying life now ... our religion changes, our diet changes, and now wanting to change where we live ... we aren't actually enjoying our life now but just trying to constantly "fix" it.

Her comment really made me mad and then made me think. I'm honestly not sure how I feel about it ... I'm not sure if she's spot-on or not, but it made me feel one thing: that she wants me to be like her, and she's not happy when I'm not. She wants me to believe like her, live where she does (I live in the same exact neighborhood where she grew up ... the house where she grew up is 5 streets east of me - the boys and I walk past it all the time), she wants me to like what she does (she loves roller skating as do I, but I think she wants me to love it as much as she does), she wants me to be like her ... and I don't want to. I mean, I like most the same things she does ... she has good taste, is fun to be with, and all. But, I am my own person. So, how do I get that across to her? How do I let her know I'm my own person without her feeling threatened by it? I've tried to say some things like, "I'm a farm girl at heart whereas you are a city girl." But she just kind of, well, changes the subject, because it is dealing with my dream to move. Ugh ... I hate feeling like this about my mom because I truly love her and love being with her. But lately I've felt this resentment growing because I'm so tired of being pooh-pooh'ed over things that are important to me.

So ideas? Affirmations? Things to use to help release the emotions tied-into all this? Should I speak directly to her? Or simply write her a big ol' letter, print it out, and burn it?
post #2103 of 2309
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Is that what I think it is?????
post #2104 of 2309
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Shannon....shannon....SHANNON.... S H A N N O N.....

SHANNON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks, you made me smile

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Shannon, you don't have to *do* anything to feel good per se -- in other words, if you don't want to watch The Secret or anything else you don't have to... you honestly don't.
I love what you wrote but there's this part here. See, whenever I watch that Youtube video - every single time - it lifts me up and makes me happy. So why do I not watch it more? Why do I have this resistance to just clicking the dang link (that I have in my links toolbar even - doesn't get much easier!). Every time I watch The Secret (or part of it) I come away lifted up, so why do I resist that?

Am I actually resisting or is it that I need to stop watching and start doing other things? How do I tell?

I just sat here and thought "what do I want" and I swear my mind was a total blank. But then that might be because the sounds of Power Rangers is blocking out any thoughts in my head

I'm happy overall, I'm not miserable or depressed or anything, I just feel like I want *something* and I don't know what it is. Like I'm happy but there is something missing.

I'm going to try asking myself that tonight when the kids are asleep. And writing the list of what I don't want that was suggested.

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So it doesn't matter so much (right now) that you don't know exactly what you want.

You know this I'll bet:

You want to feel good. You want to feel at peace, you want to feel happy.
I don't mean this to sound down, it's more in a thinking tone of voice, but I think I was depressed for so long, I don't know what happy is anymore. I'm happy but what does that mean? How happy? Is there more or is this it? Maybe I'm finding all that out and it's just a bit uncomfortable right now. That sounds weird,

Thanks, you all are helping a lot I wish I could contribute more to this thread but man, by the time I read something I'm pages behind For what it's worth, I've been sending vibes for the happy, healthy kitty who is quickly recovering from her sucessful surgery

And CC you are going to be one kick*** life coach
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Thank you ALL so much for all of this support! I really really appreciate all the congrats. RL people thus far just aren't able to get as excited for me.
Except for dh. He does really well. It just feels so very good to follow your passion, YK?

My Little Wonders I will absolutely take clients via phone and email.
I know a great classical homeopath in the San Fransisco area, but I think that's pretty far from LA, right? Sorry~ I don't know CA at all.
post #2106 of 2309
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Penny, regarding feeling safe, towards the end of the Lisa Nichols interview in the Masters of the Secret series, she talks about the agreements she uses in working with teens to create safe space. I think you might find it helpful.

