does staying home make you lazy or do you just feel lazy?

[mommytomahmoud]

i been a stay at home wife for 3yrs than i had my son who is 6 months

soo now i been staying home for 4 yrs but i always feel lazy their is only soo much u can do as in cleaning and just staying busy

i go for walks around my apts and i even got a pedometer to see how many steps i take and soo far i got up to 17k a day but my goal is 20k but i just feel sooo lazy staying home

when ur kids get older do they make u more active?

i love staying home and well i would not change it ever only i can raise my son right but i just want to be more active any tips

ayah

stay at home mom iam : and married to ahmad and my son mahmoud : born july 20th 06 save the ta tas : save the earth : save the animals : i love being vegan

[Sharlla]

I think it makes me lazy, I remember when I worked my house was always clean. Maybe because I wasn't always in it and gotten use to the mess. I felt like I had more energy and in general happier when I was working as well.

[RedWine]

Wow, I feel totally the opposite. I've never been so busy in my entire life. Every. Single. Minute. of my life is filled with meeting the needs of my two kids. Playing together, cleaning together, discovering things outside together, etc....there is no downtime at all for me. No coffee breaks, etc.

[Amys1st]

I wonder if its an isolation thing. I have noticed if I am in the house way too much over a period of time, I get "lazy" but like has been said I too am so busy esp now with two! Once I get up and go, it goes away but if your "get up and go, got up and went" (Aerosmith!) then you need a new game plan.

[Twocoolboys]

Nope, not lazy here. I think there is something to having older kids and being busier though. I know that my older sons school functions and activities related to that do keep us pretty busy. But, taking care of the house is another busy thing for me. Our house needs some work, so there is always painting and things like that to be done.

But, I do have to comment on your steps per day. I think you are doing great! Don't they say to aim for 10k a day? 17k is fantastic! It's been a while since I've used a pedometer, but even on the days that I went for a 2 mile walk, I think I maxed at about 15k and I'm a pretty active person. Maybe it's your perception?

[cappuccinosmom]

I'm not lazy (I don't think). But it makes me feel lazy.

My kids are loved and well fed and paid attention to, my house is very clean and tidy, I make all our meals from scratch, I keep my mind sharp with all kinds of interesting stuff from the library (from Ann Coulter to Ann Crittenden ) and write a little on the side. I'm also growing another baby.

But if I sit down at the computer, I feel lazy and guilty. If I sit down to read a book, I feel lazy and guilty. And it's worse being a one-car family and not being able to get our regular exercise at the park, or having busy mornings grocery shopping this past month. :

[*violet*]

Originally Posted by RedWine

Wow, I feel totally the opposite. I've never been so busy in my entire life. Every. Single. Minute. of my life is filled with meeting the needs of my two kids. Playing together, cleaning together, discovering things outside together, etc....there is no downtime at all for me. No coffee breaks, etc.

I completely agree with you, RedWine. I just quit work several months ago to stay at home with my two boys (3 years and 11 months) and this has been the most crazed, insane busy time of my entire life. I truly have never been so active and busy. For example, this has taken me like 40 minutes to write this! :

[mamaley]

Thanks for this thread! I'm feeling a bit lazy as well. There have been times when I've been a sahm and I didn't feel lazy at all, but lately i have.

[jlpumkin]

I have to agree with Redwine. I feel so busy, I'm tired. Sometimes I dream of DH job.. sitting behind a desk all day. Shutting my door for breaks/lunch where I don't have to have any human interaction if I don't want it. But alas, I truly do love being with the munchkins and will choose to savor this nap time gabbing at the 'puter BUT maybe it's a 1 vs 2 kiddo thing or just age? I remember with #1 thinking of ways to fill my free time.. now with #2 just turning 1 yo I'm still busy protecting him from himself

[Cardinal]

Originally Posted by RedWine

Wow, I feel totally the opposite. I've never been so busy in my entire life. Every. Single. Minute. of my life is filled with meeting the needs of my two kids. Playing together, cleaning together, discovering things outside together, etc....there is no downtime at all for me. No coffee breaks, etc.

[damselfly41]

No, I am not, nor do I feel, lazy. In fact, like some of the pp have said, no downtime.

