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Ergh My Cousin had her boy on Tuesday  

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and she's the one who's so mainstream that just does things with what 'seem normal to her! Ooh I got so mad @ her because she just hands her baby over without researching anything! She doesn't even know what kind of tools they used for his circumcision oh and I totally blown up @ her and her boy was born on tuesday it was through online! I even said thank goodness he made it through without dying like some other boys do !

I had tried with her before and failed cuz she don't even want to research the truth!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It just gives me so much anger @ her and this society here I give her oppturnities to research it ! She turns her ways away from it! When I get to meet her kids I will specifically tell the kids the truth of circumcision when they are old enough and i don't care if she gets mad at me because since if she's so clueless on that then how would she speak the honesty about it !

I will even try and say i tried to protect you guys! but your daddy was @ the fault of it and your lack of mom's researching ! I will tell them the truth!


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she replied to my blow out stating that the 'facts of truth i had presented to her were my opinion and that i made my choice she made her. She even told me she didn't appreciate telling her how to raise her kid.

Talk about true blindness! If she's this blind her brother will proably be as blind because he's a circ'ed male like how some doctors are blind.

What makes people not research and not question it ? Is it because it's so culturally engrained into this society do you think maybe one day she will research it or will she never research it.

What will she tell her son's if they ask about it will they make simple story of a lil surgery when you were born to remove extra skin kind of talk ?

I feel distate at people thrown for information towards them to see the 'bad side' and to see there are No Pro's but why didn't she read up on it!
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I understand your anger. I'm sorry she wouldn't listen and my heart breaks for her baby.
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this was her 2nd boy and the first time when I had talked to her about it when I was pg with my son boy was so lenient on that but now after I have known the truth and I try to seriously educate and I'm thinking if she would have saw a video on it maybe she would be able to get a mama bear instinct to it! I'm crossing my fingers hoping that I have better luck with my cousin who is in Utah because I don't want any family to circumcise any of their boys and it's not like I'm obsessing over their penises it's just that I do not like boys going through painful traumatizing unneccessary surgery with no benfit at all and for them to lose a part of their body for no reason just saddens me. It also makes me so upset that all the outdoor mammals are spared from that otherwise they would scream animal torture or animal abuse even at the thought of that.

I imagine if I could have spoke more better with her brother who is having a boy soon but since he's circ'ed he will do what is normal to him even though they had a girl before!

In ways I just want to get these family members educated to know the facts to know they don't have too and that it is very bad. I hope maybe one day she will research it but people fear the truth and if the truth seems bad it will continue to be hidden!

But I won't hide the truth from them !
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The only advice I can give is to never talk with her again. It may seem drastic, but after having a blowout with my whole "family" over this same subject I havent talked to them in 2 months so far, and it has been the most peaceful 2 months of my life. I simply in good concious associate with anybody who supports circumcision again. It brings me down, and I go into deep depression over it. I have to practice what I preach, KWIM? How can I be civil to somebody who I HATE for circing even when I told them the harm that they are doing to their child! I just get sick at the thought!
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The only advice I can give is to never talk with her again. It may seem drastic, but after having a blowout with my whole "family" over this same subject I havent talked to them in 2 months so far, and it has been the most peaceful 2 months of my life. I simply in good concious associate with anybody who supports circumcision again. It brings me down, and I go into deep depression over it. I have to practice what I preach, KWIM? How can I be civil to somebody who I HATE for circing even when I told them the harm that they are doing to their child! I just get sick at the thought!

I'm with you on that it is just so nauseaus and to have people like mom's to ignore the facts of harm to see it as only bias or as opinions it's just sickening to have a parent to be able to feel it's okay to change part of their son's penis by removing two parts - the foreskin and the frenulm who knows what kind of damages they will have as adults .

Will they be able to realize it at all or will they be blinded as their mom is suffering with complications not realizing it's circumcision fault that cause their sexual dysnfunction.

Sigh, believe me it just saddens me and maddens me of how 'stubborn she is ! I feel for her little one(s) and the one that was just recently born proably not even given any pain medcine after the post op who knows if he even got any pain medcine during it.

I feel for the boys who were sent angels to protect them from 'harm' that had no benefit and was very unneccessary but culture of conformity took it in!

At times since my side of family except my son is all circumcised . I'm starting to lack faith in the 'fact' of being able to save more than just my son from circumcision in my family. I proably will have saved his son's if he has boys when he gets older.

At times I wish crazy thoughts that boys would automatically morph into an animal like a cat or dog when they heard the word circumcision they would be totally 'spared' because a cat & dog has more right to all their male parts 'sigh' than a American boy does. I know that is unrealistic but a girl could dream couldn't she .

Maybe one day it will come out with doctors stop being neutral and regular insurances stop covering it.
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