And, by the by, I've been reading all your posts about dealing with your dh and his (up until now ) skepticism with great interest. Early on in following all this, my dh saw something in my inbox from the Secret folks about attracting money and he dismissed it somewhat angrily as "another get rich quick scheme". So I have been being very private about all this stuff, listening to things when he's not here, etc. I occasionally point out examples when I see things happen, and I encourage him (with little success so far) to at least imagine what he wants, but I don't really talk about all the stuff I've been exploring with you wonderful mamas here.

Well, anyhow, he just sent me this link . It's a Newsweek article on the Secret, and, predictably, it's full of sneering. Towards the end, they actually say, hey, this may be really useful in some ways, but on the last page, just before the final sneer. There are a few valid criticisms in the movie, and some legitimate points, but mostly sneering. Like they go on about what a brilliant marketing move it was to call it "The Secret". Well, yeah, it was, and sneering at it just makes the author sound jealous.

So. There's the beep of his car locking outside.
DIVINE LOVE TOGETHER
DIVINE LOVE TOGETHER
DIVINE LOVE TOGETHER
Yeah, I'm sure I'll get that one soon! I have to say, they were about as superficial about it as they were accusing the movie of vbeing!

I do feel that I've lost my buzz a bit, to be honest. The quantum physics side of it always fascinated me, but it turns out Fred Wolf was somewhat unhappy that they'd left out half of what he said, and it was pretty similar to what dh was saying last night (we actually were having a pretty good conversation about it). He graduated summa cum laude in physics and knows enough about quantum physics to say that in fact it tends towards randomness. I guess part of my issues with dh is an issue I have with myself! Hardly surprising, I suppose! But of course, that could be proof of manifesting! :

When all's said and done I know there's something to it. But I was in this wonderful bubble of "why NOT a million bucks in half a year?!?" and I'd like it back. At the very least, even if it's not true, believing it's true has in itself created amazing miracles in my life. Which makes it true. Or something. : Or maybe we do create the reality we want, so it's true if you believe it or not if you don't.

Umm...just ignore me for now, will you! I don't want to affect anyone else's buzz.
post #2107 of 2309
My Little Wonders:

I wish I had sage advice for you. These family things can be so very hard.

You might want to write it all out and put it away for a little while. Then you can revisit it or burn it or send it or whatever, but you don't have to decide right now. It might change something for you if you are able to at least get it all out in some way.
post #2108 of 2309
Sorry I haven't been posting much. I have alot of internal stuff going on, all positive, and having a hard time gathering general thoughts. I've been reading alot and having a good amount of spiritual growth happening. It's just hard to put into words.

I read what you all are talking about and I just don't know what to say lately.
post #2109 of 2309
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Originally Posted by Zannalyn View Post
Penny, regarding feeling safe, towards the end of the Lisa Nichols interview in the Masters of the Secret series, she talks about the agreements she uses in working with teens to create safe space. I think you might find it helpful.

And, by the by, I've been reading all your posts about dealing with your dh and his (up until now ) skepticism with great interest. Early on in following all this, my dh saw something in my inbox from the Secret folks about attracting money and he dismissed it somewhat angrily as "another get rich quick scheme". So I have been being very private about all this stuff, listening to things when he's not here, etc. I occasionally point out examples when I see things happen, and I encourage him (with little success so far) to at least imagine what he wants, but I don't really talk about all the stuff I've been exploring with you wonderful mamas here.

Well, anyhow, he just sent me this link . It's a Newsweek article on the Secret, and, predictably, it's full of sneering. Towards the end, they actually say, hey, this may be really useful in some ways, but on the last page, just before the final sneer. There are a few valid criticisms in the movie, and some legitimate points, but mostly sneering. Like they go on about what a brilliant marketing move it was to call it "The Secret". Well, yeah, it was, and sneering at it just makes the author sound jealous.

So. There's the beep of his car locking outside.
DIVINE LOVE TOGETHER
DIVINE LOVE TOGETHER
DIVINE LOVE TOGETHER

In the mid 90's Newsweek Magazine had a cover story which basically said..and I kid you not.. that if you are a single woman and you are over 30 and you have a nice career you stood a better chance of being hit by a meteor than meeting a man and getting married and having children. And I am not exagerating that is what they said.

