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post #21 of 272
ity-just wanted to stop by and give a hug! isn't this the LAST part of ttc and infertility that we should have to worry about?? just don't let the clomid pressure get to you too bad. since your tests thus far are clear, it means it still CAN happen for you naturally. that's what i'm betting on. but i know there's no way around it...it SUCKS!

hi 11yrs! i'm trying to do like you and "not keep track" to the best of my ability!

good nite ladies!
post #22 of 272
Oh Ity, I was really pulling for the insurance to come through. We too have zero insurance coverage, I had to pay $94 to see the dr last month just to get the clomid. And I too have 3 rounds and then ? I don't know, a little time steeping back from the ttc insanity I suppose. I am on round #2 now and I am steeling myself.

I know this seems like a huge blow, and it is, but it does not get to ultimately decide on what is going to happen in the future. Anything can happen. I am starting to think that the next step I need to do is come up with some big $$ if I want to keep going down that fertility road or onto adoption. Insurance is really just money to pay for stuff, so if I can come up with the money the coverage won't matter.

Anyways, I had to jump in and say hugs to you, I am right there with you.


Hello to everyone else, sorry I have been MIA I have been reading and cheering you all on. I promise to write more soon !
post #23 of 272
Ity Just wanted to send you some and well wishes. I am very sorry about all this insurance mess.

hazeleyes - I know just how you feel. I have been avoid little ones for a few months now. I know it's not the right thing to do but I completly understand the feeling.

I am on CD6 and going into yet another cycle.... I have my fingers crossed but I don't want to get my hopes up. I hate the 2ww stage and then the inevitable AF. I never thought trying for another child would be this miserable. I am sick of being disappointed every month. I am sick of people tell me to relax. and to add insult to injury my lovely MIL called to tell me that she wants a grandchild of her own blood (DD from previous Hubby) and that I should have known that I was defective before I married her son. DH told her we were going to the doctor and she assumes it's my fault we are not pg yet.:

I am so sorry to be a downer. I wanted to let all of you know that finding this board means a lot to me. Hearing from other women going through similar things makes me feel less alone is this baby less world. Thank you all.

Lots of good baby thoughts for all o'ing this week. May your little miracles happen.
post #24 of 272
Ity I am so sorry, especially since you thought it was covered. How about moving to Canada? Do you have any kind of coverage at your job? This probably won't make you feel any better right now, but my sister suffered many setbacks on her road to motherhood that seemed sure to prevent her from adopting her 2nd dd and it all worked out in the end. Not without a lot of worry, but her dd is at home in Canada now. She will however be paying off the adoption loan for quite some time. I'll keep my fingers crossed that perhaps your current ob can think of something new, or that you'll be able to save for more treatment. Of course getting pregnant in the meantime would be ideal. I'll be thinking about you & your dh.
post #25 of 272
Thread Starter 
Moving to Canada is certainly something we've mulled over before. Ultimately though, with DH's family down south, and mine here in CT, (not to mention all of our friends) we just don't want to be that far away. We're discussing the possability of insuring ourselves outside of his work insurance. The snag we've hit is that while we DO have insurance, they fall into the one loophole that allows them to NOT cover infertility treatments, which is self-insuring. Because they are a hospitol, and self insure themselves, they are exempt.:

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I am so sorry to be a downer. I wanted to let all of you know that finding this board means a lot to me. Hearing from other women going through similar things makes me feel less alone is this baby less world. Thank you all.
I feel exactly the same way. This forum is sometimes the only thing that keeps me sane.

I think what we're going to try to do is an IUI this cycle while I'm on my last round of Clomid - trying to maximize this. I'm assuming IUI is far cheaper than IVF, and I'm also going to push my Dr for one more month of Clomid with another IUI if nothing happens this month. It'll have to be out of pocket though, so I need the OB to tell me how much before we do anything, because we can always go elsewhere if it'll be less $ there.
post #26 of 272
to ocean and ity and anyone else dealing w/insurance coverage issues in the US - insurance in this country just plain stinks. I don't have coverage now that we know of, but I at least had some for a few months and got some things covered. I wish I had a magic wand for 'ya and I'd confer you at least a couple of months of coverage!

