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Poll Results: How old is to old to sleep in the family bed?

 
  • 1% (5)
    1 year old
  • 2% (9)
    2 years old
  • 4% (19)
    3 years old
  • 4% (17)
    4 years old
  • 5% (23)
    5 years old
  • 4% (20)
    6 years old
  • 3% (14)
    7 years old
  • 5% (22)
    8 years old
  • 1% (8)
    9 years old
  • 5% (22)
    10 years old
  • 1% (8)
    11 years old
  • 4% (20)
    12 years old
  • 1% (7)
    13 years old
  • 8% (36)
    14 + years old
  • 44% (184)
    Other (please explain!)
414 Total Votes  
post #81 of 161
Other - as mutually agreeable
post #82 of 161
I have always been plagued by nightmares. I shared a room with my sister until I was 11 and always tried bribing her into letting me stay the night in her room. I would go into my parent's room and sleep on their loveseat up until they seperated when I was 14. After that I often shared a bed with my mom when her boyfriend wasn't living there up until I was 16. When I visit my sister I still share a bed with her at least I will until the current boyfriend stays over and gives me the boot. I HATE sleeping alone. My sister on the other hand was fine sleeping alone and stopped sleeping with my parents around 8 or 9 years of age.

So for my kid as long as she needs. When DH makes a comment about it I remind him there are other bedrooms he can sleep in. He always tells me to be nice.
post #83 of 161
I dont think there is a age so I picked other. The rule here is as long as it works for the kids and for us they can stay as long as they want. I will draw the line and say once they are married they can only sleep in my bed if hubby/wife isnt there as well
post #84 of 161
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Originally Posted by irageo View Post
Well... I'm 33 and I sleep in my family bed every night. DS doesn't seem to have a problem with it.
Yeah...I'm gonna marry this man in 55 days. :

IMO ... The family bed is just that...a bed for a family and our kids are welcome in it as long as they want to be there
post #85 of 161
I voted other as well.

As long as my children need to come in, they can. If they are 20 and need a snuggle, that's okay.

My 8yo dds routinely come in our bed sometime before morning everynight. Sometimes we will let her fall asleep in here too. I guess we are okay with it no matter what.
post #86 of 161

RE: how old is too old

Quote:
Originally Posted by Fairy4tmama View Post
when they want to bring there spouse to bed too
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post #87 of 161
At first I was going to say 10. Then I was like...does it really matter? If it was just me and they had a valid reason for wanting to be in the same room or bed, I don't think age really matters. I do have all girls, so I don't know if I'd feel different if they were teenage boys.
post #88 of 161
I think as long as ur all comfy there's no age limit. When i was 4yrs my mum kicked me outta the bed and it was very tramatic so i slept with my brother untill he moved out
post #89 of 161
dd is 6 and still sleeps with Dh and I. We have no plans to kick her out.

It works for us. We have a king size bed, which I think is the key. There has to be room for everyone. dd is also a great sleeper, goes out quickly (like in 1-2 minutes) never wakes at night.
Dh works a lot so he likes being near dd.

dd has already planned it out. She said when she gets married, her husband could sleep in her room and she'll still sleep in ours
post #90 of 161
Quote:
Originally Posted by chel View Post
dd is 6 and still sleeps with Dh and I. We have no plans to kick her out.

It works for us. We have a king size bed, which I think is the key. There has to be room for everyone. dd is also a great sleeper, goes out quickly (like in 1-2 minutes) never wakes at night.
Dh works a lot so he likes being near dd.

dd has already planned it out. She said when she gets married, her husband could sleep in her room and she'll still sleep in ours

THAT is adorable!
post #91 of 161
I voted 13. I know there will be exceptions once in a while (out of town visiting, sick, scared, etc.) However, I think that by 13 I would really like him to be on his own most all of the time. I don't know why that age in particular. I guess it's just something about being a teenager sleeping in my bed. I would never ever tell him he can't come in though. Don't get me wrong. I would just hope that it's rarely needed by that age.
post #92 of 161
Ohter -
Up to their individual needs.

(Just one now, but TTC )
post #93 of 161
I voted Other. I don't think it depends on anyone's age. My kids can sleep in our family bed as long as they need to.

After my inlaws divorced, the older of SILs slept in MIL's bed until she was 21 and moved out. I remember dreaming of a family bed when I was ten (never had one when I was a kid). I think we will have a separate bed available for ds when he is five (now almost 3,5).
post #94 of 161
So, none of the now *7* people who voted 1 or 2 will identify themselves, eh?

-Angela
post #95 of 161
Thread Starter 
The majority of people who voted and are willing to identify themselves are willing to let their DC stay as long as they want, even into their late teens/20's and on. Sure makes me feel alot better about my 9 y.o. DD!
post #96 of 161
I said 6, but I guess I really should have said "other"

I think 6 is a good age to start getting a little bit of independence. Not too much, mind you, but I'd encourage him to sleep in his own bed most nights at that point. If he was scared or had a nightmare or just wanted to be close to his parents, I certainly wouldn't tell him no!

Hell, I slept in my mom's bed when I was upset. I did that all the way through high school and even after I moved out and needed emotional support.
post #97 of 161
Quote:
Originally Posted by georgia View Post
I voted other Humans are designed to want to be in close proximity to one another. It's really a cultural thing that we box them off into their own rooms...so, since I'm not much into status quo, other it is
ITA!
post #98 of 161
I agree, I think it depends on the child.
post #99 of 161
I'd always welcome a kid who's lonely or having nightmares to sleep in bed with us, but I'd prefer not to have them there every night past the age of 3 or 4. It depends on the kid, though. If they seem to have a strong emotional need for company, I'm not going to kick them out.

My son doesn't seem to care much either way except when he's sick or especially clingy. Last night I tried to take him to bed with us and he woke up after a couple hours and screamed to be taken to the living room to be rocked back to sleep (and then put in his own bed). He is kind of like me and my husband, he seems to need space more than cuddling.
post #100 of 161
Ok, I'll admit I am one of the ones who said 1 or 2. I'm not a big fan of cosleeping, because I don't know anyone in real life who does it happily. They are all miserable and wish their children would sleep in their own rooms. Their marriages have suffered terribly too. My kids slept happily and content in their cribs and along with all the horror stories I hear on this forum, I'm glad. However, I also believe people should do what they feel is best and if they love cosleeping, go for it! (I think people haven't spoke up, because they usually get flamed for this attitude.)
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