I met the man who became my husband approximately five years later when I was 38. I got married at 41 and had my baby (without scientific help) at 43.

Newsweek gets stuff wrong all the time.


my friend never bought Newsweek ever again.

I'll put my money on LOA..as I did when I attracted my husband.
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Is that what I think it is?????
I knew I should have used the quote feature.

It was in response to this post

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For anyone wondering what you want... sit down somewhere (relatively) quiet and ask yourself the question "what do I want?" What is the VERY FIRST thing that comes up for you? No dismissing anything. The first thought.
Not that I was wondering

no official word yet, sorry if I confused anyone.
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I knew I should have used the quote feature.

It was in response to this post



Not that I was wondering

no official word yet, sorry if I confused anyone.
I thought you were trying to manifest this thread to be a sticky! :
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MyLittleWonders...

I read your post with keen interest because in many ways, I have been there done that. Not exactly the same but similar. In paritcular there is a thing that can happen between kids and parents and it is called Spousalizing...where the kid whether it is daughter or son is married to either mom or dad. It is a really, really tricky situation. My parents split when I was a toddler and my mother never remarried and I became her defacto 'partner'... and I was the person who was suppose to share all my emotional ups and downs with her so she could council/support/cheer whatever and viceversa for her. It was so ingrained in me that I didn't even realize it until I was in my early to mid 20's.. and then by my late 20's.. I did a huge, huge split from her. And didn't fold her back into my life for about 2 years and then only in small doses..

I'm not suggesting that for you because I think your mom is probably way healthier than mine.. but one thing I would totally do is stop sharing any of your plans, hopes/wishes/dreams/accomplishments/defeats.. any of it.. right now with your mother. Talk about stuff in the news.. or small things.. talk about the kids in small doseages.. or let her tell you stuff.. but don't share your personal important stuff. YOu need to pull it back. Once you do that you are going to get a clearer understanding as to where you end and she begins. Where her opinions of you end and your opinions of you begin.. Once you pull it back you will start to feel differenlty and this is where you can really begin your dream and desire work with your husband.

You gotta trust me on this one... it works.

by the way, I dated my husband for six months before I even told my mother I was seeing anyone. And I was very clear with her when I told her we were dating.. I said, "This one is not going away."

hth
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When all's said and done I know there's something to it. But I was in this wonderful bubble of "why NOT a million bucks in half a year?!?" and I'd like it back. At the very least, even if it's not true, believing it's true has in itself created amazing miracles in my life. Which makes it true. Or something. : Or maybe we do create the reality we want, so it's true if you believe it or not if you don't.

Umm...just ignore me for now, will you! I don't want to affect anyone else's buzz.
I hear ya. I am a skeptic by nature and I"ve had similar thoughts and I've also come to the same conclusion. Feeeeeeeling good causes good things to happen. Every. Time.
post #2114 of 2309
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In the mid 90's Newsweek Magazine had a cover story which basically said..and I kid you not.. that if you are a single woman and you are over 30 and you have a nice career you stood a better chance of being hit by a meteor than meeting a man and getting married and having children. And I am not exagerating that is what they said.

I met the man who became my husband approximately five years later when I was 38. I got married at 41 and had my baby (without scientific help) at 43.

Newsweek gets stuff wrong all the time.


my friend never bought Newsweek ever again.

I'll put my money on LOA..as I did when I attracted my husband.
Bwa ha ha! The bit I bolded...I met dh at 37, married at 40 and had ds at 41. Thanks for that!

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Yeah, I'm sure I'll get that one soon! I have to say, they were about as superficial about it as they were accusing the movie of vbeing!

