Originally Posted by momoffaith5
i said 4,after that they're on their own.if you allow it too long they become dependant on others,scared of the dark and stuff like that.
i would rather have an independant fearless child,who would blossom into a strong independant adult.
This resoning is the same to me as CIO, slinging etc. Why the push for independance? My dd who is almost 3 has been worn, coslept, never cio and is the most independant child ever. It is almost too much. She has no fear and is a total daredevil. She will go into dark rooms, drag a stepstool and turn on the lights. Then she shuts the door and plays alone. She KNOWS i am there for her always any time of day or night.
Also, i was never scared of the dark etc. In fact i liked such a dark room my parents had to put up multiple layers of dark curtains. Now my room is painted dark violet with heavy curtains. Dh on the other hand who did NOT cosleep was terrified of the dark. When we moved in together i had to wean him off of his "night light" (the tv). When he got too old for a night light (at 12) his parents gave him a tv instead and he slept with that on all night long so the room would be light.
As far as independant. i moved out at 18, bought my own house, paid for my own wedding, paid for my own college and i help MY parents out.