I just wanted to let you know that I'm checking your blog and pulling for you. I think it's brave to post pics and ask for feedback, and I applaud your efforts. I also think it's important to do this for your kids, who will only learn how to live from you!
Take it one step at a time, one room at a time. Don't worry about decorations or projects or anything beyond obtaining regular, consistent view of the floor and surfaces, in one room at a time. I would make a zone schedule (have you read the FlyLady site?) and tackle it bit by bit. Mondays you clean one zone, Tuesdays the next, etc...it will take several weeks but in the end it will work if you stick to it.
I'll be checking your blog and wishing you well!