I do feel that I've lost my buzz a bit, to be honest. The quantum physics side of it always fascinated me, but it turns out Fred Wolf was somewhat unhappy that they'd left out half of what he said, and it was pretty similar to what dh was saying last night (we actually were having a pretty good conversation about it). He graduated summa cum laude in physics and knows enough about quantum physics to say that in fact it tends towards randomness. I guess part of my issues with dh is an issue I have with myself! Hardly surprising, I suppose! But of course, that could be proof of manifesting! :
Have I mentioned lately how much I my dh??

He saw that I was down and I explained why. He said, in effect, "You know, the real philosophers all say don't mix science with god - you can't use the one as proof of the other. You're going through a big transition in your life and you don't know yet where it's going to lead you. But it's given you a lot of good things. There's room for faith and for science."

And then I was talking about how this has changed my parenting, and how I feel that ds doesn't feel safe. He agreed and said we have to address the parenting part.

Truly, whether this is a miracle or not, it certainly seems like one! I think I'm feeling better.

[QUOTE] (from MyLittleWOnders) This morning we were talking and I mentioned moving and how that dream has really opened up the channels of communication between dh and I - we have really started digging deep into why we would want to move (get out from under parental control of our lives), why we are afraid to move, etc. I told her how the actual moving may never happen in our lifetime, but it is so nice to talk about and dream about and is helping us really work through deeper issues in our lives. So instead of being supportive (which is funny because we always talk about how my dad isn't supportive of me and yet in some ways she's not supportive of me either), she said basically that from her perspective, all these "changes" we've done since I got pregnant with ds#1 has precluded us from simply enjoying life now ... our religion changes, our diet changes, and now wanting to change where we live ... we aren't actually enjoying our life now but just trying to constantly "fix" it. [QUOTE]

What I'm hearing is she needs a reflection from you to feel sure of herself. Or she thinks she does. Maybe because it was like that for long time,she doesn' yet realize that she can live without it.

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So, how do I get that across to her? How do I let her know I'm my own person without her feeling threatened by it?
I think what you do is BE your own person. She may feel threatened by it, but that's her issue to deal with. You don't have to worry about whether she's threatened by it - that's not your job. If you don't protect her, she has a chance to grow by dealing with it,even if it takes her a while to realize that!

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But lately I've felt this resentment growing because I'm so tired of being pooh-pooh'ed over things that are important to me.
I think if YOU know you are strong in them you won't feel the need to explain them to her, and that will communicate that to her.

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So ideas? Affirmations? Things to use to help release the emotions tied-into all this? Should I speak directly to her? Or simply write her a big ol' letter, print it out, and burn it?
How about,

I am so happy and grateful that I am strong and secure in myself.
I am so happy and grateful that I always follow my inner voice, to the highest good of all.
I am so happy and grateful that I am completely loved, understood and accepted for who I am by all people close to me.
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He said, in effect, "You know, the real philosophers all say don't mix science with god - you can't use the one as proof of the other. You're going through a big transition in your life and you don't know yet where it's going to lead you. But it's given you a lot of good things. There's room for faith and for science."
I don't know why but this made me : Thank your dh for me please
post #2116 of 2309
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I'm all ears.
Part One

Once a day, for the next seven days, carve a couple minutes out of your day to focus on love. Start this exercise by writing a list of your favourite things - anything at all that really rocks your world. Keep writing until you really feel that joyful vibration buzzing through you.

Once you've written your favourite things list, complete each of the following sentences as many times as you can. Aim for at least 10 statements a day for each one.

1) I love myself because...

2) Love is...

We'll talk about Part Two in a week.

Oh, if you think it will help to have some accountability here, I'd be happy to give you my email address so you can share your lists with me privately!
post #2117 of 2309
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Part One
Can I join in?
post #2118 of 2309
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Can I join in?
Sure can! The more the merrier! PM me if you want to email your lists around. I can't think of a better vibe-raiser than to think of all the things out there we all love!!
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I thought you were trying to manifest this thread to be a sticky! :

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Have I mentioned lately how much I my dh??
OMG, now he's clearing out the fridge!! :
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