[honeybee]

Well, as far as housework goes, I have pretty much always been lazy, whether I WOH or not. As far as exercise, well it goes in spurts.

[mamaley]

Originally Posted by mamaley

Thanks for this thread! I'm feeling a bit lazy as well. There have been times when I've been a sahm and I didn't feel lazy at all, but lately i have.

I want to add to this. I had this long, wonderful phone conversation with my mother today. Long story short, she reminded me that I've always had a goal that I was moving toward, and I've had to live in a more hectic pace. Now I'm simply living, enjoying my family and providing for them in a way that only I can. Sometimes it can feel like I'm moving a mile a minute, and other times it feels like snail's pace. Some days I get so much done, and other days I only do the bare minimum, if that! But this is life. We live in a world that is very busy, with many distractions, and can be easy to fall into traps that come with this...but I need to remember that sometimes slow is nice, even necessary. To just breathe, and live, and enjoy.

[Jennifer3141]

This time of the year makes me feel lazy. I just want to nap in bed all day.

But as soon as Mother Sun reappears and we can get outside in the fresh air, I'll be running from sunup to sundown.

Hot chocolate and a lonnggg nap with the littles nursing. I feel tired again.

[Nikki98]

Originally Posted by mamaley

I want to add to this. I had this long, wonderful phone conversation with my mother today. Long story short, she reminded me that I've always had a goal that I was moving toward, and I've had to live in a more hectic pace. Now I'm simply living, enjoying my family and providing for them in a way that only I can. Sometimes it can feel like I'm moving a mile a minute, and other times it feels like snail's pace. Some days I get so much done, and other days I only do the bare minimum, if that! But this is life. We live in a world that is very busy, with many distractions, and can be easy to fall into traps that come with this...but I need to remember that sometimes slow is nice, even necessary. To just breathe, and live, and enjoy.

So true!!!!

[JoyMommy]

Having children has always kept me on my toes; I feel so busy. Mothering never ends and although I may plan for breaks things can and do come up so I have to keep myself very flexible. But I love to stay home with my kids. I love the freedom as well to plan my own day with the kids. Like someone else mentioned, I think the issue with feeling lazy, bored, lonely, etc. at home has alot to do with being IN the house. I try to make sure we go outdoors to play when the sun is out. It makes a huge difference and I feel so happy. But keep in inside and after awhile I have a hard time feeling happy or motivated and then I feel guilty. I think the sunshine, the fresh air and change of pace of being outdoors is so important for everyone especially moms and kids.

[JoyMommy]

Oh I forgot to say, Enjoy this stage where you have plenty of free time!!!!! If you feel bored or unsure as to what to do, invite another mom over for lunch. We women are such social creatures and it's nice to share a meal with a friend. If you're not sure who you can invite, you can meet other moms by going to libraries or local programs, parks or indoor children's places or even just going to church.

HTH!

[RedWine]

Originally Posted by JoyMommy

Oh I forgot to say, Enjoy this stage where you have plenty of free time!!!!!

Okay, I'm not being snarky -- I am really confused. "Plenty of free time"?! With little kids? How is this possible? I'm serious, I don't understand.

[Einen]

I do not feel one bit lazy. Keeping the house clean and running, tending the kids, beginning homeschool, and preparing meals is plenty of work. I feel pretty balanced though, I get about 5 hours rest/me time a day.

[Einen]

Originally Posted by mommytomahmoud

i been a stay at home wife for 3yrs than i had my son who is 6 months

soo now i been staying home for 4 yrs but i always feel lazy their is only soo much u can do as in cleaning and just staying busy

i go for walks around my apts and i even got a pedometer to see how many steps i take and soo far i got up to 17k a day but my goal is 20k but i just feel sooo lazy staying home

when ur kids get older do they make u more active?

i love staying home and well i would not change it ever only i can raise my son right but i just want to be more active any tips

ayah

I wanted to add that it took me awhile to get to a balanced schedule like I described in my last post.

When I only had one baby I had a lot more "empty" time. I took lots of walks outside (we were in the country), read, and quilted. I ran a lot more "unnecessary" errands and I cooked more complicated meals.