Mother's Day/Father's Day

[BurtsGirl]

I got this question while reading the "coming out to the teacher" post and was wondering what everyone did. If you and your partner are the sole "parents" to you kids (meaning there isn't a father figure) how do you handle or plan to handle mother's day and father's day? Would one get one day and the other get another day? Or do you share Mother's day? If you share it how do the kids feel about Father's day? Just curious!

[lexbeach]

We don't really celebrate either day. My birthday is always right around mother's day (I was actually born on Mother's day ), so it always seems silly to celebrate me again, and we don't end up celebrating dw either because I don't want to share my "birthday week," lol.

Father's Day was never a big deal for me when I was growing up (and I had/have a father), so I don't see how it would matter to my kids at all. But if they feel the need to celebrate someone, they can always make cards for their grandfathers/great-grandfathers. They'll be four in a few weeks, and it certainly hasn't come up yet! They don't watch tv, and Father's Day isn't mentioned at their preschool, so I really don't think they know anything about it.

Dw and I try to celebrate each other's motherhood year-round by randomly buying each other flowers, letting each other sleep in, making special breakfasts, etc. Likewise, the boys make us special pictures/cards almost everyday! I don't see any need to honor the Hallmark Holiday.

HTH!

Lex

[Diane B]

At our former day care, they had our daughter make the mother's day craft for both of us, and the father's day craft for her grandpa. It worked fine. Our new daycare is more hip to alternative families of all types, and my guess is that they don't play up either day and leave it up to the families.

We generally celebrate our own mothers on mothers day, but not ourselves, and our daughter is too young to initiate much herself! Fathers Day I send a card and gift to my dad, and that's about it.

Our daughter is quite clear that she doesn't have a dad, but so far, it doesn't seem to bother her much. The other day, she told me that a kid at day care kept asking her if she had a mom and a dad, and it made her angry that he kept asking after she already told him she had two moms. So already, she seems to know how to handle it!

[chfriend]

Mothers' Day is like Christmas at our house. dd1 goes positively nuts making up presents.

We make cards for the grandpas and some of the uncles for Father's Day. I had friends who had kids before the gayby boom...their kids are in college now. They had Mothers' Day and Uncles' Day at their house.

[mumma#2]

For me and DP, we view Mother's Day and Father's day essentially the same. Not really to celebrate individual people in our lives but more or less to celebrate both motherhood and fatherhood as a whole on their respective days. Chances are, if you are a mother or a father in our lives you can at a minimum expect a phone call.

[wemoon]

Last year, we had a real "mothers, mother's day." We got together with 2 other lesbian mom couples and had a wonderful dinner. It was the best mother's day ever. For father's day, we just made stuff for grandpa. The kids did make stuff for their dad, but since their dad has absolutely no contact with the kids, the stuff just ended up hanging around awhile until they decided to get rid of it. Kinda sad.

[max_4477]

We don't really do anything for either day. Although I do admit sometimes we are envious of our friends whose husbands give them special treats & time off for mothers' day so we might start doing something nice that weekend for each other - like one of us gets sat and one sunday perhaps.