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post #21 of 152
heh, thanks!

For sure! Drop me a PM and we will totally go for lunch!!!!
post #22 of 152

Update

To anyone that was wondering why I disappeared, things are still going great with the new boyfriend. We are both completely in love and enjoying every minute we are together. I haven't ever felt an attraction this strong and he says he feels the same. We are going to Tennessee in a month so i can meet his girls. It breaks his heart that they are not closer to him and I feel for him but he's in the Air Force so he can't just up and leave to go where his ex took them. But he wants to introduce me to his mom and his best friend and his two girls. I am excited. So, maybe it is possible to find your soulmate online - only time will tell but I know that it is a good thing right now. So good luck to all of you that are still looking!
post #23 of 152
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Originally Posted by solareyna View Post
To anyone that was wondering why I disappeared, things are still going great with the new boyfriend. We are both completely in love and enjoying every minute we are together. I haven't ever felt an attraction this strong and he says he feels the same. We are going to Tennessee in a month so i can meet his girls. It breaks his heart that they are not closer to him and I feel for him but he's in the Air Force so he can't just up and leave to go where his ex took them. But he wants to introduce me to his mom and his best friend and his two girls. I am excited. So, maybe it is possible to find your soulmate online - only time will tell but I know that it is a good thing right now. So good luck to all of you that are still looking!

congratulations. Have alot of fun!!!
post #24 of 152
Solareyna- Sounds like fun. I would be so nervous.
post #25 of 152
Just a small question are any of you using internet dating sites?
Dating services, meet up groups? Or just old fashioned getting out there.
My friend asked me to go to a singles dance (probably too early for me but I might go and 'wingwoman' it for her) are they just something to have a giggle about or?

Its been so long for me I am wondering how to approach it when I am ready
and how do you do those introductions hi my name is Shiloh I have three kids and two ex's... I am still young enough (32) that many people my age are only starting to think about kids and I've got the minivan half filled....(if I owned a vehicle)
post #26 of 152
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okay you guys.

I'm positively cringing. I have sort of forged a relationship with a good (very good) friend of mine. He seems perfect in every way except he has poverty consciousness (among other things). He lives in a really poor manner and rationalizes continually taking money from the government. FTR I find nothing wrong with welfare, food stamps, etc...I could use some help myself but I make *just* above the income that you need to make. He has only just found a job that he seems to want to keep, he likes it and it pays well. He even has insurance now. The thing is that he wants to continue living the way he is. rent free, food stamps, education and accesories paid for, etc. IMO, government help is for those who need it, not those who can scam the system and take it. It irks me so much. He usually doesn't keep a job for missing too many days due to his asthma. He is a landscaper and is okay around all of the allergens, stress brings it on (he says) I guess I believe him. I had no reason to be so irked by it until we took our relationship into the romantic realm. Now every little thing is bothering me

He really talks with his hands, I just want to hit them down, I cringe and don't hear what he says bc I'm too distracted.

He sometimes has bad breath

OMG, there are so many little, superficial things that are making me want to crawl out of my skin.

Why oh why did I let him kiss me??? I should've known.

I felt differently about it before, he met all of my criteria for a partner (I forgot to add 'must not irritate me so' ) well, except that I wanted a prosperous partner (not a 'rich man', but someone who sees money as an energy exchange, and doesn't always feel lacking)

I've really fallen off of the wagon here ladies, I'm back on now but I now have to break the news to him, I'm not looking forward to that. I won't mention that he is driving me crazy, I will just tell him that it is just not working for me and I'd like to take our relationship and cut out the physical intimacy, remain friends, like we were.

This is the same friend that I said a while back that I needed to clear a bit out of my every day life to allow the right man to enter. I feel so stupid....I need to forgive myself and move on, I know that, but that is where I am right now
post #27 of 152
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Originally Posted by Shiloh View Post
Just a small question are any of you using internet dating sites?
Dating services, meet up groups? Or just old fashioned getting out there.
I've done a little of everything...online, blind dates, meeting people at functions, etc.
post #28 of 152
Beloved

Lesson learned. Take what you can from the situation and move forward.

