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Originally Posted by sesa70  I can completely relate to revealing too much and wishing I had not.... dd was on our local news before we brought her home. We had been waiting for what seemed like forever for a baby to join our familes, and I was so excited. So, in my excitment and haste I told everyone (well immediate family, but its large. Many aunts and uncles, gma, etc) that she was coming home and that she was the baby on the news, and a blurb about her story.
It has been kicking me in the rear since.
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I am in the same situation. My dd was a bit of a local celebrity. She survived a horrible accident as a result of neglect. I completely milked it for the good of our family. When we started the adoption process I needed a lot. We needed to do huge repairs to our house to pass our home study, I needed to take time off work for a whole bunch of reasons. When I told dd's story, I got everything I asked for from anyone. So in some ways, that was great and needed.
But now, I regret my behavior in some ways. Hopefully, it will all pass. I love and respect dd's birth mother. It really bothers me when co-workers say negative thinks about her like "I can't believe you are bringing your daughter to see her after all of this." I realize this is my fault. I told and retold the story to get what we as a family needed.
I just hope as my little girl grows up, she will be seen as who she is, not as a sad story.