: We're all sick here. I'm on cd 30-something and unable to pinpoint ovulation w/wonky temping and all due to the illness flying around here. I'm still reading, though, and thinking of/cheering on each and every one of you. Although, if it sounds like someone's hacking up a lung, try to ignore it - it's just me!
post #27 of 272

Any older moms ttc

Hi
I am new to the forum. I wanted to know if there were any moms in thier 40's who are trying.
I am ttc. Though, I have a 4 yo but i guess it has been awhile and i was told ( friends, family) after 45 and on.. it is a bit scary and your eggs are much lesser ectra. yada yada yada.. I sometimes get this "feeling" that people just want to be RIGHT and therefore THINK that i will listen..lol I know they are concerned for me. But that is my choice. And of course will be the last one for me. Mine ds is in pre-k and i knowit is alot of work but enjoyable work. But they seem to think i am wasting my time ...ectra. Life is more than having babies.I have another ds who is 19.(previous marriage). I feel young and i am energetic. I am not saying i am 20 but i have stamina.
: :l: : : : :
There, are family members, who have something to say. But i am thee authority of myself! (venting here)- Issues like medical-physical and $$. And "Are you carazy"? Then, of course the "LOOKS" i get..lol Like i am climbing off a diving board- and a t-shirt that says.. I'M STUPID! What are you thinking!!
Anyhow i digress. though i have been ttc. And was wondering..if there were mommys out there in cyberspace..lol like myself.
Thanks for listening.
post #28 of 272
well I forgot to post over here... geez

after 72 cd's.. I finally got af...
I really really hope this is my month... cause this is getting old... the waiting... I cant be patient any longer

I'm holding out my hopes for all of you... I love the support I have found on mdc.. and that there are women like me here... because there is no one IRL around me that is doing what we all have been doing...

they get pg with a snap :

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post #29 of 272
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: : Angel!! YAY! : :

Pinkroses - welcome to our little corner of MDC. There is a TTC in our 30's thread, you might find a few mommas if you started a TTC in our 40's thread. I'm sure there are a few around here. You are more than welcome to stick around here for a while, though I hope your stay is short and sweet.

I just got off the phone with my OB and I'm gonna do an IUI this month, while I'm still on Clomid. It's going to be $550 out of pocket, there goes our tax refund. lol
I also called an RE who is supposed to be one of the best around this area, and I have an appt. for late March. That may or may not be out of pocket. It's an initial consultation, which I see my insurance does cover, but who knows if they actually will or not.: BUT - I have the appt, and I'm hoping that I'll get to call and cancel it. :
post #30 of 272
Yay, Crystal! Congrats on a brand new cycle.

And, Itybty, you did so much research. I think we're doing an IUI this cycle... and then maybe adding Clomid in next month. Same basic set of tools. It is really exciting that you got an appointment with an RE and that the basic consult might be covered. I think I'm leaning more in the direction of being open to finding a way to afford an RE if I need to. I had been really against it before now... because I couldn't put past-self in my future-self's shoes. But here I am and it is a relief to find out I can change my mind and that I can try to make this possible. It feels good and not desperate like I thought it might... in the past when I was projecting into the future.

pinkroses--There is a "40+and ttc" thread. It is on the first page with a post just this morning. I'm about 18 years older than my sister and my mom wouldn't have it any other way. Welcome!

pampered_mom--I hate it when a sickness interferes with temping! I hope you feel better soon!
post #31 of 272
Hello Everyone,

I just read all the posts, and I don't even have enough words to console you. But sending you

Here is also to all those who needs it.

post #32 of 272
Ity: Sorry about the insurance. I hate having to jump through hoops and I hate it when they won't pay for things that they really should. I hope you'll get to cancel that appt w/ the RE too.

p.s. Whenever you have time would you please add me back on the first post. Ttc #1 since 02/01. Thank you, very much.

pinkroses: Welcome!! I did a tiny bit of research on 'advanced maternal age' which is officially defined as a mother that delivers a child after age 35. The real issues seem to be chromosonal abnormalities, a higher possibility of multiples etc. But if you google that phrase - you can really find alot of information online. Ultimately there are risks with any pregnancy, so who cares what everyone else says?? Do what makes you feel right. You sound like a very young mom in her 40's!!

angel: I use to have super long cycles too (100+ days). For me it turned out to be hormonal irregularities. Do you know exactly what's causing yours? Those cycles are great when you're just trying to avoid af - but when you're ttc, they can get kind of aggravating.

pampered_mom: Feel better soon. It's not good for ttc and when you feel awful.