Now you have a better idea of what you DON'T want, which makes it easier to create what you DO want.
post #29 of 152
My online dating has been slow (which is good) but largely uninteresting (which is okay too). No one really piques my interest at the moment...but, that's okay too. I've had a zillion things to do lately and the next month or two are insanely busy. Mr. Pretty-Darn-Great will arrive in due time!
post #30 of 152
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I don't have much time for dating these days either. see the thread about my son I am just consumed with preparing for a March dance performance (I did the choreography) When I am asked out, there is actually no time...oh well...I trust in mr. 'pretty darn great' to come in good time too
post #31 of 152
Beloved, that sucks. It's a bit funny, though, as well. Just the way you describe how he is driving you crazy...

Dating: go out with friends. Meet new single friends who go out, and tag along. Strike up interesting conversations with attractive people. Try not to be shy! As far as internet dating, I'm on myspace... not a week goes by that I don't get a few messages from interesting, not scary people. I've not pursued anything there as more than friends, but still. This stuff always works for me. Although, I'm beginning to think that it is just easier to date in the queer community. Therefore, my advice is pretty useless...
post #32 of 152
glad to see that you are all keeping hope alive for Mr. Great.

I never had any problems dating before (other than I wasn't as picky as I should have been I am outgoing and meet people its just meeting romantic types of people...its been a while! Blind dates... lol its never the person you meet you are afraid of rejecting its the friend that set you up with them.. what were they thinking... I've just been a stay at home mom that the people I tend to meet are well moms and people moms meet aka not usually single, employed people. Oh and need tips for introduction line (how three kids 2 exs and no job won't scare the crap out of some guy I may actually go with a friend to her jdate thing tomorrow... just to see how things are...
test the waters...

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Although, I'm beginning to think that it is just easier to date in the queer community. Therefore, my advice is pretty useless
lol no not at all, meeting people is meeting people period, but you are saying its easier to meet a woman than a man? thats interesting
post #33 of 152
I can never keep up with this thread.. I'm sorry!!

I do want to say something exciting though - I get to see Chris tomorrow! Whee!
post #34 of 152

2 more weeks! 2 more weeks!!

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post #35 of 152
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I can never keep up with this thread.. I'm sorry!!

I do want to say something exciting though - I get to see Chris tomorrow! Whee!
Kerry, you should sub to this thread, then you won't get lost
post #36 of 152
I do sub to it. : By the time I'm done updating the Dharma co op thread (which is insanity) and then the Journal Swap stuff I end up just reading here and there and occasionally posting.

My grandmother is trying to set me up with a guy from her church. Does that sound terrible?? I'm going to contact him though, should I call him or e mail him? "Hi, yes, you talked to my grandmother at church.. she didn't tell you her name or mine, so I'm Kerry." :
post #37 of 152
i always foret to find the new thread when the month changes.

today is ds's birthday and the guy i have been kind of seeing is going to come to the party. so is my ex's girlfriend that he just moved in with this week. but not my ex!!!!!!! : wish me luck i will explain later but just wanted to read this thread before i launch into all the cake baking and birthday nuttiness. a small respite before the storm!


ughghghghghgg i didnt submit this post, and now its about 30 minutes after i wrote the above paragraph. my ex just dropped ds off and said to me " could you do me a favor and be nice to Emily when she comes to teh pary??" i was like FUMING at the implication that i will be anything but polite to her. i just dont UNDERSTAND the reasoning behind setting up such an awkward situation. i told him she doesnt have to go if she is so "nervous" like he says. he said she is going " for ds" becvcvasuse she is "his friend." but i am like ummmmm you guys just had ds all day on his birthday , she could have made an adult decistion and told ds that she couldnt make it and do something specail for him on her own since she now LIVES with my ex its not like she couldnt, and they just had thier own bday celebration this morning.....it makes NO SENSE to force such an awkward situation and i am not going to concern myself with her nervousness or shyness.


blah ok this rant deserves its own thread and i have cake in the oven

:rolling eyes
post #38 of 152
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Originally Posted by stirringleaf View Post
i have cake in the oven
did you mean 'bun'?
post #39 of 152
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Originally Posted by BelovedK View Post
did you mean 'bun'?
BELOVEDK DONT EVEN JOKE.


this is you ------->:


this is me---------->





post #40 of 152
Hey, it is the dating thread! There's bun karma all over here! Look at Jillian and Jster!
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