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Poll Results: How old is to old to sleep in the family bed?

 
  • 1% (5)
    1 year old
  • 2% (9)
    2 years old
  • 4% (19)
    3 years old
  • 4% (17)
    4 years old
  • 5% (23)
    5 years old
  • 4% (20)
    6 years old
  • 3% (14)
    7 years old
  • 5% (22)
    8 years old
  • 1% (8)
    9 years old
  • 5% (22)
    10 years old
  • 1% (8)
    11 years old
  • 4% (20)
    12 years old
  • 1% (7)
    13 years old
  • 8% (36)
    14 + years old
  • 44% (184)
    Other (please explain!)
414 Total Votes  
post #41 of 161
What a cool thread!
post #42 of 161
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Originally Posted by BusyMommy View Post
What a cool thread!
I'm loving this! I have been worried about DD wanting to be in my bed. It doesn't bother me any, but I worry about what CPS or her therapist would say. :

Thank you everyone for your amazing responses!!
post #43 of 161
When I or DH start feeling uncomfortable with it. Right now, my eldest (11) will sleep on our floor if he feels icky.
post #44 of 161
I haven't read the other replies but I voted "other" because each child has their own needs and each family should decide what is right for them.

My parents were NEVER available during the night for me but when I stayed at my grandmas house I remember curling up with her and feeling so safe and secure long into my middle school years-

My sister came to live with me after my mom died and had been neglected physically and emotionally by my father, she was 14. she slept on my and dh's bedroom floor for a long time, even though she had he own room to sleep. If there would have been room in the bed I have no doubt she would have been right in bed next to me. She had a real need to feel close to us and we were happy to give her the stability. After a few months she felt secure enough that we would be there for her that she moved to her own room- by the time she was 15 she was sleeping in her own room with the lights off and the door closed. I'd like to think by being sensitive to her needs to not be alone, instead of pushing for privacy and independence it helped her to feel secure and gain her independence when she was ready.
post #45 of 161
Other I personally moved #3 into his own bed (a toddler bed right next to mine) when he was just going on 2 so we'd have more room for the new baby, but he's still in our bed half the night. I guess as soon as they are comfortable sleeping through the night on their own. But no matter what, they're always welcome to come snuggle.
post #46 of 161
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Originally Posted by hotwings640 View Post
I voted other.

When my kids get married then I am pretty sure that they are too big to be sleeping between me and my husband.
LOL! Dd (6) has informed me that she plans to do exactly that! She says she and her dh will live at our house and we'll all sleep together!

I didn't vote because I'm not sure. I kind of think dd is getting too old... I don't mind her coming in when she's scared etc. but I want her to know she can sleep on her own without being afraid. I don't want her to miss out on sleepovers and campouts because she can't sleep without me. On the other hand she still seems to need me at night so I don't want to deny her.
post #47 of 161
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Originally Posted by hotwings640 View Post
I voted other.

When my kids get married then I am pretty sure that they are too big to be sleeping between me and my husband.
post #48 of 161
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Originally Posted by MomToKandE View Post
LOL! Dd (6) has informed me that she plans to do exactly that! She says she and her dh will live at our house and we'll all sleep together!
post #49 of 161
Well... I'm 33 and I sleep in my family bed every night. DS doesn't seem to have a problem with it.
post #50 of 161
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Originally Posted by MamaInTheBoonies View Post
Other. My children will never be to old to crawl into bed with me.
I am currently 30 and my parents would still let me sleep in their bed if I was scared or just needed to be comforted.
Same here.

I clearly remember having horrible nightmares well into my teens. I mean, terrifying, where I would wake up crying and totally scared that someone was in the house. My parents wouldn't let me sleep in their bed, but I could always go to my dad's side of the bed and sleep on the floor with a sleeping bag. I was so glad that they didn't mind that I did that. If they would've minded, I probably would have gone and slept with my brother.

I was definitely a kid that needed to co-sleep, and I know my son is like that too. I don't think I'll *ever* tell him he couldn't sleep with me/us if he wanted to, even if he was 20, 30, whatever!!
post #51 of 161
kids and families are all so different, I think it would be impossible to pin this down to a particular age. So I put other.
post #52 of 161
And as for our family, ds can cosleep with us as long as he wants
post #53 of 161
ds was moved to his own bed right before he turned eight. it was REALLY difficult with four of us in bed (almost one year old), three cats and a dog. i couldn't move. and the eight year old is a terribly restless sleeper. when he was six, he hit me in his sleep and ripped out my lip piercing. ouch. i do miss him not being next to me though and cuddle with him in his bed in the morning or he comes in the big bed if he wakes up first.

he is not, however, sleeping alone! my husband moved with him, just to ease the transition, but has stayed! it has been a few months. dh works many hours and often comes home right before bed, so cuddling in with ds and chatting has been really nice bonding for them (they usually just fall asleep together).

my fifteen year old however, is alone in his own room, though he too often comes in and lays on the big bed and chats.
post #54 of 161
I have a friend whose son still co-sleeps at 15. I think she wishes he'd sleep in his own room, but she doesn't openly object to the continued bed sharing.

I co-slept with my mom until I was 8 or 9 and then she started making me sleep in my own room.

If I had a big enough bed (only have a twin with sidcarred crib) my middle child owuld probably sleep with me every night and I'd be fine with that.
post #55 of 161
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Originally Posted by irageo View Post
Well... I'm 33 and I sleep in my family bed every night. DS doesn't seem to have a problem with it.
touche!!
post #56 of 161
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Originally Posted by MamaInTheBoonies View Post
Other. My children will never be to old to crawl into bed with me.
I am currently 30 and my parents would still let me sleep in their bed if I was scared or just needed to be comforted.
And that's exactly how families are "supposed" to treat each other.
post #57 of 161
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Originally Posted by Lynnseedoil View Post
I voted Other (there's always someone with an exception!)

In my case, my mom was a single parent. I still slept with her when I was lonely or scared into my teens. Frankly, sometimes in my 20's I would still sleep in her bed with her when we went to visit my grandparents.

I can see where some people might view it differently with a 2-parent household and a kid getting larger and larger. In that situation, I'd say that as long as everyone involved is comfortable, I don't see an issue.
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post #58 of 161
I put other as it really depends on the individual child and what he/she needs

post #59 of 161
I voted 10, but I should have voted other. B/c if my ds is 12 and still wants to sleep in our bed once in a while, I'm sure I'd let him. We're too crowded, so the floor would be better.

I'm kinda disturbed that some people actually voted 1, 2, and 3. THey're still baies! Trolls?
post #60 of 161
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Originally Posted by wendy1221 View Post
I'm kinda disturbed that some people actually voted 1, 2, and 3. THey're still baies! Trolls?
That's not necessarily fair. Some people are not comfortable sleeping with children in their bed. It doesn't make it wrong.
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