As for me, af came to visit on my anniversary (sunday). Not ideal, but dh is excited. We kind of took a cycle off after the mc, and we're going to ttc again this cycle. I'm back on my supplements - so I'm hoping that my luteal phase will lengthen again, so that I don't have to worry about anymore babies that don't have time to implant. I'm feeling guilty because I don't seem as upset with this mc as w/ my first, but that's the nature of the pregnancy loss beast (so to speak). Guilt, guilt, guilt. : I still feel positive about the future of our ttc. And I haven't been able to say that for a VERY long time so I'm going to ride this tidal wave out until it fizzles.
post #33 of 272
fierrbugg... I had a long cycle because it was my first after bcp... I had a 2 month af and was put on bcp to stop it... after I stopped I had af.. and then it took a really long time to get another one.. I think it will straighten out now... I'm on vitex... 11 days after I started it I got af.. so it must be working

I agree it is nice to not have af... except when youre ttc
thanks for asking
post #34 of 272
Well I went for my u/s today and I have two follicles on the right side. He said they are 1.4 and need to grow to 2.0. I thought maybe I'd go for another u/s but he told me to do the trigger shot Sunday night around 9PM. YIKES! I have to inject myself and I"ve never done it before! Then the IUI will be Tues morning 9:30AM. So it looks like everything is on track.

BBL for personals.
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post #36 of 272

Still peeking in...

Hugs to all

I hope you don't mind me still lurking around. This group is so great that it is hard to let go.

lesliesara63: Good luck with the trigger shot! The first time you have to do that will always be with you...I think of it as a kind of badge of courage. How many people do you know of who have to give themselves injections? It is a daunting idea to most of us, I think. I have heard of peopleapplying ice to the area before. If you are nervous, perhaps that is something to try. For me, the thought and anticipation were much worse than the actual event. I hope it goes smoothly for you and that this will be the last one you'll have to give to yourself! My fingers are crossed for you!
post #37 of 272
ItyBty when will you be having your iui? Do you have do to a trigger shot as well? I'm glad that you're able to do an iui this cycle. Hopefully you'll get pregnant and be able to say screw you to the insurance company!

Sky nice to hear from you. Did you ever figure out if you got pregnant from your last iui or was it right after that? How are you feeling?

My friend is a nurse and said she would do the shot for me if I'm too chicken. I still don't know what to do and its kind of freaking me out. I can't separate the nausea from the clomid and what is just from anxiety. I'm trying so hard to not get my hopes since I know it doesn't always work.
post #38 of 272
Leslie,
I'm feeling great! I'm just moving into my 12th week and will be relieved to get past the first trimester. Based on the dates, conception was after my last IUI cycle. I'm still puzzled because I never have regular cycles w/out meds. The only thing I can think of was that my body was not completely back to normal and let me o on my own. I guess I've just stopped trying to figure it out-I'm just so happy it happened however it happened!

I'll be thinking of you on Sunday night!
post #39 of 272
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ItyBty when will you be having your iui? Do you have do to a trigger shot as well? I'm glad that you're able to do an iui this cycle. Hopefully you'll get pregnant and be able to say screw you to the insurance company!

Sky nice to hear from you. Did you ever figure out if you got pregnant from your last iui or was it right after that? How are you feeling?

My friend is a nurse and said she would do the shot for me if I'm too chicken. I still don't know what to do and its kind of freaking me out. I can't separate the nausea from the clomid and what is just from anxiety. I'm trying so hard to not get my hopes since I know it doesn't always work.
No trigger shots for me, thank GOD. I'm SO not a fan of needles. We are just waiting for me to ovulate, I'm a late-ovulator though, so not until Wed at the earliest, maybe the following Tuesday or so. I've gone as late as CD23 before, and I'm only at CD14 today. I'm really looking forward to telling the insurance co to screw off too.

If it was up to me, I'd let the nurse-friend inject me, I just know I couldn't do it myself, when I get blood drawn I have to look away. I basically hand over my arm behind my back and count ceiling tiles.
post #40 of 272
Hi all

Just a quick post before going to bed.

I tested yesterday it was BFN, anyway I will wait it out. No cramps/spotting. The only things I have been feeling since 5 days ago is increased sex drive. What's with this?? Anyone please help me out.

Hurray!!!!! Today is my Birthday, I'm 41 .

: Happy Belated Birthday to me:/

: :

Sorry no personals. But here is to all who need it including meself.

Later,

and Blessings to us all
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