How old is to old? - Page 2

[northwoods1995]

I voted other. I don't know what the magic age is either. We have full time 3.5 yr old and 1.5 yr old co-sleepers right now and we are totally content and happy with the situation.


I used to sleep in my parents room whenever I was sick when I was younger and also anytime my dad was away (that was all through high school). So not every night but occasionally I did through high school.


My oldest is 3.5 no and when he wants his own bed it is already there for him. But if he wants to stay in the family bed for a while, we are ok with that!

[paint-the-moon]

I posted something on a simliar thread ... My kids can sleep with me as long as they wish. As long as it works for both parents and kids, I don't believe there is an age that is "too old."

Personally, I slept with my parents until I was about 11. It wasn't every night after the age of 8 ... but I loved sleeping with my mama and daddy (they divorced when I was about 9, and my brother and I both co-slept with both parents after that as well ... in fact, we *needed* to co-sleep even more after such a traumatic event in our family). Heck, I slept with my mama for a few nights last year at the age of 31 when my hubby was out of town and I was pregnant.

When my little brother died a few years ago my family set up camp in my living room ... all of us slept together on the floor for about a week to comfort one another ... my mom and dad (who have been divorced for 20 years), me and my husband (DH next to me ... not next to my parents ). As we all laid there not sleeping - crying night after night - to be able to reach out and hold each others hands and find shelter in the love from one another was amazing. I don't know how I would have gotten through those first horrible days without them there like that.

Nothing wrong with being close to our mama and papa. Sharing sleep is a natural and loving thing!

[NamastePlatypus]

When he has his girlfriend in bed with him it might get a little crowded, not to mention akward when moms cold feet are ruining his 'mood'

[ColoradoMama]

I voted other because each child is different. I crawled in bed on weekend mornings with my mom (Dad was usually up) and snoozed and cuddled with her until I got married and moved in with my husband. I'm 34 and I still do it when we go to visit her. It's actually one of my most treasured memories of growing up. My parent's always let me crawl in bed with them when I needed to - they never, ever complained - not once, and I know they were crowded. They only had a full size bed and I was squirmy. They'd let me fall asleep with them, and then Dad would put me back in bed. I was in their room with them until I was four - I didn't sleep in their bed, but that is only because my dad was such a heavy and rough sleeper. He's been known to accidentally kick my mom out of bed without even waking up! Anyway, I digress.......my parents rock! So, I voted other!

[425lisamarie]

Other, I'll cry my eyes out the day DS or DD dont' want to sleep with us.

[ColoradoMama]

Originally Posted by StephandOwen

Just line the floor with mattresses and have you and your dh, kiddos and spouses, and grandchildren sleeping together. One big slumber party

Not too many months ago - we had dd1 on the couch in our bedroom; ds1 in the toddler bed beside our bed; dd2, dh, me (big, fat and preggo!), two cats and one dog in our bed - we have FOUR bedrooms upstairs, but we were ALL in one room! The kids (the three older ones) have since migrated to ds1's room and usually all sleep together in a queen size bed. Just recently, dd1 has started sleeping in her room by herself - once in a while.

[clavicula]

i voted other. as needed.
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article...179265,00.html

[PajamaMama]

I voted age 11, because dd is 11, and she is a real cover hog! She snores sometimes too.

That doesn't mean that she doesn't keep on coming back though! : I don't really have the heart to say no, though I don't have too much of a problem inviting her to sleep on the comfy chenille couch in my bedroom instead of my bed, which is already pretty full of me, dh, dd age 3, and my ginormous preggo belly

[Momtwice]

Other.

It is right as long as it works for you.

In some cultures entire families of all ages sleep close together in one room.

I know many families who have kids who are about 9 and still want to cosleep, and the parents have begun to feel uncomfortable, and make a variety of choices.

[DigitalSuze]

I voted other.

DS1 is 11. DS2 is 6mos. DS1 has coslept on and off as the situation allowed since infancy, but I was often anxious about him "sleeping on his own." Sigh. If only I'd known then what I know now.

Anyway, a few months after ds2 was born (we co-sleep exclusively), I dragged a twin mattress into our room on the floor by our bed and told ds1 he's welcome to sleep there or in his own room as he chooses. He hasn't left our room since except for sleepovers and seems thrilled with the arrangement. I admit to wondering if he's planning to spend his teens here, too, but I trust it will work out fine without pressure from me.

[MsChatsAlot]

Mine are 5 and almost 9 and they both have little interest in sleeping elsewhere.

[Peony]

Originally Posted by NamastePlatypus

When he has his girlfriend in bed with him it might get a little crowded, not to mention akward when moms cold feet are ruining his 'mood'

Yeah that. DD1 is 4 and I see no sign of her leaving anytime soon. She says she'll have her own bed when she is "much older", whenever that is.

[EvansMomma]

I voted other.
We kept coming up with these totally arbitrary ages when we'd stop.
First, "Okay he can sleep with us for a few weeks"
Then, "Okay let's go 3 months"
THEN, "Well we're moving so let's give him til 6 months to adjust to the new place"
And FINALLY, "Look it's been 9 months, the crib's never been used, let's just keep doing this - IT WORKS"

I just don't think I can pick an age and then just randomly give Evan the boot outta the family bed. There's no magic age when I can say "Okay kiddo, sorry you still need me, but you're OUTTA HERE"....

Whatever works is what we'll do.

[JamesMama]

Another other, it's really dependent on the kid. I can remember being 13 and still sleeping with my mom if I was scared or whatever. Kwim?

We don't really have a "You're OUTTA here" age for James, just when he feels ready. We have a full size bed that we'll put up to our King should we have another baby, heck we even have the sleeping arrangements planned out for child number 2, 3 and even 4 should all the kids still be in our bed. LOL.

[alegna]

Hmmmm.... who voted for 1 and 2?

-Angela

[celestialdreamer]

I voted other. My brother would sleep in my mom's room when my stepdad was out of town (which was alot), up until he was about 12. I found it hilarious when he started giving me crap about my dd sleeping with us as a little baby. He said "Shouldn't she be sleeping in her OWN bed?" and I said "Yeah, maybe she should! We wouldn't want her to turn out like you, right?" We both thought it was pretty funny and the subject has never been brought up again by him

[guestmama9924]

we have recently begun to encourage our 11 year old girl to curl in bed with her sister if she wants to sleep with someone. That works great for both of them. With that said, she is allowed in anytime, especially if afraid/bad dreams. Sometime though it is only for a while until I can scoot her back to bed half asleep. The 6 year old is still a regular.

[finn'smama]

Other...I think it really depends on the child. I will make a space available to mine, but I won't push for it until they feel they are ready. And they will always be welcome in our bed.
I was never welcome in my parents bed, and I have lots of memories of being really scared at night and feeling quite alone at many different ages. In fact, I still don't like to sleep alone...

[Llyra]

I personally would be uncomfortable having a post-pubescent teen or pre-teen in bed with the opposite gender parent, so I voted 12 years old. But that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it for other folks; it's more about me and my personal hang-ups and comfort level.

Hmmmm.... who voted for 1 and 2?

I gotta agree-- I'd love for whoever that was to speak up.

[quietserena]

Originally Posted by hotwings640

I voted other.

When my kids get married then I am pretty sure that they are too big to be sleeping between me and my husband.

thank you for that!