next time...

[travisandjill]

I was just thinking about when I had my son...I was asked literally around 30-40 times if I was "sure" I dont want him circumcised. I was a new mom and they made me feel as if what I was doing was wrong, luckily I held strong to my morals. This is unacceptable! I made a promise to myself that next time I have another son, I will only answer kindly ONCE. The next time/s they ask....I will turn into the biggest they have ever met! They are gonna wish they never woke up or went to work that day because they will get ripped a new one by me.

I wholly encourage other mommas to do the same. Soon these doctors and nurses will wonder why some mommas get so upset and hopefully will do their research!


Jill

[Tinijocaro]

It's nice of you to give them one chance to ask you that question, but think about this. They are asking to perform surgery on your healthy child who has no defects. Why should they be asking at all? Maybe a good response could be "Why are you asking, is there a problem with my child's penis? I'm surprised you would be offering surgery when there isn't even a problem!"

[Getz]

That is so weird! I was asked once, during registration (it was on the list of the million questions they ask) and I said no and was never asked again.

You must have had a lot of penis-chopping nurses taking care of you!

[travisandjill]

Originally Posted by Tinijocaro

It's nice of you to give them one chance to ask you that question, but think about this. They are asking to perform surgery on your healthy child who has no defects. Why should they be asking at all? Maybe a good response could be "Why are you asking, is there a problem with my child's penis? I'm surprised you would be offering surgery when there isn't even a problem!"

Good Answer!!! Wow! Suprising doctors even do this to healthy problem free children

[Fyrestorm]

I would just simply point out that it is completely unethical to solicit unnecessary surgery.

[ndunn]

[Fi.]

"Why are you asking, is there a problem with my child's penis? I'm surprised you would be offering surgery when there isn't even a problem!"

Perfect.

[falcon]

30 or 40 times?!? And to think I felt annoyed that I got asked once (even though I had already very clearly checked, hilited, and starred No Circ on my birth plan.) One of the nurses made a comment that one of the boys was getting circed today, and one wasn't. I still feel sad for that other boy, born in the same hospital on the same day as my ds

I agree that is really unacceptable. I would start by writing a letter to the hospital, that they need to stop pressuring parents about circ.

[njeb]

Originally Posted by Fyrestorm

I would just simply point out that it is completely unethical to solicit unnecessary surgery.

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Another effective way is to write a letter to the administrator of the hospital and COMPLAIN!!! Say that you were very disappointed that your wishes to leave your son intact were not respected by your care-givers. You could also write to the head of the OB nursing staff and the head of the OB medical staff.

Also, if possible, consider a home birth or one in a free-standing birth center. You will be better treated there.

to you for what you went through. And congratulations to you for standing up for your son's right to a whole body!

[kldliam]

Fyrestorm: I would just simply point out that it is completely unethical to solicit unnecessary surgery.

good reply!

[travisandjill]

Originally Posted by ndunn

Yeah I know...I am just such a wimp!!!!!!!!!!

[buckeyedoc]

I was totally annoyed when I gave birth in December and was asked about circumcision by at least two nurses, a pediatrician, a midwife, and even the hospital photographer. I would have become a b*tch except that no one actually gave me a hard time. The pediatrician added, "if you are going to do it," the midwife asked if we had done it because DS was being so sleepy one day that he was hard to breastfeed, and the photographer asked because she did not want to take his picture afterward, saying, "It isn't fair." I was also reminded about circumcision every time I filled in the little log that traveled with DS (the one where you enter how often you fed and changed diapers), since there was a column labeled "circumcision care/vaseline applied." Annoying. At least no one put any forms in front of me regarding circumcision. It must have been clear that we were not interested!

[ColoradoMama]

Originally Posted by buckeyedoc

since there was a column labeled "circumcision care/vaseline applied."

They put vaseline on a wound like that? Yuck - oh man - that is just nasty and unsanitary. They really do that in a hospital? Vaseline? Am I missing something? I would never put vaseline on a wound - ever. That really seems like an infection waiting to happen.

Okay, that was off topic. Sorry, but still...........

[joandsarah77]

They put vaseline on a wound like that? Yuck - oh man - that is just nasty and unsanitary. They really do that in a hospital? Vaseline? Am I missing something? I would never put vaseline on a wound - ever. That really seems like an infection waiting to happen.

Yep I hear vasaline is the 'ointment' of choice.

[QueenOfThePride]

It's to prevent the open wound from sticking to the diaper.